Do you give people advice based on what you think you know, or what you actually know from experience?

I hear a lot of people giving advice who sound as if they are just repeating what they have been told, things such as: cheating- ';it is wrong';





Do you know what it is like if you have never cheated or been cheated on? Are you really in a position to ';give advice'; on some topics if you have never experienced them?





A lot of poeple come to YA to try and find other people they can relate their experiences to, hence the categories for discussion.





I think some people need to keep their inexperienced opinions to themselves.





So, do you give advice based on what you think you know, or what you know you know?Do you give people advice based on what you think you know, or what you actually know from experience?
On what I know - I Know Im over 50 years old and have been around the block several times!!!!!Do you give people advice based on what you think you know, or what you actually know from experience?
From experience and research.
based on personal experience. i think most people can tell who is full of it and who is answering seriously. isn't YA about opinions anyway?
Mostly from experience.
both.
A lot of the stuff that people think they know, they know from experience, either their own or other peoples' that they have observed or heard about. I don't think you can draw a line between the two very easily.
I give advice on what I know. I've been cheated on and I've done the cheating. He did it first, haha that sounded kinda childish haha





I can probably relate to just about anything asked. If I don't know it I'll either say I don't know or just won't answer.





I'm honest w/ my answers and sometimes the truth will hurt! If I have an opinion I'll tell them, in my opinion.
I give advice mostly on topics that I can relate to. Situations I've been subjected to. And usually, most people on here don't like what I have to say. Especially when it comes to cheating, because I don't feel that it makes you a bad person, I feel that there is a reason as to why you cheated. I also don't believe in judging people or stereotyping. Just because Sally cheated on her husband doesn't mean she's a ****, to me there's more to Sally's story than I cheated on my husband, theres a reason behind it. So I totally agree, that some people should lay off certain categories here, and stop giving thumbs down to those of us who are genuinely trying to help.
i, myself only answer questions i relate to by experience. i've lived through far too much in life not to try to share my experiences, good or bad
People come to YA to get advice, opinions, and personal experiences....Some come so people will validate the decisions they have already made....If people didn't want their questions (problems) to be open then they would be better off speaking to someone in private, not posting them here ......


IMO you don't necessarily have to experience something to know something about it ..... As for saying cheating is wrong if you haven't been in that situation, you also don't have to rape or murder someone to know it's wrong .... People's opinions are not right or wrong, just their opinions .... Even if someone hasn't been in a certain situation doesn't mean they don't have beliefs, standards, or thoughts on the matter .......


Sometimes I base my answers on experience, sometimes on what I believe or what I have seen.....


If I don't want to know what people think I won't ask just as if I feel I don't have anything worthy to contribute to someone's question then I won't bother answering .....
i agree with you and especially about the cheating thing myself i am experienced with it and i know so i recognize those that are just blowing words out there mouths and its not helpful to the person looking for answers.
based on my personal experiences, not what others tell me.
NO ONE CAN GIVE ADVICE ON SOMETHING THEY HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED SO IF YOU DO NT HAVE FIRST HAND KNOWLEDGE THEN KEEP IT TO YOURSELF
Usually I'll give advice based on past experience or knowledge. If I'm guessing, I'll usually research it to get confirmation before posting.





My husband and I worked through infidelity early in our relationship, so I feel pretty qualified to answer questions about it. But since every individual is different, YMMV and my experience may not apply to someone else's situation.
i give all advice based on experience, on what i know I know and when i say cheating is wrong, its not only what the bible says, but its also happened to me, i was cheated on by my last live-in gf of 4yrs.


when i say real men/real women don't cheat, thats a proven fact. in my 46yrs of 2 marriages, 1 annulment and numerous girlfriends throughout the years despite having hundreds of chances i never cheated, never thought about it, never crossed my mind, just wouldn't do it because its wrong, it degrades the relationship as well as the loss of self respect, loss of respect to the partner and loss of committment to the relationship...again as i said i was cheated on, i know what it does 2 a relationship 4 a fact.





i pass up 2 many questions 2 say b'cause i don't know the answer nor do i have experience in the answer. in all of my relationships one thing all of them if asked would agree upon, that i speak the truth no matter who it hurts, i pull no punches, i call a spade a spade and i sleep well at night having done that...to me honesty is the best policy, and i have given you honesty in my answer here as well.





good luck and GOD bless.
I discuss things with mostly experience or how I would handle it if I were in their shoes.





I don't answer a lot of questions that seem like BS where people cannot put a coherent thought together or actually form a question.





I like to answer things as I see them happening to me, what I would like to hear or rather to get the advice that nobody says.





Yes there are some cliches about it, but I try to explain myself well, plus I always leave my e-mail open.
This is a great question. I answer alot of questions over on the Education area, about university admissions and grad school, and I am always amazed at the erroneous info people are giving! Someone will ask a highly technical question about a therapist's license and someone will take a guess and say ';well, in my opinion....'; and then give a completely wrong answer. And I have that degree, and work in my university's graduate school admission office, and I'm trying to give facts .....it's a little surreal sometimes...





And on here? I was cheated on by my husband of many years, who I adored, and he left me for her, the younger woman.





I wish I didn't have the real experience on that one, lemme tell ya, but sadly, I do.





Thanks for bringing up a great point, kiddo!
I give advise on subjects that I have experience in. I have been cheated on and it is wrong. I believe in being happy above all else and if you are not happy with me tell me so we both can move on. Do not let me believe that everything is great, do not make plans with me for the future and do not promise me things and then pull the rug out from under my feet. Nobody deserves that. Have the guts to be honest and the guts to go if that is what you want to do. I also try to give the best advise I can. I also answer how I would handle it or how I have handled that situation.
it depends on what the question is asking for and how i relate to it.


i havent cheated or been cheated on but i could only imagine what it would feel like.


i would be extremely devastated therefore i believe it is the wrong thing to do.


half the time, people asking about cheating are guys who are just wanting to get a rise out of you by being a pig or its women who are the mistress or the one thinking about having an affair with a married man who claim that they are not at fault or havent done anything wrong when the truth is that they themselves would never want their husbands to cheat etc.


other times, its women looking for support after finding out that they had been cheated on.





my father cheated on my mum and one of my husbands ex's cheated on him so i know its not a good thing to have gone through.





it all also depends on morals and values of the person who answers questions....


basically, if you dont like a response someone gives you, just deal with it.


dont worry about what others think of your situation, your the one living your life so do what makes you happy.





every one gets whats coming to them so just let it be.
From experience. Sometimes it looks like is not right, sometimes not even to myself it looks is right, but after living the experience or being looking how it works as a system from outside, I don't have any other choice than believe the results of the experience, regardless if I like them or not. In most cases it goes against common sense or what the majority likes to think.





Lets don't forget that even with proves the results can be proven wrong, in the past the earth has been proved to be the center of the universe, until someone came and demostrated it's wrong and since that moment a new way of seeing things started.





On today's date, we believe in the solar system, or the law of gravity. To have the law of gravity fail to many sounds impossible, or crazy, but looking at how things work, someone can come up at anytime and explain why things are like they are and show a situation where the law doesn't work and everyone is wrong. The ones who dare to give that possibility aren't the majority. People have a strong tendency to go or think in groups, anyone who dares to think different is on todays date considered weird, a weirdo or crazy. Same resistance can be found against knowledge or new ideas, like in the past, times where if you discover that the blood moves in the human body, they just kill you right away, because it was the right thing to do back in those days for the reasons they had to believe that.





It doesn't matter if someone gives an advice from experience or for what they think they know, both can be wrong, both can be right. We can all be wrong, we can all be right. The good thing, is the freedom of speach.
People who cheat will say anything prove that what they did was right and to shut their conscience up. They are the ones who hurt, just ask the ones who was hurt(the victims i mean) im sure they will tell whats wrong in ';it is wrong';. In YA people just post their opinions, if u think of them as ';inexperienced opinions'; then dont take them.
Personally - when I answer a question I answer from my own experience 99% of the time. That other 1% is what I have witnessed my friends or relatives go through. Witnessed as in I was there and saw things ... maybe not everything, but quite a lot.





Whether I experienced it or not - what worked for me and my situation may or may not work for anyone else. I can give advice, it's up to the asker to take it or leave it ... or even take some of it and change it around. The best advice is you know yourself, and you should know your spouse, better than any of the people here. Use your best judgment.





Most often people post questions here to vent - yes, I am sure they are looking for advice as well, but just being able to get it out in the open and find out they are ';not alone'; in their situation, makes them feel better able to deal with whatever problem they have.





Great Question - Blessings!