i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to the HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear hiphop glam clothesDating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
how would dating people ''in the hood'; or in the ';ghetto'; be any different then from dating anyone from anywhere else ?Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
HELLO, LOOK I HAVE A 15 YEAR OLD AND I KNOW WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT. BUT REALLY IF YOU WILL REALLY THINK ABOUT IT YOU ARE TO YOUNG TO THINK ABOUT DATING AND REALLY YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT YOUR EDUCATION AND GOING TO COLEGE AND BE A GOOD PRESON BUT IM NOT SAYING YOU CANT HAVE A GIRLFREIND BUT DATING I WOULDNT THINK ABOUT IT REIGHT NOW YOU HAVE A GOOD EDUCATION AHEAD OF YOU LIKE I TELL MY STRAIGHT A SON WHO IS YOUR AGE AND HE IS REALIZING THAT LITTLE GIRLS CAN GET YOU IN ALOT OF TROUBLE JUST THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU DO IT AND IF I WAS YOU I WOULD CONCENTRATE ON MY EDUCATION LIKE I TOLD MY SOON GOOD LUCK
Friday, April 30, 2010
Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to the HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear like ghetto glam clothes usually (always have)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
if only you were a rich iranian like me
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear like ghetto glam clothes usually (always have)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
if only you were a rich iranian like me
Need advice from people who r divorce?
im going thro a divorce prossces..the pain in my heart is killing me..Im missing him im missing my house :( Im in NY now wit my family and he is in CA.. im just so lost.. there is an emptyness in my heart..i dont know wat to do how can i get over him..I dont wana go back to him I had a tough life wit him..sometimes i talk to him because of our divocre paper works and all that and every time i talk to him i cry and i curse him on the phone for distorying my life..then later i feel guilty..he made me suffer alot and i still care for him. I dont know it seems impossible for me to forget him and move on.. I wana know alil about ur divocre experinces..Need advice from people who r divorce?
Big hugs to you! It hurts like he## I know. I am going through the same thing. I try to tell myself to look forward and don't look back. I try to think of other things when I wake up after dreaming about him. Remember how JERKY he is! Remember with forgiveness the reasons that got you here. Your marriage is broken and you are only temporarily broken. Time will heal. HUGGGS. Get lots of support from your family. They can help you bear this heavy burden. Get out and connect to nature... and other things that are constant. They say this is a good book to help you. I ordered it and plan to read it. The other ones just depressed me. Let's try this one: Leaving Him Behind: Cutting the Cord and Breaking Free After the Marriage Ends by Sandra S. Kahn.
You are not alone.Need advice from people who r divorce?
I'm not divorced yet, but I know that time heals everything! The thoughts and memories will always be there but the heart wrenching pain you feel now will subside. I compare my pain as almost ( not quite, but almost) as bad as the death of a family member. When you love someone so much and all of the sudden they aren't there anymore it's horrible! But believe me it will get better! I promise! Just try to start a new life and be happy! good luck! Focus on the present and the future not the past!
If he is not willing to work things out and get help then you need to move on. No man is worth the pain your going through. Divorce takes time to heal.
You need to pick yourself up find some friends go out on the town %26amp; have a good time to get your mind off Ca at some point you will meet someone else %26amp; forget all about your ex
Big hugs to you! It hurts like he## I know. I am going through the same thing. I try to tell myself to look forward and don't look back. I try to think of other things when I wake up after dreaming about him. Remember how JERKY he is! Remember with forgiveness the reasons that got you here. Your marriage is broken and you are only temporarily broken. Time will heal. HUGGGS. Get lots of support from your family. They can help you bear this heavy burden. Get out and connect to nature... and other things that are constant. They say this is a good book to help you. I ordered it and plan to read it. The other ones just depressed me. Let's try this one: Leaving Him Behind: Cutting the Cord and Breaking Free After the Marriage Ends by Sandra S. Kahn.
You are not alone.Need advice from people who r divorce?
I'm not divorced yet, but I know that time heals everything! The thoughts and memories will always be there but the heart wrenching pain you feel now will subside. I compare my pain as almost ( not quite, but almost) as bad as the death of a family member. When you love someone so much and all of the sudden they aren't there anymore it's horrible! But believe me it will get better! I promise! Just try to start a new life and be happy! good luck! Focus on the present and the future not the past!
If he is not willing to work things out and get help then you need to move on. No man is worth the pain your going through. Divorce takes time to heal.
You need to pick yourself up find some friends go out on the town %26amp; have a good time to get your mind off Ca at some point you will meet someone else %26amp; forget all about your ex
Relationship advice? From people over the age of 21 please? ?
About 3 months ago i started seeing this guy, i'd just got out of a long term relationship so wasn't looking for much and he said he didn't want a relationship which was fine by me. We have seen each other once or twice a week since then (apart for about 3 weeks over christmas when we were both busy with family stuff) When i asked why he didnt want a relationship he said he doesn't want to have to answer to anyone as women always try control men. Well now i have much stronger feelings for him, and i'd like to take things further, maybe commit a bit more. I know the reason he doesn't want a relationship is becuase he doesn't like being controlled, but i'm not like that atal, it doesn't bother me if he goes away on boys holidays and stuff without me, i don't expect him to answer to me in anyway shape or form, I just don't like the thought of him being with anyone else, and i'd like the company that comes with a relationship, i own my own flat, he does his too, so its not like i'm in any rush to move in with him... I just don't know how to broach this subject, i know he likes me, i know he cares about me. I'm just wondering what all your opinions are? should i just leave it now before i get in too deep? should i speak to him? How do i speak to him?Relationship advice? From people over the age of 21 please? ?
I would lay it all down on the table explain to him how you would want the relationship to be (using similar to what you have just explained to us) with both of you having independence etc. Then gauge his reaction- if it still I don't want to commit/take things further then I suggest to you that this is not a good match and you should walk away with your head held high.
Good luck.Relationship advice? From people over the age of 21 please? ?
Basically, you're already in a relationship based upon how much time you spend together.
Don't bring up the subject yet; just prove to him you're NOT controlling, you WON'T hold him back and you'll be supportive of him - then he'll naturally realise you're what he wants.
Talking about 'issues' always compounds problems IMO, just take actions to change the circumstances that are arising.
He made his intentions clear. If you can't go on with that, then you need to get out.
If you want a relationship, don't go sleeping with a guy who doesn't. Set your standards and live by them. It's better to alone for a while, then miserable for years.
hey! basically what u need to do is memories everything u just typed and say it to him! u have a good way with words and if i was that guy and u said to me what u just types i would be sure to let u in a little bit more!
good luck and hope things work out ur way!
He has given you his answer. Leave now... He opened the door for you now hold your head up high, be a big girl and walk through it. Go Go Go, now.
i dunno
I don't know.
idk
When i met my fiancee (5 months ago) i was in a similar position to your man. I felt reluctant to enter a relationship because of my personel experiences with relationships being brilliant at first and sour at the end (and it was always the woman's fault)
It only took me about 3-4 weeks to fully love my girl and this was purely out of my control coz i felt she was my soul mate and i could actually picture us being together forever. i didnt just jump in though i did think about it for quite a while (without letting my feelings properly known to my other half straight away).
From a guys point of view we need to feel secure enough to commit and know intrinsically that the woman loves us with purity and nothing else.
Im not trying to be BIG or anything but before i met my fiancee i had been out with a LOT of girls but this one sparked something i had never felt before as i could truly say that i love her without hesatating or stuttering or thinking about it. It was really wierd but felt sooooo right.
Were getting married in a years time after weve both graduated.
Im 22 in march
I would not end it right now, this is something that the teo of you need to discuss. I would have a serious conversation with him, and just ask him how he feels. Tell him that you are interested in moving beyond the level you are at, and ask him what he means when he says he doesn't want to be controlled. If you can both discuss it and come to a compromise, you have beaten one of the biggest hurdles in relationships. Ask him if he is happy enough with you to commit to not seeing any other people. Tell him that you enjoy his company, and would like more of it, but not all of it. When my wife and I got serious, we agreed that there would be two days a week that we would not see each other, and not talk on the phone. There would be no answering for our actions on those days, we did whatever we wanted. The only rule was that we were not allowed to see other people, IE, cheating. Something like this might be a good starting ground for you both. If you are that interested in him, talk about it with him, but if he shuns any further commitment at all, or is unwilling to compromise, move on, and don't look back.
advise from a bloke here. its good you understand and respect his point of view,if he chooses not to commit further then lets face it theres nothing you can do.but he must have some feelings for you otherwise he wouldn't meet you a couple of times a week{unless of course its just for sex,which you didn't elaborate on} you said you'd like the company that comes with a relationship,suggest maybe meeting an extra night a week? he says that he doesn't want to be controlled,which sounds like he has had a controlling relationship.ask him about his previous experience so ye can talk about it openly rather than you playing guessing games about what he wants from you.when you learn what his insecurities are reassure him that ye wont have that type of relationship.and prove that to him slowly over time.its all about communication.if ye dont have some degree of communication after three months then is it really working out? lastly,you said you dont like the idea of him being with someone else.i think after three months that goes without saying!
otherwise its really not worth it! best of luck and hope it works out for ye.
Well you just got our of a long term relationship. He obviously has some bitterness with woman at this point. I think you should try spending a little more time with him first. See where things go. Maybe see if he starts to make more of a move for you. If not maybe then ask him where he sees you two going. Just a random though. See what he has to say and see if he is into you. If not then do not tell him your feelings. Just say okay. I see this is not going to go anywhere and I would rather just be friends then let any feelings get in the way.
You will also see that your feelings are more of the fact that you want that comfortability that you had when you were in your relationship. You should stay single for a little while longer.
Just because someones over 21 doesnt mean they know everything.
Im 18 years old and Id say tell him how you feel and leave it at that.
If he doesnt want you knowing how you and him could be, you should move on.
He sounds to me as though hes had a bad past with women because why else would he believe women control men. I hate the women who do this to men.
it sounds as though your already in quite deep. Dont say anything for a while, SHOW him your not controlling as you are now as actions speak louder than words.
If the controlling thing is the only reason why he doesnt want a relationship, he should be fine. If it goes much deeper maybe you should leave it now.
I would speak to him face to face, that way you can see his expressions, tone of voice etc.
I am in the exact same situation as you. We talked about getting into a serious relationship but he said he didn't want anything too serious. We meet up regularly and get on really well so i'm not sure where we stand. I think just some guys don't like being tied down or are more independent. I don't know if this helps but iv decided to stick with him for another while because i really like him and like spending time with him and really there's not much wrong with the situation as it is. I'm hoping that he will realise that i'm not expecting his full attention 24hrs a day. There's nothing to lose by just seeing how things go! Good luck
(';,)cool mask
I would lay it all down on the table explain to him how you would want the relationship to be (using similar to what you have just explained to us) with both of you having independence etc. Then gauge his reaction- if it still I don't want to commit/take things further then I suggest to you that this is not a good match and you should walk away with your head held high.
Good luck.Relationship advice? From people over the age of 21 please? ?
Basically, you're already in a relationship based upon how much time you spend together.
Don't bring up the subject yet; just prove to him you're NOT controlling, you WON'T hold him back and you'll be supportive of him - then he'll naturally realise you're what he wants.
Talking about 'issues' always compounds problems IMO, just take actions to change the circumstances that are arising.
He made his intentions clear. If you can't go on with that, then you need to get out.
If you want a relationship, don't go sleeping with a guy who doesn't. Set your standards and live by them. It's better to alone for a while, then miserable for years.
hey! basically what u need to do is memories everything u just typed and say it to him! u have a good way with words and if i was that guy and u said to me what u just types i would be sure to let u in a little bit more!
good luck and hope things work out ur way!
He has given you his answer. Leave now... He opened the door for you now hold your head up high, be a big girl and walk through it. Go Go Go, now.
i dunno
I don't know.
idk
When i met my fiancee (5 months ago) i was in a similar position to your man. I felt reluctant to enter a relationship because of my personel experiences with relationships being brilliant at first and sour at the end (and it was always the woman's fault)
It only took me about 3-4 weeks to fully love my girl and this was purely out of my control coz i felt she was my soul mate and i could actually picture us being together forever. i didnt just jump in though i did think about it for quite a while (without letting my feelings properly known to my other half straight away).
From a guys point of view we need to feel secure enough to commit and know intrinsically that the woman loves us with purity and nothing else.
Im not trying to be BIG or anything but before i met my fiancee i had been out with a LOT of girls but this one sparked something i had never felt before as i could truly say that i love her without hesatating or stuttering or thinking about it. It was really wierd but felt sooooo right.
Were getting married in a years time after weve both graduated.
Im 22 in march
I would not end it right now, this is something that the teo of you need to discuss. I would have a serious conversation with him, and just ask him how he feels. Tell him that you are interested in moving beyond the level you are at, and ask him what he means when he says he doesn't want to be controlled. If you can both discuss it and come to a compromise, you have beaten one of the biggest hurdles in relationships. Ask him if he is happy enough with you to commit to not seeing any other people. Tell him that you enjoy his company, and would like more of it, but not all of it. When my wife and I got serious, we agreed that there would be two days a week that we would not see each other, and not talk on the phone. There would be no answering for our actions on those days, we did whatever we wanted. The only rule was that we were not allowed to see other people, IE, cheating. Something like this might be a good starting ground for you both. If you are that interested in him, talk about it with him, but if he shuns any further commitment at all, or is unwilling to compromise, move on, and don't look back.
advise from a bloke here. its good you understand and respect his point of view,if he chooses not to commit further then lets face it theres nothing you can do.but he must have some feelings for you otherwise he wouldn't meet you a couple of times a week{unless of course its just for sex,which you didn't elaborate on} you said you'd like the company that comes with a relationship,suggest maybe meeting an extra night a week? he says that he doesn't want to be controlled,which sounds like he has had a controlling relationship.ask him about his previous experience so ye can talk about it openly rather than you playing guessing games about what he wants from you.when you learn what his insecurities are reassure him that ye wont have that type of relationship.and prove that to him slowly over time.its all about communication.if ye dont have some degree of communication after three months then is it really working out? lastly,you said you dont like the idea of him being with someone else.i think after three months that goes without saying!
otherwise its really not worth it! best of luck and hope it works out for ye.
Well you just got our of a long term relationship. He obviously has some bitterness with woman at this point. I think you should try spending a little more time with him first. See where things go. Maybe see if he starts to make more of a move for you. If not maybe then ask him where he sees you two going. Just a random though. See what he has to say and see if he is into you. If not then do not tell him your feelings. Just say okay. I see this is not going to go anywhere and I would rather just be friends then let any feelings get in the way.
You will also see that your feelings are more of the fact that you want that comfortability that you had when you were in your relationship. You should stay single for a little while longer.
Just because someones over 21 doesnt mean they know everything.
Im 18 years old and Id say tell him how you feel and leave it at that.
If he doesnt want you knowing how you and him could be, you should move on.
He sounds to me as though hes had a bad past with women because why else would he believe women control men. I hate the women who do this to men.
it sounds as though your already in quite deep. Dont say anything for a while, SHOW him your not controlling as you are now as actions speak louder than words.
If the controlling thing is the only reason why he doesnt want a relationship, he should be fine. If it goes much deeper maybe you should leave it now.
I would speak to him face to face, that way you can see his expressions, tone of voice etc.
I am in the exact same situation as you. We talked about getting into a serious relationship but he said he didn't want anything too serious. We meet up regularly and get on really well so i'm not sure where we stand. I think just some guys don't like being tied down or are more independent. I don't know if this helps but iv decided to stick with him for another while because i really like him and like spending time with him and really there's not much wrong with the situation as it is. I'm hoping that he will realise that i'm not expecting his full attention 24hrs a day. There's nothing to lose by just seeing how things go! Good luck
(';,)
Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
Ok, last week my boss Vincent and coworkers all got together and told me they thought I needed psychological help. This is so not true!!!
They’ve been leading up to this all along. Like yesterday when they told me that I was going to get an intervention, at first they said that I was going to get to “enter Vincent.” But when I said “ENTER VINCENT?!?” they changed it to “get an intervention.” Very funny, NOT.
Once he said that he was comfortable that I “had his backside orifice”, then changed it to confident I had his “back in the office.”
So now all of a sudden, I’m supposedly “paranoid and sexually obsessed with my boss?” That totally floored me! I mean, Vincent looks and sounds almost exactly like a 10 year younger version of my dad! How could I be sexually obscene with him?!? I mean, I love my dad, but 10 yrs ago it seems like all he did was paddle me when he caught me whacking off.
Any ideas why are they trying so hard to get me into trouble?';Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
Man those idiots have it out for you. My big, phine, muscle-man boss once told me ';Hey, I'm lubed up and ready for you,'; and when I said WHAT??? he changed it to ';Go put this in the accounts pending file.';
I'd go to personnel if I was you. Dude, that stuff ain'f fair.Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
It sounds like you are subcounciouslly into your boss. Its ok though, everyone gets crushes.
';Obscene'; says it all... :-P
They know that the boss likes you best and they are trying to figure out how to get in his good graces
While I don't believe your story, I do agree that you need some help - so listen to those voices
Good luck
I suggest that you have become overly enamored with your own cleverness.
An intervention may be necessary.
It's the oedipus complex... only backwards.
I think they are just messing with you. If it really bothers you talk to your co-workers about it. If they keep messing with you talk to your boss's boss. This is harassment, and you have a right to feel comfortable in your workplace.
I have this problem all the time. Just because I wear a bunny suit does NOT mean I'm fair game in the office. Seriously. And when I catch them starting at my tail they turn around and act like I'M the obsessed one.
I agree with you. Just tell them to ask you out like normal people. I love my dad too.
Maybe they're just jealous of the ';close'; relationship you share with your father. LOL @ Sophia.
They’ve been leading up to this all along. Like yesterday when they told me that I was going to get an intervention, at first they said that I was going to get to “enter Vincent.” But when I said “ENTER VINCENT?!?” they changed it to “get an intervention.” Very funny, NOT.
Once he said that he was comfortable that I “had his backside orifice”, then changed it to confident I had his “back in the office.”
So now all of a sudden, I’m supposedly “paranoid and sexually obsessed with my boss?” That totally floored me! I mean, Vincent looks and sounds almost exactly like a 10 year younger version of my dad! How could I be sexually obscene with him?!? I mean, I love my dad, but 10 yrs ago it seems like all he did was paddle me when he caught me whacking off.
Any ideas why are they trying so hard to get me into trouble?';Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
Man those idiots have it out for you. My big, phine, muscle-man boss once told me ';Hey, I'm lubed up and ready for you,'; and when I said WHAT??? he changed it to ';Go put this in the accounts pending file.';
I'd go to personnel if I was you. Dude, that stuff ain'f fair.Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
It sounds like you are subcounciouslly into your boss. Its ok though, everyone gets crushes.
';Obscene'; says it all... :-P
They know that the boss likes you best and they are trying to figure out how to get in his good graces
While I don't believe your story, I do agree that you need some help - so listen to those voices
Good luck
I suggest that you have become overly enamored with your own cleverness.
An intervention may be necessary.
It's the oedipus complex... only backwards.
I think they are just messing with you. If it really bothers you talk to your co-workers about it. If they keep messing with you talk to your boss's boss. This is harassment, and you have a right to feel comfortable in your workplace.
I have this problem all the time. Just because I wear a bunny suit does NOT mean I'm fair game in the office. Seriously. And when I catch them starting at my tail they turn around and act like I'M the obsessed one.
I agree with you. Just tell them to ask you out like normal people. I love my dad too.
Maybe they're just jealous of the ';close'; relationship you share with your father. LOL @ Sophia.
Need Advice From People Who Been This?
How Do I Stay/Get On The Right Path- I finished high school 2-3 months later into college-its not go to good, i stay with my mom but trying to find a good job to get my own place, while i was working and going to school I got 2-5 hours of sleep a day, my mom is depending on me to pay 2-4 hundred a month on bills, dont get me wrong i want to but its hardNeed Advice From People Who Been This?
I'm actually going through something similar right now. My mom has a terminal illness so I'm taking care of my two sisters and little brother. I don't have a job right now because time does not allow for it. I'm stuck in a house taking care of kids that aren't mine. I don't have my own allowance. I cook the food, I do the laundry. Basically I'm being the mom. I know it gets frustrating, but it just depends on you and your morals. I know there has been times when I just wanted to get the h*ll out of here, but I realize that I don't have anywhere to go to.
So what you could try to do is stay with your mom for a bit longer, save up money, even if you only take out $20 from a paycheck. Know what you want to do. If you're still in college you could always get financial aid. So hang in there. You're going the best you can and no one can do better than that.Need Advice From People Who Been This?
your mom expects way too much, you can live cheaper on your own
More info, please. Is your mom working? Is the $200-400/month considered rent, or does she just want you to pay her bills for her?
You're young and have a great future ahead of you. You are dedicated and smart. You need to focus on taking care of yourself and finishing school - do what you need to do to accomplish that, because you will really regret dropping out. You just need to focus on your goals. Your Mom is a grown up and can take care of herself (and if she can't, there are agencies that can help her).
Even if you were living on your own, you can't live any place for $200-400 a month. I think your mom is doing you a favor really, preparing you for the next step; which is living on your own. Between rent, utilities, phone, car, insurance, groceries, etc. That amount hardly covers it. How much are your moms expenses a month?
I'm actually going through something similar right now. My mom has a terminal illness so I'm taking care of my two sisters and little brother. I don't have a job right now because time does not allow for it. I'm stuck in a house taking care of kids that aren't mine. I don't have my own allowance. I cook the food, I do the laundry. Basically I'm being the mom. I know it gets frustrating, but it just depends on you and your morals. I know there has been times when I just wanted to get the h*ll out of here, but I realize that I don't have anywhere to go to.
So what you could try to do is stay with your mom for a bit longer, save up money, even if you only take out $20 from a paycheck. Know what you want to do. If you're still in college you could always get financial aid. So hang in there. You're going the best you can and no one can do better than that.Need Advice From People Who Been This?
your mom expects way too much, you can live cheaper on your own
More info, please. Is your mom working? Is the $200-400/month considered rent, or does she just want you to pay her bills for her?
You're young and have a great future ahead of you. You are dedicated and smart. You need to focus on taking care of yourself and finishing school - do what you need to do to accomplish that, because you will really regret dropping out. You just need to focus on your goals. Your Mom is a grown up and can take care of herself (and if she can't, there are agencies that can help her).
Even if you were living on your own, you can't live any place for $200-400 a month. I think your mom is doing you a favor really, preparing you for the next step; which is living on your own. Between rent, utilities, phone, car, insurance, groceries, etc. That amount hardly covers it. How much are your moms expenses a month?
Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
Well recently I met this girl in school and I managed to get her number yesterday, I was thinking about calling her and inviting her to come with me to go to a school play which will show in 2 weeks from now. I was wondering when I should call her to ask and whether or not I should call her earlier this week just to talk. I'm not sure if she likes me or not so i might be nervous or feel embarrassed if i get rejected.
If I should call her before asking her to go with me to the school play, I need some topics to talk about with her that will keep her interested and make it easy for her to give her opinion.
I appreciate all of the help given to me GREATLY thanks for taking your time to respond to me.Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
There's been some really great advice here, so I'll just add: make sure the conversation is two way, listening and talking. Don't push her to talk about anything too personal.
Don't talk about exs, good or bad. Let the past be the past. Also try to avoid being negative about anything for too long.
You can talk about school, TV shows, movies, hobbies. Just stuff that you both do in life. Don't let the conversation go on too long. I do think you should call in the next day or two to say hi, then call a couple of days after to invite her to the play: don't wait very long cause she might make other plans for that night! Women appreciate it if a guy gives them enough time ahead of a date.
And if she does turn you down, but seems nice: don't take it as a rejection: she might acutally have something else to do. Ask her one more time after that on a date, with plenty of notice (a week or more, ask what's a good time for her), and if she turns you down then, move on to greener pastures.
And rejection has nothing to do with you; different folks like different types. But I have to agree with the other poster who said that if she gave you her number, she probably already likes you!
Good luck and have fun at the play!Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
Ok hereswhat you do call her and talk to her at school possible topics A teacher that no one likes, a assignment, throw some really funny jokes (and not like knock knock jokes like funny boservations get it) every girls into a funny guy, just casual stuff become accquaintances find out what she likes and then you can talk about that and if it's going good ask her a couple days before the play good luck
Don't call right away or it makes you look desperate. She gave you her number so that means she likes you a litttle already. Try talking to her again in school one day and then if that goes well, call her a few days after that and invite her to the play. If you're ever stuck on how to talk to her just ask her questions about herself. It's the easiest topic for anyone to talk about.
ok if u think ull get to nervous txt her 2 days before the show so she dont forget and u dont got to go threw all the trouble in reminding her.
and if u got her house number call her and be straight forward
If I could go back in time, to where I was shy and afraid of rejection-- I'd kick myself. School is so much easier to deal with than any other time (in my opinion). It's a time of practicing with relationships before the REAL thing. Just call her up and ask her now, so that she can leave that date open to go with you. There's a lot you guys could talk about. Ask what she's been up to lately. If you guys want to go hang out at the mall (use Christmas shopping as an excuse, and you need a girl's input on what to get a family member, for example), etc. While at the mall, pay for her lunch (she'll think you're so sweet for this), etc. Good luck-- and RELAX!
If I should call her before asking her to go with me to the school play, I need some topics to talk about with her that will keep her interested and make it easy for her to give her opinion.
I appreciate all of the help given to me GREATLY thanks for taking your time to respond to me.Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
There's been some really great advice here, so I'll just add: make sure the conversation is two way, listening and talking. Don't push her to talk about anything too personal.
Don't talk about exs, good or bad. Let the past be the past. Also try to avoid being negative about anything for too long.
You can talk about school, TV shows, movies, hobbies. Just stuff that you both do in life. Don't let the conversation go on too long. I do think you should call in the next day or two to say hi, then call a couple of days after to invite her to the play: don't wait very long cause she might make other plans for that night! Women appreciate it if a guy gives them enough time ahead of a date.
And if she does turn you down, but seems nice: don't take it as a rejection: she might acutally have something else to do. Ask her one more time after that on a date, with plenty of notice (a week or more, ask what's a good time for her), and if she turns you down then, move on to greener pastures.
And rejection has nothing to do with you; different folks like different types. But I have to agree with the other poster who said that if she gave you her number, she probably already likes you!
Good luck and have fun at the play!Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
Ok hereswhat you do call her and talk to her at school possible topics A teacher that no one likes, a assignment, throw some really funny jokes (and not like knock knock jokes like funny boservations get it) every girls into a funny guy, just casual stuff become accquaintances find out what she likes and then you can talk about that and if it's going good ask her a couple days before the play good luck
Don't call right away or it makes you look desperate. She gave you her number so that means she likes you a litttle already. Try talking to her again in school one day and then if that goes well, call her a few days after that and invite her to the play. If you're ever stuck on how to talk to her just ask her questions about herself. It's the easiest topic for anyone to talk about.
ok if u think ull get to nervous txt her 2 days before the show so she dont forget and u dont got to go threw all the trouble in reminding her.
and if u got her house number call her and be straight forward
If I could go back in time, to where I was shy and afraid of rejection-- I'd kick myself. School is so much easier to deal with than any other time (in my opinion). It's a time of practicing with relationships before the REAL thing. Just call her up and ask her now, so that she can leave that date open to go with you. There's a lot you guys could talk about. Ask what she's been up to lately. If you guys want to go hang out at the mall (use Christmas shopping as an excuse, and you need a girl's input on what to get a family member, for example), etc. While at the mall, pay for her lunch (she'll think you're so sweet for this), etc. Good luck-- and RELAX!
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