I have a tattoo on my upper back of wings with the chinese symbol for father for my dad who i nearly lost to a brain tumour. I got it to remind me how close i am to him and how much he means to me etc.
Anyway, what i need help with is this: At work, one of my collegues (one of these know it alls) has told me it looks s**t and, even though he is joking (apparently) it has made me doubt it even though i love it and what it means to me. All i can think when i see it now is ';if he even jokily says this, do other people think its true?';
I know i should love it and i do but its making me want to cover it up with something else and its really upsetting me. Any advice?Tattoo advice.... genuine people please, not rude people!!?
Hate to have to break this to you, Princess, (and I am really being straight up with you on this one) but you've got to get to be a little more thick-skinned. People are sometimes incredibly stupid when they run their mouths about other peoples ink. They are not really considering the fact that our ink is a part of us, a part of who we are. He probably opened his mouth without giving any real thought to it. People do it all the time. My attitude is, ';Who the fock are they, anyway? Fock 'em and feed 'em fish heads!'; I have ninety-plus hours of eye-poppin' skin art, and I really, really, DO understand. Take care, hon.Tattoo advice.... genuine people please, not rude people!!?
Don't listen to anyone who tells you its not nice because it is lovely and its personal and means something to you. You got it because it means something to you, not to please other people.
Don't cover it up just because of some silly person who mightn't like it as everyone has different tastes and what looks gorgeous to one person might be ugly to the other person. Be proud of it and show it off. :)
Hope this helps :)
Here's my advice. Get over it. Not everyone will like your tattoo. It all comes down to artistic preferences and tastes. Some people just don't like wings...and some think kanji and chinese symbols are lame.
I have a kanji symbol on my back and I like it and it's important to ME, so to heck with what other people think.
Oh people are so stupid sometimes, especially about tattoos. Just ignore him and if he does it again, tell him that the tattoo means something to you and that you find it very hateful that he is acting like such a child.
who cares if some smart **** don't like, at the end of the day as long as you like it, and the reason you had it done was for.
i love it never get it covered, your collegue dosnt know what hes on about he probaly has loads of complex tattoos or he has none and scared to get any
post a picture. DON'T cover it up though, if it does look like crap, there's a really good chance you can just get it fixed or embellished.
its a beautiful tattoo, and most of all if your happy with it sod other people!
I agree with the rest of the people. Everybody has always something to say. Are you going to arrange your life and body according to some random person's preference?
The world is full of unenlightened people that play the 'evil smart-***' game. Their combined IQs are not higher than a banana's. Next time he tells you that tell him what looks like **** is actually his face - and see if he comes back with a covered face the next day.
And anyway. You did it for your father. Is this idiot's opinion more important that your father's thoughts and emotions?
That bloke is an a** ole.
You are perhaps one of the most genuine people that have a tattoo and if you love it because it reminds you of your dad then forget his comment.
I too had my first tattoo in memory of my father when he passed over and its my tribute to him. I don't care what people think.
It doesn't matter what you do say or think you will always get one person that doesn't like or agree with you or what you do we are all different. To get it covered with something else will be a mistake cover ups always tend to look messy after a couple of years.
i have a tattoo of a demon crawling out of my shoulder blade. sometimes i wonder if it is bad or offensive....
i drew the picture myself while i was in jail, it represented a nightmare i had the first night i was there. when i got out i got it tattooed on my shoulder, to remind me of where i just was, and what i felt.
i don't care what anyone says to me about it, they can like it or hate it, think its disgusting or cool, i will never get rid of it or change it, it is a symbol to me, of something awful, if people don't like to see it, that's their problem, it symbolizes a piece of me.
remember when you got it, it had meaning, you got it to remember something, to symbolize a part of your life, your father,
keep it, don't let anyone tell you what to think about it it was your decision, you tell them, FU if you don't like my tattoo, it is art and an expression, and not everyone will agree, but you do, because you got it.
i think some people get tattoos for stupid reasons, to impress other people ect. and they regret it, but when it is for yourself, it is merely a representation of something that was true to you, you got it because you wanted to remember that time, how you felt, it will always be there to remind you.
If it is symbolic and meaningful to you, that you are able to look at it and be reminded of the reason you got it in the first place, its deserves its right to stay on your back :)
you got it cos you liked it right...who gives a damn about what some know it all thinks of it? does he know what it means to you, the story behind it? no.
Therefor his opinion of it is quite simply meaningless.
My advice to you is if you appreciate your tattoo the same way you did when you got it, then dont listen to anyone else.
Dont change things about you because someone else disapproves.
Sweet Princess...
It's not your tattoo you need to work on.
It's just one of those times, when we go
through a period, that we doubt ourselves,
on many levels. Just give it some time and
I'll bet it will all pass. You got it for a reason
and you love it...that's enough. If in a few
months, you still feel the same...that will
be the time to examine what the right step
is going to be. You will be a lot more sure
of just exactly what that is by them.
Good Luck...Relax and enjoy life, never try
to figure out others...Life is hard enough.
Recently i was thinking of getting a tattoo of my grandmothers signature. she is illiterate, all she has managed to write is a signature and that too it is wonky and it looks like the writing of a 5 year old. lol But it doesn't matter how it looks whats important is what the tattoo would mean to ME
. So what i'm saying is, stuff what other people say, this tattoo holds special significance to YOU. You didn't get it for other people but for YOURSELF to signify a special moment in YOUR life.
You are always going to be told thing like something personal about your appearance whether its good or not, but try and think how you felt when you had it done and what it symbolises to you,
you got it done for a reason and If you are really having doubts then you can always get opinions from different artists if you want to change it that badly
but you may find some wont touch it cause - [its other artists work]
I'm sure it doesn't look bad like I said you will have people who love some tattoos and hate others.
By getting a design or ideas from another artists you may feel you dont want to change it or you will to 'improve' how you feel about it.
good luck and I hope you chose the best - I think there is never any bad work done by tattoo artists just a bad idea - and yours DOESN'T sound like a bad idea :)
Friday, January 8, 2010
I need advice..from people who have actually been thru this kind of situation..?
i am 14..about to be 15..and there is a guy i have alot of feelings for..i am practically in love with him...he is a really great guy. he actually treats me right..and there is only one problem. he is 18..i don't know wut 2 do. should i just leave him alone and just be friends. or actually tell him how i feel about him and see were that goes?I need advice..from people who have actually been thru this kind of situation..?
Well you can tell him how you feel about him but you can be friend with him till your 17 then you can start kissing and haolding hands with him. But remember he is an adult and your a minor and if you have sex with him and someone finds out he will go to jail. SO be friends till your old enough.I need advice..from people who have actually been thru this kind of situation..?
wtf u are too young!!!!!! man yall gon have major problems!
no no no that's child molestation.
illegal
nasty
and he should know better. That is sick!!!!!
i understand you have a crush not love but nothing good will happen if you continue. . .
well unless you want to shelf your life and not amount to much . . . he's an adult your a child.
I dated guys that were in their 20's when I was 14 and 15. I turned out to be a very bitter person. I learned too much too quick an I regret it. I think you should slow down and find someone closer to your own age. I'm not giving you a hard time. I am still in my early 20's. Just a word of advice!
Wow Im in the same situation on Im older. I say tell him how you feel if you think he has some feelings for you.If not just stay friends. Its better to have friends then to lose him. Just play it out for awhile.And if he seems like he likes you go for it.
Before getting serious, bear in mind that you're a minor, and this could have serious consequences for both of you. For now, just maintain a friendship.
honestly leave him alone or he will try and take advantage of you sexually even if he is a nice guy, dont take that chance hope this helped, bye
You can't help your feelings, but I think he is too old for you.
let it go untill you are 18 and he can't get into trouble. Please leave him alone untill then if you really are about him. Don't ruen his life.
i think you guys should be friends. if you guys become intimate, it could be considered statitory (rape) since he is legally an adult. this is not love, it's lust/infatuation.coupons
Well you can tell him how you feel about him but you can be friend with him till your 17 then you can start kissing and haolding hands with him. But remember he is an adult and your a minor and if you have sex with him and someone finds out he will go to jail. SO be friends till your old enough.I need advice..from people who have actually been thru this kind of situation..?
wtf u are too young!!!!!! man yall gon have major problems!
no no no that's child molestation.
illegal
nasty
and he should know better. That is sick!!!!!
i understand you have a crush not love but nothing good will happen if you continue. . .
well unless you want to shelf your life and not amount to much . . . he's an adult your a child.
I dated guys that were in their 20's when I was 14 and 15. I turned out to be a very bitter person. I learned too much too quick an I regret it. I think you should slow down and find someone closer to your own age. I'm not giving you a hard time. I am still in my early 20's. Just a word of advice!
Wow Im in the same situation on Im older. I say tell him how you feel if you think he has some feelings for you.If not just stay friends. Its better to have friends then to lose him. Just play it out for awhile.And if he seems like he likes you go for it.
Before getting serious, bear in mind that you're a minor, and this could have serious consequences for both of you. For now, just maintain a friendship.
honestly leave him alone or he will try and take advantage of you sexually even if he is a nice guy, dont take that chance hope this helped, bye
You can't help your feelings, but I think he is too old for you.
let it go untill you are 18 and he can't get into trouble. Please leave him alone untill then if you really are about him. Don't ruen his life.
i think you guys should be friends. if you guys become intimate, it could be considered statitory (rape) since he is legally an adult. this is not love, it's lust/infatuation.
Why do people (in particular- girlfriends) ask for advice on what to do about a no good man,then don't listen?
I have 3 good friends, all 3 are with sorry men, they constantly whine and cry to me, but when I try to advise them, they never listen. I am at whits end and want to stop being a sounding board for these clueless women. What do I do?Why do people (in particular- girlfriends) ask for advice on what to do about a no good man,then don't listen?
I guess they don't like what they hear, or they just want to vent.
I guess they don't like what they hear, or they just want to vent.
I am so ashamed. I need advice from people who do not know me!?
Im a 24 year old female, I've been married for 5 months but I dont enjoy sex with my husband.Therapy or seeing a Psychologist is not an option right now, so your advice would be greatly appreciated.While growing up I was constantly molested by female nannies and maids.But I've NEVER been attracted to girls and never had any crushes etc on girls. I grew up as a normal teenager and had several boyfriends and crushes.Then I met my husband and I've been in love with him ever since. I really mean it. I love him a lot and we got married but the sex is horrible. I dont know whether it's my fault. I have difficulty getting aroused etc.
A few years backI had sex ( by sex I dont really mean sex, but kind of like heavy petting) with another female friend of mine, and Im so ashamed to say that I actually liked it. But thats all, I never felt any emotion towars her and I felt really sick after the entire episode. I really want to have a normal health loving relationship with my husband.please helpI am so ashamed. I need advice from people who do not know me!?
maybe you try and tell your husband this problem and that would help. but since you won't have him do some heavy petting, before, or simply tell him you need foreplay.I am so ashamed. I need advice from people who do not know me!?
You may have to teach your husband how you like to be touched and where and when, etc., etc.. You don't have to make teaching him into a ';crash-course-lesson'; per se, but just give him a helping hand from time to time.... a word or two, ';here'; ';there';, an ';ooh,'; or a small adjustment of his movements, the pressure and placement of his touch.. Get him to use his hands, fingers, mouth or 'whatever' in ways that tend to feel good to you and have him do it all only when and how you want it. Do this and I believe, little by little, you'll discover that having sex with him ';your way'; is a much more enjoyable experience than what you've described has been (not) happening.
Remember this, too, sex between married couples is always a give and take path of small changes, new discoveries - it all just gets better and better when you want it to.... and it sounds to me that you want it to.
Good luck and have fun.
()()() r u randy? ()()()
.
To be honest....There is really no one on her qualified to help you in your situation. I say this because of the molestation. The impact of being molested as a child (especially a girl) is proven to cause long term negative effects. Do your self a favor and see a Dr. Good luck!
I don't believe that anyone is totally 100 percent straight. Now the levels in which we all feel attraction towards someone of the same sex may be different. some can look at another girl and think.. she's hot or attractive and it is purely a visual appreciation, and for some there are sexual thoughts but not wanting to act, and others have sexual thoughts and yearning desires to express it towards someone of the same sex. either way it is noticing a sexual attractiveness of someone. You may have gay tendencies that are not natural, it was imposed on you at a young age, therefore you're conflicted with what you feel you should be and what you really are. You should feel no shame, being molested was NOT your fault, but it may have opened your sexuality up at an early age to make you have feelings that are stronger than what they normally would be for u. If you love your husband, thats all that matters because who you love is who you want to MAKE love to... everything else can be honestly spoken about openly and maybe even used in the bedroom between you both to satisfy each others ';other'; needs. bottom line is.. be open and honest, and have a take it or leave it frame of mind. if he loves you he'll understand. And frankly kissing someone or anything of the same sex shouldn't be thought of as gross unless you were taken advantage of. afterall if you partook it was because you were into something.. and you expressed love or lust towards someone else.. and them u.. we're all just human bodies.. that need love.
It is very possible that since you have been molested in the past, that now, in you're brain, is confusion.
I suggest that you talk to you're Gynecologist about this, it could also be a hormonal imbalance.
The fact you somewhat enjoyed petting with a female is not something to worrie about at all,(that too could be hormonal) Don't wait, check with you're DR., Hormones have enormous controll over the Human Body.
Probably what you enjoyed with another female was her gentleness and slow foreplay. Why don't you suggest with your husband the things you enjoyed with the female. A fun way to do this (so he won't feel threatened) is to give him coupons for say, giving you a backrub, a 5 min. exploration of your naked body with only his lips, etc. Usually a guy in his 20's is more concerned with trying to make it last more than 2 minutes -- let him focus on you.
In this situation you cannot avoid getting some kind of therapy. You are following a pattern that you have been subjected to.
If you love your husband trust him. He will not hurt you. You need to confide in him and tell him what has happened to you in the past. If he loves you he will understand and help you. Get help you really have no choice. Its not fair to you or your husband.
Well in one word, FOREPLAY. But reading your whole post, I'd even go as far as leaning towards BI-sexual. And the thought may turn you off to some degree so you deny it. But look at it in a realistic type way. You said it yourself, you ENJOYED it. But is there foreplay in your marriage or is it just a wam. bam, thank you mam type sex with your husband. THIS can also be at least part of the problem. SEX is NOT always what it is cut out to be. I mean we ALL like to say Oh yeah it was soooo GREAT, But in reality it isn't ALWAYS GREAT. If I were you I'd look at experimenting some. Maybe like as in a threesome, you, your husband, and maybe this female you had a fling with. Naturally talk with your husband first but hey give it a shot. Hope it works out for you, Good Luck.
Maybe you need to talk to him. Don't tell him you don't enjoy sex with him but tell him what you like done to you. He is not a mind reader, he'll never know if you don't tell him. Also you could take a trip to a XXX store with him, it could be alot of fun and give him some ideas.
No need to feel ashamed you are finding yourself which is a good thing. If you would like to chat more and maybe i could give you some more suggestions email me at miked452001@yahoo.com
slow down, take a deep breath, relax, and think about it for a minute.
You are in Love with your husband right? Well, I'll bet that he's in love with you also, it's pretty much a given.
Here's what you do. Have a glass of wine with your dinner, not alot, just one glass. After you have both eaten, sit there for a few minutes and just talk. Start to talk about small things that are not important. Continue to do this ALL the time, and encourage your husband to do the same.
See, you really need to talk to him about this, and I mean REALLY. Together, it should be nothing to overcome, but he NEEDS to know how you feel and what you are thinking. This is the perfect time to start to build a solid base of communication with your new spouse. Trust me on this, you are both in the newly wed stage, so it should be easy after you start the talk.
You need to calm down and stop stressing yourself out. The more you stress, the harder and worse it will be.
Do you know why you dislike sex with your husband? Does he satisfy you? If not, then why not buy some toys and dvd's and explore, be honest with him. I am sure he knows something is wrong. With regards to the female kiss you had, this could be something that you are thinking about because you are unhappy at the moment and you could be looking for a way out. Or it could be that you are curious and wonder what this could be like?
If I were you, I would be honest with your husband and work on it together, you have only been married for 5 months and you have your whole lives ahead of you.
Good Luck, I hope you manage to sort things out.
Enjoying sex requires the right mood. Please get over your past!! Use imagination and fantasizing techniques to work up the right mood to be with your husband. You may masturbate along with him initially to make it more enjoyable. You may ask him to give you good oral to get intimate with him.
By the way, there is nothing wrong if you are bi sexual!
you should read my husbands poem, we find a way.it is posted here,good luck.
Short of counseling, I am not sure what you want people to tell you. You already know that you are in need of some counseling to deal with the issues of your childhood. I am very sorry that this happened to you. And you should not feel ashamed about anything in life. All experiences are a learning experience. The good the bad and the ugly. What happened to you as a child was not your fault, as a child you have no control over what self serving, sick individuals may have forced upon you. Good luck to you I hope you do seek out some professional help. God bless****
First, I think you need to relax, sex is never good if you are uptight. And worrying about whether you are attracted to women doesn't help. Secondly, you say you have difficulty becoming aroused, but how does he try to arouse you? You may need to try masturbating to become aroused. Also try fantasizing a scenario in your head to help become aroused. Good luck.
Are you and your husband directly into sex? Anyway there is so many things in sex. Bathing together makes you comfortable with your partner. Try that. Have you gone anywhere with your partner for a holiday. Holiday tend to release those tensed strings between you both. And of course Foreplay. It really brings to person into the mood to explore more. Then go into sex. Of course, if it doesnt help, explain it to your partner. It is very important your partner knows you are facing a problem in this. And if it is really nessesary see a doctor. Good Luck.
A few years backI had sex ( by sex I dont really mean sex, but kind of like heavy petting) with another female friend of mine, and Im so ashamed to say that I actually liked it. But thats all, I never felt any emotion towars her and I felt really sick after the entire episode. I really want to have a normal health loving relationship with my husband.please helpI am so ashamed. I need advice from people who do not know me!?
maybe you try and tell your husband this problem and that would help. but since you won't have him do some heavy petting, before, or simply tell him you need foreplay.I am so ashamed. I need advice from people who do not know me!?
You may have to teach your husband how you like to be touched and where and when, etc., etc.. You don't have to make teaching him into a ';crash-course-lesson'; per se, but just give him a helping hand from time to time.... a word or two, ';here'; ';there';, an ';ooh,'; or a small adjustment of his movements, the pressure and placement of his touch.. Get him to use his hands, fingers, mouth or 'whatever' in ways that tend to feel good to you and have him do it all only when and how you want it. Do this and I believe, little by little, you'll discover that having sex with him ';your way'; is a much more enjoyable experience than what you've described has been (not) happening.
Remember this, too, sex between married couples is always a give and take path of small changes, new discoveries - it all just gets better and better when you want it to.... and it sounds to me that you want it to.
Good luck and have fun.
()()() r u randy? ()()()
.
To be honest....There is really no one on her qualified to help you in your situation. I say this because of the molestation. The impact of being molested as a child (especially a girl) is proven to cause long term negative effects. Do your self a favor and see a Dr. Good luck!
I don't believe that anyone is totally 100 percent straight. Now the levels in which we all feel attraction towards someone of the same sex may be different. some can look at another girl and think.. she's hot or attractive and it is purely a visual appreciation, and for some there are sexual thoughts but not wanting to act, and others have sexual thoughts and yearning desires to express it towards someone of the same sex. either way it is noticing a sexual attractiveness of someone. You may have gay tendencies that are not natural, it was imposed on you at a young age, therefore you're conflicted with what you feel you should be and what you really are. You should feel no shame, being molested was NOT your fault, but it may have opened your sexuality up at an early age to make you have feelings that are stronger than what they normally would be for u. If you love your husband, thats all that matters because who you love is who you want to MAKE love to... everything else can be honestly spoken about openly and maybe even used in the bedroom between you both to satisfy each others ';other'; needs. bottom line is.. be open and honest, and have a take it or leave it frame of mind. if he loves you he'll understand. And frankly kissing someone or anything of the same sex shouldn't be thought of as gross unless you were taken advantage of. afterall if you partook it was because you were into something.. and you expressed love or lust towards someone else.. and them u.. we're all just human bodies.. that need love.
It is very possible that since you have been molested in the past, that now, in you're brain, is confusion.
I suggest that you talk to you're Gynecologist about this, it could also be a hormonal imbalance.
The fact you somewhat enjoyed petting with a female is not something to worrie about at all,(that too could be hormonal) Don't wait, check with you're DR., Hormones have enormous controll over the Human Body.
Probably what you enjoyed with another female was her gentleness and slow foreplay. Why don't you suggest with your husband the things you enjoyed with the female. A fun way to do this (so he won't feel threatened) is to give him coupons for say, giving you a backrub, a 5 min. exploration of your naked body with only his lips, etc. Usually a guy in his 20's is more concerned with trying to make it last more than 2 minutes -- let him focus on you.
In this situation you cannot avoid getting some kind of therapy. You are following a pattern that you have been subjected to.
If you love your husband trust him. He will not hurt you. You need to confide in him and tell him what has happened to you in the past. If he loves you he will understand and help you. Get help you really have no choice. Its not fair to you or your husband.
Well in one word, FOREPLAY. But reading your whole post, I'd even go as far as leaning towards BI-sexual. And the thought may turn you off to some degree so you deny it. But look at it in a realistic type way. You said it yourself, you ENJOYED it. But is there foreplay in your marriage or is it just a wam. bam, thank you mam type sex with your husband. THIS can also be at least part of the problem. SEX is NOT always what it is cut out to be. I mean we ALL like to say Oh yeah it was soooo GREAT, But in reality it isn't ALWAYS GREAT. If I were you I'd look at experimenting some. Maybe like as in a threesome, you, your husband, and maybe this female you had a fling with. Naturally talk with your husband first but hey give it a shot. Hope it works out for you, Good Luck.
Maybe you need to talk to him. Don't tell him you don't enjoy sex with him but tell him what you like done to you. He is not a mind reader, he'll never know if you don't tell him. Also you could take a trip to a XXX store with him, it could be alot of fun and give him some ideas.
No need to feel ashamed you are finding yourself which is a good thing. If you would like to chat more and maybe i could give you some more suggestions email me at miked452001@yahoo.com
slow down, take a deep breath, relax, and think about it for a minute.
You are in Love with your husband right? Well, I'll bet that he's in love with you also, it's pretty much a given.
Here's what you do. Have a glass of wine with your dinner, not alot, just one glass. After you have both eaten, sit there for a few minutes and just talk. Start to talk about small things that are not important. Continue to do this ALL the time, and encourage your husband to do the same.
See, you really need to talk to him about this, and I mean REALLY. Together, it should be nothing to overcome, but he NEEDS to know how you feel and what you are thinking. This is the perfect time to start to build a solid base of communication with your new spouse. Trust me on this, you are both in the newly wed stage, so it should be easy after you start the talk.
You need to calm down and stop stressing yourself out. The more you stress, the harder and worse it will be.
Do you know why you dislike sex with your husband? Does he satisfy you? If not, then why not buy some toys and dvd's and explore, be honest with him. I am sure he knows something is wrong. With regards to the female kiss you had, this could be something that you are thinking about because you are unhappy at the moment and you could be looking for a way out. Or it could be that you are curious and wonder what this could be like?
If I were you, I would be honest with your husband and work on it together, you have only been married for 5 months and you have your whole lives ahead of you.
Good Luck, I hope you manage to sort things out.
Enjoying sex requires the right mood. Please get over your past!! Use imagination and fantasizing techniques to work up the right mood to be with your husband. You may masturbate along with him initially to make it more enjoyable. You may ask him to give you good oral to get intimate with him.
By the way, there is nothing wrong if you are bi sexual!
you should read my husbands poem, we find a way.it is posted here,good luck.
Short of counseling, I am not sure what you want people to tell you. You already know that you are in need of some counseling to deal with the issues of your childhood. I am very sorry that this happened to you. And you should not feel ashamed about anything in life. All experiences are a learning experience. The good the bad and the ugly. What happened to you as a child was not your fault, as a child you have no control over what self serving, sick individuals may have forced upon you. Good luck to you I hope you do seek out some professional help. God bless****
First, I think you need to relax, sex is never good if you are uptight. And worrying about whether you are attracted to women doesn't help. Secondly, you say you have difficulty becoming aroused, but how does he try to arouse you? You may need to try masturbating to become aroused. Also try fantasizing a scenario in your head to help become aroused. Good luck.
Are you and your husband directly into sex? Anyway there is so many things in sex. Bathing together makes you comfortable with your partner. Try that. Have you gone anywhere with your partner for a holiday. Holiday tend to release those tensed strings between you both. And of course Foreplay. It really brings to person into the mood to explore more. Then go into sex. Of course, if it doesnt help, explain it to your partner. It is very important your partner knows you are facing a problem in this. And if it is really nessesary see a doctor. Good Luck.
I need advice: serious people only please....About a year ago I was raped. I know I should have reported it...
but I didn't. See, my dad sort of is the police. He's a detective for the county we live in. I don't talk to him very often and he still thinks I'm his perfect little angel. I would have been to embarassed to go to him or anybody else for that matter. That isn't what I';m asking about though. See the thing is that after it happened, I was so ashamed and too embarassed to tell anybody. I mean, it was my own fault for putting myself in the position for it to happen. I thought I could handle it, I thought I would be able to deal with it and get over it on my own. I'll just get straight to the point. I think he gave me an STD. I don't know who to go to or where to get help. I feel like I have lost my whole life because of this. Having it is bad enough. But, it has taken away my whole future. I can't even try to love another guy because I know I'll never be able to be with him. I don't mean just sexually, but that's part of marriage. I guess I'm asking, what do I do now? Who do I go to now?I need advice: serious people only please....About a year ago I was raped. I know I should have reported it...
I am so sorry this has happened to you but I'm afraid you need help. You really should see a doctor about the STD, you could go to a free clinic or hospital, nothing to be embarrassed about. There should also be rape hotlines and things (although I don't know where you live). I feel you also need therapy, and to report the rape (it doesn't mean you are no longer a perfect little angel and your father should be sad, but not ashamed, and if he is really ashamed then he's an idiot I am sorry to say) at some stage. Is there nobody you can trust?
Email me if you need more help or just want to chat. I felt sad reading that and would love for you to get past this. But you will have to take some steps. It will be hard, but it's the right thing.I need advice: serious people only please....About a year ago I was raped. I know I should have reported it...
you must go to the doctor
if its a bacterial infection you can have it treated and itll be gone soon
if its some serious syphillis for instance
if you just ignore it
you can die pretty badly
go get it checked it you know it wasnt right whatever happened because i dont know it all but move past it and worry about your health
Go to your local health department and have some std tests run. Good luck and it was NOT your fault. You shouldn't be embarrassed.
well i can offer an ear i know how u feel more than u know so if u wanna talk woman to woman IM me on yahoo or email me i know it was hard for a long time for me to talk but i promise u arent alone
First, I am sorry to hear. Second, No it was not your fault!!
No one asks to be raped no matter what the situation is!
Please understand that. The man should of been reported
no doubt. If you feel he may have passed something onto you, please go to the Doctor as only he will be able to tell for sure. If so, you need treatment ASAP.
Best of luck to you, God bless
First of all, the rape is NOT your fault! It's easy to blame yourself and to think you put yourself in the situation, but he chose his actions. Second, I'm really sorry that happened to you...no one should have to endure an experience like that, ever.
That being said, on the STD issue...go to Planned Parenthood, I believe they do STD checks there. Or if you feel more comfortable, you could go to your family doctor. I don't know how old you are, but if you're under 16 (at least in my state, other states, the age might be different) wherever you go will have to report it, by law. If you're over 16, I think you can choose whether or not it's reported.
For the more psychological stuff associated with it, I would definitely recommend that you see a therapist. He or she is professional and can help you work through issues associated with the rape. Talk to your family doctor and ask him/her to recommend somebody for you to see.
As for loving another guy, don't worry about that for right now. You have more important issues to straighten out...once you have those issues worked out, loving somebody will come later.
What you've been through is terrible...try to get help, so you can start moving on with your life. Hope this helps.
honey let me start by saying that i was molested i know how hard it is you know its not your fault it really isnt i fell off my bike like you to get help if a man forces you to have sex then then you find out that he has made you sick im urging you plz plz plz talk to someone if you truly dont want to talk with anyone go to a planned parenthood or a free clinic they can help you there but i really want you to tell some one
You should tell your parents. Expecially if you think you have an STD. That can be really serious. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
First off, being raped will never ever be your fault. It is understandable that you might have been afraid to tell. You need to talk to someone that you can trust . Even if it's just to tell them about how this incident has made you feel. All std's aren't incurable. You should go to the doctor. If your too scared that your father might find out go to plannedparenthood.com to find a local one in your area. They will provide you with low cost health care. You need to have a pap smear as well as get tested for std's to know for sure if you have one. Hopefully it will be something that is curable and they can prescribe something for you that will help take care of this matter. And lastly just because this happened to you doesn't mean that you will never be able to get married and your life is not ruined. Hopefully the man that you decide to marry will love you unconditonally and one day before you get married you will be able to have a conversation of what happened to you. And who knows he might be the one person in the world who can make you feel 100% safe again. But if you ever need someone to talk to you can talk to me.
youve GOT TO tell your family and friends tehy will help you. u need to see a doctor immediately and go to th ehospital or local health clinic.....ill pray u dont have an STD
I was raped 11 years ago at the age of 20. It is very difficult, but the best thing you can do is get some support. Try calling a local woman's center or rape consueling. (The YWCA does it here) they have many groups (free of charge) that can help you.
I noticed you said ';It's my own fault for putting myself in the position for it to happen';. It wasn't your fault, you didn't asked to be raped. No matter what you did or didn't do, it's not your fault! If you ever need to talk email me (BMPmama698@yahoo.com) I'd be glad to talk to you.
i would say go to your dad...no one asks to be raped..that is why it is called rape and not sex.... im sure he will be glad that you told him so that he can be there for you....he knows that no one asks to be raped and im sure he is going to feel hurt and mad that some idiot out there hurt his daughter...you need a support system and untill you tell your dad and let him be there for you..your the only one that will know ..and you cant just support yourself..youll eventualy break down over it and that is not necessarily good.... and if you do have an std..then you need to get it taken care of right away..depending on what std you have and what stage it may now be in now that it has been a year...you need to get on medication for it and hope that it will clear up...your life is not over unless you let it be over....the question is...are you going to let that idiot win or are you going to defet him and show yourself that you can still live and have a great life!! its up to you.. you dont under any circumstances have to do this alone..
Sweetie, you have to tell someone. Go to the doctor, police, or tell your parents. They won't think any less of you, I promise. This was not your fault, understand? I don't care what kind of situation you were in, it was not your fault! You still have a beautiful future ahead of you. You need to find the help that you need. You have to go to the doctor if you think you have an STD. It will put your mind at ease at least. You should also consider counseling. I was sexually abused years ago and counseling really, really helped me get through it and move past it. It'll take time and it will be hard, but you will move past this. I know it's hard and I know how lost you must feel but you have to get help. Even though it's hard at times, pray. God helped me through everything and without prayer and His help, I wouldn't have made it. I'll pray for you honey and I hope you get the help you deserve. The main thing you need to do is understand this was not your fault. The bastard who did this to you will have to pay for it every day of his life, trust me. Much love and prayers!!
ok..go take the test maybe a family member such as an aunt or something you dont wan to do that ..you will have to tell your parent..they will UNDERSTAND..they are here to help...please tell them now ..IF you have it the sooner you try to treat it the best it will for the end ..you need to go to a clinic
you need help, you have been completley violated by some crazy selfish person. First step dont blame it on yourself it is never the victims fault. You need to find a good therapist to help you handle the emotional pain, and help you to be able to love again and not every time you see a guy think if you will be hurt and raped again. You also should find the number of a rape crisis center, tell them your situation and they can help you get tested if you have an STD, report the guy, and get you the proper help so you can your life back. I hope it works out. But just know healing form something like this takes time, but if you get help you will heal.
I am so sorry this has happened to you but I'm afraid you need help. You really should see a doctor about the STD, you could go to a free clinic or hospital, nothing to be embarrassed about. There should also be rape hotlines and things (although I don't know where you live). I feel you also need therapy, and to report the rape (it doesn't mean you are no longer a perfect little angel and your father should be sad, but not ashamed, and if he is really ashamed then he's an idiot I am sorry to say) at some stage. Is there nobody you can trust?
Email me if you need more help or just want to chat. I felt sad reading that and would love for you to get past this. But you will have to take some steps. It will be hard, but it's the right thing.I need advice: serious people only please....About a year ago I was raped. I know I should have reported it...
you must go to the doctor
if its a bacterial infection you can have it treated and itll be gone soon
if its some serious syphillis for instance
if you just ignore it
you can die pretty badly
go get it checked it you know it wasnt right whatever happened because i dont know it all but move past it and worry about your health
Go to your local health department and have some std tests run. Good luck and it was NOT your fault. You shouldn't be embarrassed.
well i can offer an ear i know how u feel more than u know so if u wanna talk woman to woman IM me on yahoo or email me i know it was hard for a long time for me to talk but i promise u arent alone
First, I am sorry to hear. Second, No it was not your fault!!
No one asks to be raped no matter what the situation is!
Please understand that. The man should of been reported
no doubt. If you feel he may have passed something onto you, please go to the Doctor as only he will be able to tell for sure. If so, you need treatment ASAP.
Best of luck to you, God bless
First of all, the rape is NOT your fault! It's easy to blame yourself and to think you put yourself in the situation, but he chose his actions. Second, I'm really sorry that happened to you...no one should have to endure an experience like that, ever.
That being said, on the STD issue...go to Planned Parenthood, I believe they do STD checks there. Or if you feel more comfortable, you could go to your family doctor. I don't know how old you are, but if you're under 16 (at least in my state, other states, the age might be different) wherever you go will have to report it, by law. If you're over 16, I think you can choose whether or not it's reported.
For the more psychological stuff associated with it, I would definitely recommend that you see a therapist. He or she is professional and can help you work through issues associated with the rape. Talk to your family doctor and ask him/her to recommend somebody for you to see.
As for loving another guy, don't worry about that for right now. You have more important issues to straighten out...once you have those issues worked out, loving somebody will come later.
What you've been through is terrible...try to get help, so you can start moving on with your life. Hope this helps.
honey let me start by saying that i was molested i know how hard it is you know its not your fault it really isnt i fell off my bike like you to get help if a man forces you to have sex then then you find out that he has made you sick im urging you plz plz plz talk to someone if you truly dont want to talk with anyone go to a planned parenthood or a free clinic they can help you there but i really want you to tell some one
You should tell your parents. Expecially if you think you have an STD. That can be really serious. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
First off, being raped will never ever be your fault. It is understandable that you might have been afraid to tell. You need to talk to someone that you can trust . Even if it's just to tell them about how this incident has made you feel. All std's aren't incurable. You should go to the doctor. If your too scared that your father might find out go to plannedparenthood.com to find a local one in your area. They will provide you with low cost health care. You need to have a pap smear as well as get tested for std's to know for sure if you have one. Hopefully it will be something that is curable and they can prescribe something for you that will help take care of this matter. And lastly just because this happened to you doesn't mean that you will never be able to get married and your life is not ruined. Hopefully the man that you decide to marry will love you unconditonally and one day before you get married you will be able to have a conversation of what happened to you. And who knows he might be the one person in the world who can make you feel 100% safe again. But if you ever need someone to talk to you can talk to me.
youve GOT TO tell your family and friends tehy will help you. u need to see a doctor immediately and go to th ehospital or local health clinic.....ill pray u dont have an STD
I was raped 11 years ago at the age of 20. It is very difficult, but the best thing you can do is get some support. Try calling a local woman's center or rape consueling. (The YWCA does it here) they have many groups (free of charge) that can help you.
I noticed you said ';It's my own fault for putting myself in the position for it to happen';. It wasn't your fault, you didn't asked to be raped. No matter what you did or didn't do, it's not your fault! If you ever need to talk email me (BMPmama698@yahoo.com) I'd be glad to talk to you.
i would say go to your dad...no one asks to be raped..that is why it is called rape and not sex.... im sure he will be glad that you told him so that he can be there for you....he knows that no one asks to be raped and im sure he is going to feel hurt and mad that some idiot out there hurt his daughter...you need a support system and untill you tell your dad and let him be there for you..your the only one that will know ..and you cant just support yourself..youll eventualy break down over it and that is not necessarily good.... and if you do have an std..then you need to get it taken care of right away..depending on what std you have and what stage it may now be in now that it has been a year...you need to get on medication for it and hope that it will clear up...your life is not over unless you let it be over....the question is...are you going to let that idiot win or are you going to defet him and show yourself that you can still live and have a great life!! its up to you.. you dont under any circumstances have to do this alone..
Sweetie, you have to tell someone. Go to the doctor, police, or tell your parents. They won't think any less of you, I promise. This was not your fault, understand? I don't care what kind of situation you were in, it was not your fault! You still have a beautiful future ahead of you. You need to find the help that you need. You have to go to the doctor if you think you have an STD. It will put your mind at ease at least. You should also consider counseling. I was sexually abused years ago and counseling really, really helped me get through it and move past it. It'll take time and it will be hard, but you will move past this. I know it's hard and I know how lost you must feel but you have to get help. Even though it's hard at times, pray. God helped me through everything and without prayer and His help, I wouldn't have made it. I'll pray for you honey and I hope you get the help you deserve. The main thing you need to do is understand this was not your fault. The bastard who did this to you will have to pay for it every day of his life, trust me. Much love and prayers!!
ok..go take the test maybe a family member such as an aunt or something you dont wan to do that ..you will have to tell your parent..they will UNDERSTAND..they are here to help...please tell them now ..IF you have it the sooner you try to treat it the best it will for the end ..you need to go to a clinic
you need help, you have been completley violated by some crazy selfish person. First step dont blame it on yourself it is never the victims fault. You need to find a good therapist to help you handle the emotional pain, and help you to be able to love again and not every time you see a guy think if you will be hurt and raped again. You also should find the number of a rape crisis center, tell them your situation and they can help you get tested if you have an STD, report the guy, and get you the proper help so you can your life back. I hope it works out. But just know healing form something like this takes time, but if you get help you will heal.
Anybody aware of a site with advice for people retiring abroad? Specifically R.o. Ireland and France...?
Specifically the Republic of Ireland and France. I'm looking for an online guide/forum etc to find more information on retiring abroad from the UK. Thanks!Anybody aware of a site with advice for people retiring abroad? Specifically R.o. Ireland and France...?
Sorry can't remember if it's the correct name only there is a site called leitrim folk and you can ask questions on there so you would be given the correct info I do know that in Republic of Ireland they look after retired people very well good luckAnybody aware of a site with advice for people retiring abroad? Specifically R.o. Ireland and France...?
Hi
There are quite a few Irish people who have retired to Languedoc, particularly Carcassonne, Pyrenees-Orientales and Bezier areas.
There are cheap flights from Ireland to Girona (just over the border in Spain), Carcassonne and Marseille.
There is an English languedoc Languedoc expat forum at : http://the-languedoc-page.com/phpBB2/ind鈥?/a>
Peter
Peter
Sorry can't remember if it's the correct name only there is a site called leitrim folk and you can ask questions on there so you would be given the correct info I do know that in Republic of Ireland they look after retired people very well good luckAnybody aware of a site with advice for people retiring abroad? Specifically R.o. Ireland and France...?
Hi
There are quite a few Irish people who have retired to Languedoc, particularly Carcassonne, Pyrenees-Orientales and Bezier areas.
There are cheap flights from Ireland to Girona (just over the border in Spain), Carcassonne and Marseille.
There is an English languedoc Languedoc expat forum at : http://the-languedoc-page.com/phpBB2/ind鈥?/a>
Peter
Peter
People who offer medical advice?
What are the people who offer medical advice in articles for news pages (Netscape, MSN, etc.), called? How difficult is it to land a job like theirs, compared to a job in a laboratory?People who offer medical advice?
Professionals who offer medical advice are usually medical doctors (M.D.). First they attend a university to earn their Bachelor of Science degree (4 yrs.), then are accepted to medical school (4 more yrs.), then an internship (1 yr.) and a residency (2 yrs.). If you go on to specialize, you are looking at several more years of specialty training in that field (surgery, neurosurgery, psychiatry, etc.).
A doctor of Family Practice is a general practioner, who has earned an M.D. degree.
Best wishes.
Professionals who offer medical advice are usually medical doctors (M.D.). First they attend a university to earn their Bachelor of Science degree (4 yrs.), then are accepted to medical school (4 more yrs.), then an internship (1 yr.) and a residency (2 yrs.). If you go on to specialize, you are looking at several more years of specialty training in that field (surgery, neurosurgery, psychiatry, etc.).
A doctor of Family Practice is a general practioner, who has earned an M.D. degree.
Best wishes.
People keep throwing stuff on our yard and we get clean up notices LEGAL TYPE advice please?
It's your property and you are responsible to keep it clean. But, if you can prove who is throwing it in your yard, they can be cited for littering.People keep throwing stuff on our yard and we get clean up notices LEGAL TYPE advice please?
Need to set up video system, they are pretty cheap, motion lights in the area where the garbage is being dumped; has any one gone through the stuff to see if an address or other info about the person: once you get the person on tape you can then get the police involved; if there is a pattern when the stuff is dump you could set up a stake out with lights, video etc to catch the person in the actPeople keep throwing stuff on our yard and we get clean up notices LEGAL TYPE advice please?
I have a fence around my yard so if they want to throw garbage in my yard they will have to try not to get bit by my dogs, but I do get trash outside of the fenceline, its not so bad, but at least I don't get empty cigarette boxes in my yard, they throw their buts aroun my fenceline however. You just need ot put up a perimeter (fence).
Set up a camera and prove that it's not your garbage. Give the tape to the local police.
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Need to set up video system, they are pretty cheap, motion lights in the area where the garbage is being dumped; has any one gone through the stuff to see if an address or other info about the person: once you get the person on tape you can then get the police involved; if there is a pattern when the stuff is dump you could set up a stake out with lights, video etc to catch the person in the actPeople keep throwing stuff on our yard and we get clean up notices LEGAL TYPE advice please?
I have a fence around my yard so if they want to throw garbage in my yard they will have to try not to get bit by my dogs, but I do get trash outside of the fenceline, its not so bad, but at least I don't get empty cigarette boxes in my yard, they throw their buts aroun my fenceline however. You just need ot put up a perimeter (fence).
Set up a camera and prove that it's not your garbage. Give the tape to the local police.
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Why is everyone on hear so borring can people actually give good advice??!!?
NO Good adviceWhy is everyone on hear so borring can people actually give good advice??!!?
Sure we can. There's also a whole lot of people who do not spell or punctuate properly.
:)Why is everyone on hear so borring can people actually give good advice??!!?
boring. is it short answers, or any form of answers that doesn't seems to help?
That hurts me feelings. Haha, jk. I think what's really going on here is that you don't want advice when you ask questions...you just want people to tell you what you want to hear.
yes i can give some pretty descent advice the reason we are so boring is because we all try to reach out and say true stuff from our own lives to help others.
that answer your question?
Remember, it's also free advice. . .
Take it for what's it worth.
There's a lot of valid advice here...for valid questions.
yes people are boring, only because questions are boring. and people are lame. and some people can give good advice. if they are smart enough....
Learn how to say ';Can I take your order'; and you'll be fine.
whats your point and what makes you so interesting
I loved your question. I believe its because people are conditioned to be politically correct and are ******* about saying what they really feel. Good question.
My advice is use Spell Check... it's free.
are u saying that because youre bored or youre too bored to say anything nice? can u tell the difference between the two and come up with a good answer? if u can, then youre not boring and this blogsite has just done you a favor but if u cant, then youre the one who is boring....dont take it personally though, i was just answering a categorical question with a direct answer...he,he,he,...
ho hum how boring....
It depends on whether you want answers or an ego boost or a butt-monkey who just will agree with you.
Naturally, it also depends on the questions that you ask.
Oh, and if you want fum. have a tough skin, because people like me have a very non-PC attitude. That does not make us evil though.
what does boring have to do with good advice? Who said advice is supposed to be exciting? Like the guy wrote this aint comedy central. As for the quality of advice, there are a lot of douchebags(a scientific term), but the odd person has something good to say.
Have you tried finding the answers you want yourself?
my advice is go to a therapist.
Simple solution: Then don't ask questions.
Well, we try our best. Still, it's not like we know everything, so how can we answer all those questions that people need answered? How would you feel if someone said that your advice wasn't good? All I'm trying to say is that we try our best when answering someone's question.
I can make my answer not boring. I want to fly like an angry spider monkey. Ahhhh!
well heres an advice...
If u find this place boring ask some questions u dont know the answer to and ppl answer them for u.
Nobody in this world is perfect and some pl know the answers to your questions.
Its not actually boring....
I'd advise you to use spell check...go back to elementary school...learn to look up words in a dictionary...learn how to type sentences that make sense, you know, with punctuation. And what is ';NO Good advice'; supposed to mean, anyway?
*starts clapping*
oh wait....no one else is clapping.
ahahahahahahaha.
This is not comedy central.
its what people expect us to provide....and what we can give
get over urself
and btw, its spelled here, not hear in this context lol
i have some good advice.... use proper grammar and spell HERE correctly.
Don't eat yellow snow. ;-)
I like to give advice! :)
If it's boring, leave. :P
I seriously try to give the best advice I can give... I'm sorry you haven't had any good luck... keep trying.. I haven't had a lot of luck ether to tell you the truth.
Never buy cheap Shoe';s
I can give good advice, but rite now I need some my question is above yours can you help Gnarls Barkley new video RUN said it can cause seizures.
Sure we can. There's also a whole lot of people who do not spell or punctuate properly.
:)Why is everyone on hear so borring can people actually give good advice??!!?
boring. is it short answers, or any form of answers that doesn't seems to help?
That hurts me feelings. Haha, jk. I think what's really going on here is that you don't want advice when you ask questions...you just want people to tell you what you want to hear.
yes i can give some pretty descent advice the reason we are so boring is because we all try to reach out and say true stuff from our own lives to help others.
that answer your question?
Remember, it's also free advice. . .
Take it for what's it worth.
There's a lot of valid advice here...for valid questions.
yes people are boring, only because questions are boring. and people are lame. and some people can give good advice. if they are smart enough....
Learn how to say ';Can I take your order'; and you'll be fine.
whats your point and what makes you so interesting
I loved your question. I believe its because people are conditioned to be politically correct and are ******* about saying what they really feel. Good question.
My advice is use Spell Check... it's free.
are u saying that because youre bored or youre too bored to say anything nice? can u tell the difference between the two and come up with a good answer? if u can, then youre not boring and this blogsite has just done you a favor but if u cant, then youre the one who is boring....dont take it personally though, i was just answering a categorical question with a direct answer...he,he,he,...
ho hum how boring....
It depends on whether you want answers or an ego boost or a butt-monkey who just will agree with you.
Naturally, it also depends on the questions that you ask.
Oh, and if you want fum. have a tough skin, because people like me have a very non-PC attitude. That does not make us evil though.
what does boring have to do with good advice? Who said advice is supposed to be exciting? Like the guy wrote this aint comedy central. As for the quality of advice, there are a lot of douchebags(a scientific term), but the odd person has something good to say.
Have you tried finding the answers you want yourself?
my advice is go to a therapist.
Simple solution: Then don't ask questions.
Well, we try our best. Still, it's not like we know everything, so how can we answer all those questions that people need answered? How would you feel if someone said that your advice wasn't good? All I'm trying to say is that we try our best when answering someone's question.
I can make my answer not boring. I want to fly like an angry spider monkey. Ahhhh!
well heres an advice...
If u find this place boring ask some questions u dont know the answer to and ppl answer them for u.
Nobody in this world is perfect and some pl know the answers to your questions.
Its not actually boring....
I'd advise you to use spell check...go back to elementary school...learn to look up words in a dictionary...learn how to type sentences that make sense, you know, with punctuation. And what is ';NO Good advice'; supposed to mean, anyway?
*starts clapping*
oh wait....no one else is clapping.
ahahahahahahaha.
This is not comedy central.
its what people expect us to provide....and what we can give
get over urself
and btw, its spelled here, not hear in this context lol
i have some good advice.... use proper grammar and spell HERE correctly.
Don't eat yellow snow. ;-)
I like to give advice! :)
If it's boring, leave. :P
I seriously try to give the best advice I can give... I'm sorry you haven't had any good luck... keep trying.. I haven't had a lot of luck ether to tell you the truth.
Never buy cheap Shoe';s
I can give good advice, but rite now I need some my question is above yours can you help Gnarls Barkley new video RUN said it can cause seizures.
I've never felt like I fit in anywhere and I'm not much of a people person. Advice? I am a lonely soul.?
I do well in college, I'm fairly smart and I'm also funny. People are initially attracted to me, but I feel like they don't get me. I'm an only child and have always felt set apart from people.
What do I do to fit in? Help?I've never felt like I fit in anywhere and I'm not much of a people person. Advice? I am a lonely soul.?
If you are not a people person, then get a pet.I've never felt like I fit in anywhere and I'm not much of a people person. Advice? I am a lonely soul.?
It may mean that you cannot really relate to most people, as is the case with Indigo and Crystal children. It doesn't mean you are bad, if this is the situation, it simply means you are channeled into a higher level of being.
But, as a previous person answered, I do not know you well enough to say what you are. What you are explaining can be of several reasons other than that you are an Indigo or Crystal, and that includes emotional issues, or perhaps in metaphysical terms, it has something to do with your ';life purpose';. Perhaps you are having these feelings because you are not comfortable with yourself.
Before you try to fit in, it is important to be one with yourself, and then you will see that the people who make you feel at ease and whole will naturally be drawn to you. There's no magic to it.
I hope this helps. : )
I understand just how you feel as all my life I have felt the same. What you don't understand is inside you hides a person who is much needed today. You are one who in my opinion could in fact change many things and will find people out there like you for who you are. Join or organize groups of people to help them develop co-opts, small businesses, things that make their lives better. You see not all of us were lucky enough to attend college but we collectively are quite bright. By giving back you will find the great person you have hidden inside just waiting to get out and make a difference. I, like you feel the same way and have for over 60 years but have finally got it.I intend to, be it in a small way make a difference, to change lives and help to understand myself as well.Remember, Great people don't always amass great wealth or win wars, the Greatest change lives one at a time. Make a difference. Good luck in all you do and God Bless.
I was just like you when I graduated from college. I don't like to be with people because I was thinking all the while that they won't like me. But when I started working in a big company with many workers and employees I changed a lot. My co-workers were just like my family members. I had not worked in any company but stayed here with people that care and loved me as I am. For 17 years I was with them. This had given me enough self confidence and moral values. After I resigned from work I could go anywhere and be with people of all sorts of life. And best of all I was found by the Lord and He put me in a church with people who loved and understood me. I became a Christian and God made me a person with vigor, zeal and joy even at my age at 66. I still enjoy my life with young and old people in church. There is joy in serving God.
I'm afraid I don't know you well enough (at all, really) to comment on your behaviour, but what attracts me most to a person is their ability to be completely at ease with themselves. Maybe you are projecting your loneliness onto other people, so that they feel a sort of desperation coming off you? Try to relax more.
Again, I could be completely off here. We need a little more to go on from you if you want us to be really helpful.
go on a spiritual journey.
i wouldn't recommend church for you because you don't sound like the kind of person that feels spiritually uplifted in a group setting, you would probably feel outcast.
just open your mind to the idea of a bigger life force, and feel the love. Go on an adventure by yourself, aka backpacking across europe or something. you will meet interesting people, but more importantly you will discover things about yourself and hopefully feel content.
remember that everyone is essentially alone. only you will be there your entire life through every experience, learn to appreciate that. you can't be alone if you have yourself
Don't try to fit in; it requires you to be false. Instead make friends with individual people. Be patient when they don't get you. Take note of the birth order of people you start getting close to. Try to understand how that makes them look at the world. You will be ';getting'; them. You are a complex person. To expect someone to understand you quickly is unfair to them.
You know, you are not the only one who feels that way or has felt that way from time to time. Find something that you are interested in and try to seek out people who are like minded. This can be through church, school or wherever. Start a club at your college for counseling sessions which just translates into rap sessions for people who don't feel that they fit. You may be surprised at how many responses you get. Good luck!
Our purpose is to support the underdog, to speak for those with no voice, to find the words to express misery, defeat, indecision, and the otherwise inexpressible.
We should find a way to share the joy of simplicity, we should show the way for others who simply wish to be, we are to cry at the sad songs, showing others that tears have a purpose and put a depth to feeling.
Our mission is not easy, and we are not to assume that the mission of others is any easier.
Just be, my fellow being, just be.......................lonely souls are very deep souls. The world needs depth far more than it knows.
The wisdom of the walk is revealed in the loneness of the walk.
Jesus will help you. One Night I was so lonely and hurt I felt like I wanted to die.
I went in my room and said with all of my heart Jesus I am a sinner.Please Forgive my sins.I believe You died on the cross and rose from the dead.Please forgive my sins Jesus.Come into my heart Jesus.
All of the sudden Jesus put so much love and peace inside of me it was almost unbelievable.But it happened.
Find a good church...Let god take care of this issue.
I'm a loner too, and I find going to a good church that I like, helps me feel comfortable around people. Church people aren't always about pushing the bible on you, It's a safe place to meet people that you can trust, and open up to.
there is nothing wrong with not spending your time in crowds of people, etc... unless you want to be.
my advice, be yourself. be what you want to be.
go out and do some fun things, and along the way you will meet a friend, or two.
Go to a church. Join a youth group. There are usually a number of people you could get to know, and the thing is you will all have something in common already.
Make a martyr of yourself... but first you need to find a cause. One that is founded on reality and truth.
Otherwise... forget about fitting in... just be yourself.
join the emos...they have cookies.
What do I do to fit in? Help?I've never felt like I fit in anywhere and I'm not much of a people person. Advice? I am a lonely soul.?
If you are not a people person, then get a pet.I've never felt like I fit in anywhere and I'm not much of a people person. Advice? I am a lonely soul.?
It may mean that you cannot really relate to most people, as is the case with Indigo and Crystal children. It doesn't mean you are bad, if this is the situation, it simply means you are channeled into a higher level of being.
But, as a previous person answered, I do not know you well enough to say what you are. What you are explaining can be of several reasons other than that you are an Indigo or Crystal, and that includes emotional issues, or perhaps in metaphysical terms, it has something to do with your ';life purpose';. Perhaps you are having these feelings because you are not comfortable with yourself.
Before you try to fit in, it is important to be one with yourself, and then you will see that the people who make you feel at ease and whole will naturally be drawn to you. There's no magic to it.
I hope this helps. : )
I understand just how you feel as all my life I have felt the same. What you don't understand is inside you hides a person who is much needed today. You are one who in my opinion could in fact change many things and will find people out there like you for who you are. Join or organize groups of people to help them develop co-opts, small businesses, things that make their lives better. You see not all of us were lucky enough to attend college but we collectively are quite bright. By giving back you will find the great person you have hidden inside just waiting to get out and make a difference. I, like you feel the same way and have for over 60 years but have finally got it.I intend to, be it in a small way make a difference, to change lives and help to understand myself as well.Remember, Great people don't always amass great wealth or win wars, the Greatest change lives one at a time. Make a difference. Good luck in all you do and God Bless.
I was just like you when I graduated from college. I don't like to be with people because I was thinking all the while that they won't like me. But when I started working in a big company with many workers and employees I changed a lot. My co-workers were just like my family members. I had not worked in any company but stayed here with people that care and loved me as I am. For 17 years I was with them. This had given me enough self confidence and moral values. After I resigned from work I could go anywhere and be with people of all sorts of life. And best of all I was found by the Lord and He put me in a church with people who loved and understood me. I became a Christian and God made me a person with vigor, zeal and joy even at my age at 66. I still enjoy my life with young and old people in church. There is joy in serving God.
I'm afraid I don't know you well enough (at all, really) to comment on your behaviour, but what attracts me most to a person is their ability to be completely at ease with themselves. Maybe you are projecting your loneliness onto other people, so that they feel a sort of desperation coming off you? Try to relax more.
Again, I could be completely off here. We need a little more to go on from you if you want us to be really helpful.
go on a spiritual journey.
i wouldn't recommend church for you because you don't sound like the kind of person that feels spiritually uplifted in a group setting, you would probably feel outcast.
just open your mind to the idea of a bigger life force, and feel the love. Go on an adventure by yourself, aka backpacking across europe or something. you will meet interesting people, but more importantly you will discover things about yourself and hopefully feel content.
remember that everyone is essentially alone. only you will be there your entire life through every experience, learn to appreciate that. you can't be alone if you have yourself
Don't try to fit in; it requires you to be false. Instead make friends with individual people. Be patient when they don't get you. Take note of the birth order of people you start getting close to. Try to understand how that makes them look at the world. You will be ';getting'; them. You are a complex person. To expect someone to understand you quickly is unfair to them.
You know, you are not the only one who feels that way or has felt that way from time to time. Find something that you are interested in and try to seek out people who are like minded. This can be through church, school or wherever. Start a club at your college for counseling sessions which just translates into rap sessions for people who don't feel that they fit. You may be surprised at how many responses you get. Good luck!
Our purpose is to support the underdog, to speak for those with no voice, to find the words to express misery, defeat, indecision, and the otherwise inexpressible.
We should find a way to share the joy of simplicity, we should show the way for others who simply wish to be, we are to cry at the sad songs, showing others that tears have a purpose and put a depth to feeling.
Our mission is not easy, and we are not to assume that the mission of others is any easier.
Just be, my fellow being, just be.......................lonely souls are very deep souls. The world needs depth far more than it knows.
The wisdom of the walk is revealed in the loneness of the walk.
Jesus will help you. One Night I was so lonely and hurt I felt like I wanted to die.
I went in my room and said with all of my heart Jesus I am a sinner.Please Forgive my sins.I believe You died on the cross and rose from the dead.Please forgive my sins Jesus.Come into my heart Jesus.
All of the sudden Jesus put so much love and peace inside of me it was almost unbelievable.But it happened.
Find a good church...Let god take care of this issue.
I'm a loner too, and I find going to a good church that I like, helps me feel comfortable around people. Church people aren't always about pushing the bible on you, It's a safe place to meet people that you can trust, and open up to.
there is nothing wrong with not spending your time in crowds of people, etc... unless you want to be.
my advice, be yourself. be what you want to be.
go out and do some fun things, and along the way you will meet a friend, or two.
Go to a church. Join a youth group. There are usually a number of people you could get to know, and the thing is you will all have something in common already.
Make a martyr of yourself... but first you need to find a cause. One that is founded on reality and truth.
Otherwise... forget about fitting in... just be yourself.
join the emos...they have cookies.
Need advice from people asap!?
Ok guys (and girls) what weight would you say is the right weight for someone who is 172cm (5';8), and is fairly athletic? I'm 55 or 57kg... am i fat??
thanksNeed advice from people asap!?
that's only 121-122 pounds! thats not fat at all!
thanksNeed advice from people asap!?
that's only 121-122 pounds! thats not fat at all!
Where can you get advice on future career direction and what might those people advise you about?
1. career or guidance counselors in schools; life coaches
2. advise you on ways to help you find your direction/pathWhere can you get advice on future career direction and what might those people advise you about?
Several different options for you: at the library, see the Occupational Outlook which is updated regularily. Lists jobs, what they entail, salary, etc. Next, take the Meyers-Briggs Test, this shows what you have a strong interest in that you'd probably be good at doing. There are Career Counselors, they charge some hefty fees for their time. The other less expensive option would be to go to some sort of Workforce Development Training Center in your area (they go by different titles).
My two cents...do what you love, figure out how to make money at it.
2. advise you on ways to help you find your direction/pathWhere can you get advice on future career direction and what might those people advise you about?
Several different options for you: at the library, see the Occupational Outlook which is updated regularily. Lists jobs, what they entail, salary, etc. Next, take the Meyers-Briggs Test, this shows what you have a strong interest in that you'd probably be good at doing. There are Career Counselors, they charge some hefty fees for their time. The other less expensive option would be to go to some sort of Workforce Development Training Center in your area (they go by different titles).
My two cents...do what you love, figure out how to make money at it.
Relationship advice - mature people help me out!! :(?
My bf got mad at me last night over some things I didn't realize I was doing. I did apologize, but he's still angry. We love each other, but as some people say, ';sometimes love isn't enough';. Should I try and call him, or should I let him call me when he's ready to talk? It was something minor that turned into a blow-up, and now I think I've lost him. But, if I don't try to talk to him will he think I don't care? I'm just trying to let him work through his emotions right now, and not exacerbate the situation until he's ready to talk. I'm so sad...please don't make fun of me.
Thanks.Relationship advice - mature people help me out!! :(?
Their are two things you can do. 1. - send him a card, stating I am sorry, please except my apology, and have dinner with me, you can take him out or you can cook!! 2 - You can make that phone call. and say, ';Honey I am so sorry, can we kiss an make up?'; And Baby, the next time we have a disagreement, can we work, on trying to talk about it, so we will not have to go through any thing like this again? I want us to have a good strong relationship, and be able to deal with any situation!!Relationship advice - mature people help me out!! :(?
I think you should wait for a couple of days and then call him..Tell him you're sorry again...THen have a chat about how you usually act and ask him to tell you if you've done something he doesn't like...But that does not mean you should comply to whatever he says=)
for people to help you your going to have to say what you did
Yeah, but you didn't say what things you were doing....I would have to know that first.
Always at least make an effort to talk to someone or let them know you would like to talk. Never assume that they will know your waiting on them because they could be waiting on you and then nothing ever happens other than both people get more upset with each other.
Call him. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then let him work thru his feelings. But next time make it be known that if you do something that annoys him then he needs to say something from jump. It's not fair to let that shyt fester and then blow up one day when it could all be resolved in the beginning...and you had no idea. My ex did that all the time. And that's why were ex's.
Talk to him. Don't play games like that. It's SO annoying,
i get some of the same reactions, your doing the right thing let him have his space BUT dont be putting yourself down. There might be things that you do that pisses him off but what about the **** he does. Mine does things he wants and i have to deal so i started playing his game and guess what he dont like it. Live your life for you not him
Give it a few days and if he hasn't called by then, call him. that way he has some time, but you aren't giving him too much time to let him think that you don't care.
you are right to give him time. Later (and you'll know when the time is right), talk about how it made you feel being isolated. Ask him if it's something you both can work on as a couple - is it something that he feels only your behavior that should changed... work it out together.
send him a letter or an email to explain how you feel. that way is less intrusive, if he doesn't want to talk to you then allow him that option. women tend to talk too much (I know I'm one!) and that really aggravates men especially when they are upset with you. You guys may work this out and live happily ever after
Just send him a message telling him your sorry and that you hope you can work things out because you love him and miss him.
I know you want to give him space thats fine, but don't leave it to long because your be going out of your head.
If you don't speak to him today go round to him with something he likes, something special so he can see how much you love him.
Good luck keep your head up
It would kinda help if we knew what he got mad about, but to be honest, if it was minor and you apologized, I think he is looking for a reason to be mad at you. Has he become distant lately? Did you see this coming? If everything was great, then he turned on you, this is suspect too. I know you hurt, but you shouldn't chase a guy who treats you like this. I would call him one more and ask him if you guys are OK (still dating) because you still care about him. See what his reaction is. An apology for something minor is ALL I NEED to get over it, so I think he is creating something over nothing to get out of this relationship. give it one more try, but don't chase him.....there are plenty of other guys that would love to have you.
Thanks.Relationship advice - mature people help me out!! :(?
Their are two things you can do. 1. - send him a card, stating I am sorry, please except my apology, and have dinner with me, you can take him out or you can cook!! 2 - You can make that phone call. and say, ';Honey I am so sorry, can we kiss an make up?'; And Baby, the next time we have a disagreement, can we work, on trying to talk about it, so we will not have to go through any thing like this again? I want us to have a good strong relationship, and be able to deal with any situation!!Relationship advice - mature people help me out!! :(?
I think you should wait for a couple of days and then call him..Tell him you're sorry again...THen have a chat about how you usually act and ask him to tell you if you've done something he doesn't like...But that does not mean you should comply to whatever he says=)
for people to help you your going to have to say what you did
Yeah, but you didn't say what things you were doing....I would have to know that first.
Always at least make an effort to talk to someone or let them know you would like to talk. Never assume that they will know your waiting on them because they could be waiting on you and then nothing ever happens other than both people get more upset with each other.
Call him. If he doesn't want to talk to you, then let him work thru his feelings. But next time make it be known that if you do something that annoys him then he needs to say something from jump. It's not fair to let that shyt fester and then blow up one day when it could all be resolved in the beginning...and you had no idea. My ex did that all the time. And that's why were ex's.
Talk to him. Don't play games like that. It's SO annoying,
i get some of the same reactions, your doing the right thing let him have his space BUT dont be putting yourself down. There might be things that you do that pisses him off but what about the **** he does. Mine does things he wants and i have to deal so i started playing his game and guess what he dont like it. Live your life for you not him
Give it a few days and if he hasn't called by then, call him. that way he has some time, but you aren't giving him too much time to let him think that you don't care.
you are right to give him time. Later (and you'll know when the time is right), talk about how it made you feel being isolated. Ask him if it's something you both can work on as a couple - is it something that he feels only your behavior that should changed... work it out together.
send him a letter or an email to explain how you feel. that way is less intrusive, if he doesn't want to talk to you then allow him that option. women tend to talk too much (I know I'm one!) and that really aggravates men especially when they are upset with you. You guys may work this out and live happily ever after
Just send him a message telling him your sorry and that you hope you can work things out because you love him and miss him.
I know you want to give him space thats fine, but don't leave it to long because your be going out of your head.
If you don't speak to him today go round to him with something he likes, something special so he can see how much you love him.
Good luck keep your head up
It would kinda help if we knew what he got mad about, but to be honest, if it was minor and you apologized, I think he is looking for a reason to be mad at you. Has he become distant lately? Did you see this coming? If everything was great, then he turned on you, this is suspect too. I know you hurt, but you shouldn't chase a guy who treats you like this. I would call him one more and ask him if you guys are OK (still dating) because you still care about him. See what his reaction is. An apology for something minor is ALL I NEED to get over it, so I think he is creating something over nothing to get out of this relationship. give it one more try, but don't chase him.....there are plenty of other guys that would love to have you.
I want advice from older people about what you wish you did or didn't do when you were younger.?
I'm young. And i want your advice. Looking back from where you are in your life now, what do you wish you would have done or what do you wish you would have done differently when you were younger? Please state your age range like 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. I'de like to get a wide variety of answers from several different age groups. Any advice will be appreciated. From specific examples to broad ideas.. anything!
thank you!:)I want advice from older people about what you wish you did or didn't do when you were younger.?
Nearly 70 and if I were to go back in time, I would have, #1. gotten more education, #2. planned for retirement better than I did. #3. lived a healthier life, #4. helped more people who were in need.I want advice from older people about what you wish you did or didn't do when you were younger.?
i will be 30 in the next few months,i wish i would have not worried about high school as much, i hated it and everyone in it,when i went to my class reunion ,all the jocks , preps, and pretty girls were all overweight and ugly with lots of kids.i wish i would have went to college right out of school so i could have had a chance to travel the world in my early 20's that is my biggest regret
Wish I had stuck $2000 in an IRA and left it in a Vanguard index fund - never touching it. In the big picture, you'll never miss it and you'll never regret having done it when you're my age. I would have been able to retire at a much earlier age if I had done this. I'm 44.
Well, I don't know who you want here but I'm in my 20s and I think you should be happy no matter what. You learn from mistakes and you're doomed to repeat them if you don't learn from them.
40 years old. Wish I was never born and almost, just about everything after that day!!
40's, life is a lot easier than it seems.
You're smart.
Wow, what a cool question.. serious.
First thing I'll say is everyone needs to make their own mistakes, but your question is the best I've come across as it may really help you live a more fulfilled life.
I'm not sure how young you are... but I'm thinking if you're in your teens, well however old you are... I'm 28.
If you have a dream go for it, anything really is possible.. I look back and thought I was too old to start dancing at 15 (haha, boy was I wrong).
Be open to having your heart broken, I think it does wonders for the soul, no matter how bad it hurts at the time, you'll never experience the appreciation of love, without being burnt.
Don't drink too much on a first date, (I stupidly did this the other night, yes and I'm supposed to be older and wiser.. hmmm).
If you're in school, don't worry too much about the trivial things, or negative people... just focus on all the good things in your life and you'll look back and go ''god, I can't believe I stressed about that?''.
I would never change anything in my life, as it's all character building and makes you all the more stronger.
No matter how old you get, you don't ever stop making mistakes. You'll live and learn until the day you die.
To be honest, I believe nothing really changes, everyone has a different story... but we're constantly discovering more things about life and about people for the most part of our time here... we never stop learning.
And last but not least, listen to the sunscreen song... best advice I have ever heard.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXM鈥?/a>
Good luck honey and this is very importnant: Always be yourself and be true to yourself... xeye makeup remover
thank you!:)I want advice from older people about what you wish you did or didn't do when you were younger.?
Nearly 70 and if I were to go back in time, I would have, #1. gotten more education, #2. planned for retirement better than I did. #3. lived a healthier life, #4. helped more people who were in need.I want advice from older people about what you wish you did or didn't do when you were younger.?
i will be 30 in the next few months,i wish i would have not worried about high school as much, i hated it and everyone in it,when i went to my class reunion ,all the jocks , preps, and pretty girls were all overweight and ugly with lots of kids.i wish i would have went to college right out of school so i could have had a chance to travel the world in my early 20's that is my biggest regret
Wish I had stuck $2000 in an IRA and left it in a Vanguard index fund - never touching it. In the big picture, you'll never miss it and you'll never regret having done it when you're my age. I would have been able to retire at a much earlier age if I had done this. I'm 44.
Well, I don't know who you want here but I'm in my 20s and I think you should be happy no matter what. You learn from mistakes and you're doomed to repeat them if you don't learn from them.
40 years old. Wish I was never born and almost, just about everything after that day!!
40's, life is a lot easier than it seems.
You're smart.
Wow, what a cool question.. serious.
First thing I'll say is everyone needs to make their own mistakes, but your question is the best I've come across as it may really help you live a more fulfilled life.
I'm not sure how young you are... but I'm thinking if you're in your teens, well however old you are... I'm 28.
If you have a dream go for it, anything really is possible.. I look back and thought I was too old to start dancing at 15 (haha, boy was I wrong).
Be open to having your heart broken, I think it does wonders for the soul, no matter how bad it hurts at the time, you'll never experience the appreciation of love, without being burnt.
Don't drink too much on a first date, (I stupidly did this the other night, yes and I'm supposed to be older and wiser.. hmmm).
If you're in school, don't worry too much about the trivial things, or negative people... just focus on all the good things in your life and you'll look back and go ''god, I can't believe I stressed about that?''.
I would never change anything in my life, as it's all character building and makes you all the more stronger.
No matter how old you get, you don't ever stop making mistakes. You'll live and learn until the day you die.
To be honest, I believe nothing really changes, everyone has a different story... but we're constantly discovering more things about life and about people for the most part of our time here... we never stop learning.
And last but not least, listen to the sunscreen song... best advice I have ever heard.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXM鈥?/a>
Good luck honey and this is very importnant: Always be yourself and be true to yourself... x
CHICKS AND DUDES PLEASE ANSWER AND HELP A BROTHER OUT. what do you say? im needing some advice here people?
what do you say to a girl after 6 months of not speaking. wedont speak because we 'hate' each other lol. she thinks im ugly, a creep a stalker and too clingy. im a man now. im 23 years old. what should i say to her?CHICKS AND DUDES PLEASE ANSWER AND HELP A BROTHER OUT. what do you say? im needing some advice here people?
Don't bother with her,She has already said mean things to you.Move on and find someone who doesn't disrespect you and has a mutual likeness toward you.CHICKS AND DUDES PLEASE ANSWER AND HELP A BROTHER OUT. what do you say? im needing some advice here people?
Tell her you hate her
Absolutely nothing. Move on you haven't spoken for a reason.
IF SHE IS ACCUSING YOU OF STALKING HER, THEN I WOULD NOT SAY ANYTHING TO HER UNLESS MAYBE YOU RAN INTO HER ONE DAY SOMEWHERE OR SHE MIGHT PUT A HARRASSMENT WARRANT OUT ON YOU.
Don't bother with her,She has already said mean things to you.Move on and find someone who doesn't disrespect you and has a mutual likeness toward you.CHICKS AND DUDES PLEASE ANSWER AND HELP A BROTHER OUT. what do you say? im needing some advice here people?
Tell her you hate her
Absolutely nothing. Move on you haven't spoken for a reason.
IF SHE IS ACCUSING YOU OF STALKING HER, THEN I WOULD NOT SAY ANYTHING TO HER UNLESS MAYBE YOU RAN INTO HER ONE DAY SOMEWHERE OR SHE MIGHT PUT A HARRASSMENT WARRANT OUT ON YOU.
Any advice on people?
Recently one of the girls in my class (in high school) started to talk to me. She always says how intelligent I am (academically)... and today she asked ';So who's your girlfriend, Paul?'; I replied ';Uh... I don't have one.'; She says ';Are there any girls you like?'; I replied again, ';Yes';. ';In this school?'; ';Yes';.
You guessed it. I was lying through my teeth; I'm not really interested in any girls right now. And I don't plan to for a while. Is there something wrong with me? For the past couple years I've had this fear that I will never be able to get a girlfriend/get married and have a life simply because I don't have a clue on how to do it. I suck with girls. I wouldn't know the right thing to say if my life depended on it. Some kids the same age as me say that they have girlfriends; what is up with me? I've always considered myself the smart silent type. I don't go to parties/events/join clubs or anything like that. How will I ever succeed in life?Any advice on people?
Well you definatley don't need a woman to succeed. Its just a plus. It sounds like you really fear rejection. And its not that big of a deal that you just aren't interested in relationships right now. It's actually kind of smart, and drives a lot of girls WILD. The girl u talk about sounds like she likes you. Continue having conversation with her, and let her know that you fear relationship because u are bad at them. Maybe she can give you some pointers, because she knows u better than any of us on here. Have u had past relationships? Did ex girlfriend mention anything to u about being a bad boyfriend? As long as you treat ur girl well, and make her a priority u should be fine! Good luck!Any advice on people?
I don't understand which is the problem here. Is that the girl or the fact u don't like anybody? Whatever it is, DO NOT WORRY. Not liking somebody is not strange, u just haven't met a person that makes ur heart pulsate fast and u have time to do that. U'll find sb u'll have feelings for and then everything else will come. Take ur time. Life is not just high-school.
I hope u'll find ur perfect match... Cheers!
Okay look i am in high school as well and yes i am a girl! look if this girl likes you in any sort of the way you BETTER go with her i mean their is no way a smart guy like you could completely go through out their life without a partner. it is almost impossible and if you are horrible with girls just say what is on ur mind cuz we usually think that it is cute.!
hope i helped
shelbie
or e-mail me at shelbie.anderson@sendit.nodak.edu
sounds like the girl who was talking to you liked you, just you know..do her.
There's nothing wrong with you. You're just shy. You just need to take your time things will come eventually. You still got alot of growing up to do so you have plenty of time for parties and girls don't worry just yet.
Do you have a driver's license? Do you think that you just go down and ask for one and they just hand it to you? No, you have to practice driving, just like you have to practice relationships. How do you develop driving skills? By driving. So if you are as smart as you claim to be , I'll let you figure this one out..... How do you develop dating skills?
When I was younger I was pretty clueless when it came to girls. Yet, I learned that when a girl is smiling and talking to you, trying to get you to talk, that means she is interested. Maybe not as a boyfriend, just a friend at first. Talk to a girl just like you would any of your guy friends or someone in your family. It is that easy. Don't worry about getting married and all of that yet my young friend, that is way down the road. You make your own luck. Follow your bliss.
You guessed it. I was lying through my teeth; I'm not really interested in any girls right now. And I don't plan to for a while. Is there something wrong with me? For the past couple years I've had this fear that I will never be able to get a girlfriend/get married and have a life simply because I don't have a clue on how to do it. I suck with girls. I wouldn't know the right thing to say if my life depended on it. Some kids the same age as me say that they have girlfriends; what is up with me? I've always considered myself the smart silent type. I don't go to parties/events/join clubs or anything like that. How will I ever succeed in life?Any advice on people?
Well you definatley don't need a woman to succeed. Its just a plus. It sounds like you really fear rejection. And its not that big of a deal that you just aren't interested in relationships right now. It's actually kind of smart, and drives a lot of girls WILD. The girl u talk about sounds like she likes you. Continue having conversation with her, and let her know that you fear relationship because u are bad at them. Maybe she can give you some pointers, because she knows u better than any of us on here. Have u had past relationships? Did ex girlfriend mention anything to u about being a bad boyfriend? As long as you treat ur girl well, and make her a priority u should be fine! Good luck!Any advice on people?
I don't understand which is the problem here. Is that the girl or the fact u don't like anybody? Whatever it is, DO NOT WORRY. Not liking somebody is not strange, u just haven't met a person that makes ur heart pulsate fast and u have time to do that. U'll find sb u'll have feelings for and then everything else will come. Take ur time. Life is not just high-school.
I hope u'll find ur perfect match... Cheers!
Okay look i am in high school as well and yes i am a girl! look if this girl likes you in any sort of the way you BETTER go with her i mean their is no way a smart guy like you could completely go through out their life without a partner. it is almost impossible and if you are horrible with girls just say what is on ur mind cuz we usually think that it is cute.!
hope i helped
shelbie
or e-mail me at shelbie.anderson@sendit.nodak.edu
sounds like the girl who was talking to you liked you, just you know..do her.
There's nothing wrong with you. You're just shy. You just need to take your time things will come eventually. You still got alot of growing up to do so you have plenty of time for parties and girls don't worry just yet.
Do you have a driver's license? Do you think that you just go down and ask for one and they just hand it to you? No, you have to practice driving, just like you have to practice relationships. How do you develop driving skills? By driving. So if you are as smart as you claim to be , I'll let you figure this one out..... How do you develop dating skills?
When I was younger I was pretty clueless when it came to girls. Yet, I learned that when a girl is smiling and talking to you, trying to get you to talk, that means she is interested. Maybe not as a boyfriend, just a friend at first. Talk to a girl just like you would any of your guy friends or someone in your family. It is that easy. Don't worry about getting married and all of that yet my young friend, that is way down the road. You make your own luck. Follow your bliss.
I need some advice, any hairdressers or people who know a lot about hair?
I got my hair dyed dark brown in October as it was bleach blonde. The hairdresser told me it would need to be dyed a couple more times before it holds. Now its really light and I'm not sure if I should get it dark again as its summer and it might get lighter again. How do you stop your hair getting lighter in the sun?I need some advice, any hairdressers or people who know a lot about hair?
You can't, that's the way it is. I have dyed my hair blonde once, but I could see my brown curls coming up. I decided to keep my hair dark. But I would say wait until it gets cooler out , near the end of the summer, that's when it's best to get it dyed. If you have a pool or something, wait until its colder, you don't want your hair to turn green.I need some advice, any hairdressers or people who know a lot about hair?
if you keep dyeing your hair it will fall out but you might want to stick with dyeing your hair a couple of times before you have it change the color of your hair style and that as you get older you will have your hair change different color's every time you get older and older.trust me it will change because that is what happen to my hair.
Hats, bandanas, scarfs, only physical barriers help to block the sun's color fading rays.
YOU CANT.
it's not possible....wtf?
You can't, that's the way it is. I have dyed my hair blonde once, but I could see my brown curls coming up. I decided to keep my hair dark. But I would say wait until it gets cooler out , near the end of the summer, that's when it's best to get it dyed. If you have a pool or something, wait until its colder, you don't want your hair to turn green.I need some advice, any hairdressers or people who know a lot about hair?
if you keep dyeing your hair it will fall out but you might want to stick with dyeing your hair a couple of times before you have it change the color of your hair style and that as you get older you will have your hair change different color's every time you get older and older.trust me it will change because that is what happen to my hair.
Hats, bandanas, scarfs, only physical barriers help to block the sun's color fading rays.
YOU CANT.
it's not possible....wtf?
I'm looking for advice from people who have been divorced...?
Is there anyone else who married young, and later realized that they had little in common, and loved each other, but weren't really in love?I'm looking for advice from people who have been divorced...?
I would b e one of them people i got married the age of 19 ! to a guy in the Army we got married and had a baby then 11 months laters got devoriced it just was not ment to be we are better friends then we were ever lovers he's remarried and happy and has an other kid i have an other kid as well just not remarriedI'm looking for advice from people who have been divorced...?
Well, I married very young. I was 18, and 3 months out of high school. I was very much in love with him and he with me. We had a fair amount in common, but not in the way that matters. He was devoted to his pornography and his countless attempts to molest young girls, one of which was a family member, and his lifetime habit of self-gratification. We were married 14 years before I found out about the jacking off, and he knew how I felt about it. I knew about the porn and the one incident with my family member, and he had entered counseling, but when I found out that he still was actively trying to pursue young girls, continuing with the porn addiction, and about the jacking off I couldn't stay with a pervert any longer. I was supportive of an effort to change, but it was my effort, not his. We have 3 young boys and I will not allow them to grow up thinking that any of this is proper behavior of responsible adult men. We have been divorced about 18 months now. I did the leaving and the filing for divorce. Best decision I have ever made.
If I knew what I know now when I was 18, I would never ever ever marry before I was 24.
I am happy and peaceful for the 1st time in almost 20 years.
I was with my first husband since we were 16, got married at 18, divorced at 32. ex was a cheater, abuser, alcoholic. we had nothing in common.
Life is what you make it, if you can't be happy, get out. If you can work it out, more power to you. marriage is hard work and takes a lot of commitment. people grow and change, that is just part of life.
I was married when I was 18, the marriage lastest 5 months which was long enough to get pregnant, we ended it clean and friendly when we realized the mistake, and now I am married to my second husband 7 years and we are still very much in love....true loves are out there, and always remember to learn from your mistakes instead of regretting them.
This is a common occurrence, but is not advice. Sadly, some will go through an entire human life and never know what true love is, nor will they know that it exists, even though they have heard of it.
i married young too at 15 to be exact and later i realized a lot of thing but i did really love him but we have a lot of thing that makes the relationship hard for both of us so i really gets what you mean by this question
It can and does happen all the time... Sometimes we are too young to realize what true love and a long commitment means... There's a lot more to it than just hopping each others bones... It can be a very sad realization when you finally feel that emptiness inside and feel that there is nothing really binding the both of you together as a couple... Hopefully at this point you know what you really need in a relationship and what you should expect and demand from it... Life is one big lesson... Don't give up just yet...
I've been there and done that and was smart enough to get out of it. Fortunately for me we did not have kids.
I would b e one of them people i got married the age of 19 ! to a guy in the Army we got married and had a baby then 11 months laters got devoriced it just was not ment to be we are better friends then we were ever lovers he's remarried and happy and has an other kid i have an other kid as well just not remarriedI'm looking for advice from people who have been divorced...?
Well, I married very young. I was 18, and 3 months out of high school. I was very much in love with him and he with me. We had a fair amount in common, but not in the way that matters. He was devoted to his pornography and his countless attempts to molest young girls, one of which was a family member, and his lifetime habit of self-gratification. We were married 14 years before I found out about the jacking off, and he knew how I felt about it. I knew about the porn and the one incident with my family member, and he had entered counseling, but when I found out that he still was actively trying to pursue young girls, continuing with the porn addiction, and about the jacking off I couldn't stay with a pervert any longer. I was supportive of an effort to change, but it was my effort, not his. We have 3 young boys and I will not allow them to grow up thinking that any of this is proper behavior of responsible adult men. We have been divorced about 18 months now. I did the leaving and the filing for divorce. Best decision I have ever made.
If I knew what I know now when I was 18, I would never ever ever marry before I was 24.
I am happy and peaceful for the 1st time in almost 20 years.
I was with my first husband since we were 16, got married at 18, divorced at 32. ex was a cheater, abuser, alcoholic. we had nothing in common.
Life is what you make it, if you can't be happy, get out. If you can work it out, more power to you. marriage is hard work and takes a lot of commitment. people grow and change, that is just part of life.
I was married when I was 18, the marriage lastest 5 months which was long enough to get pregnant, we ended it clean and friendly when we realized the mistake, and now I am married to my second husband 7 years and we are still very much in love....true loves are out there, and always remember to learn from your mistakes instead of regretting them.
This is a common occurrence, but is not advice. Sadly, some will go through an entire human life and never know what true love is, nor will they know that it exists, even though they have heard of it.
i married young too at 15 to be exact and later i realized a lot of thing but i did really love him but we have a lot of thing that makes the relationship hard for both of us so i really gets what you mean by this question
It can and does happen all the time... Sometimes we are too young to realize what true love and a long commitment means... There's a lot more to it than just hopping each others bones... It can be a very sad realization when you finally feel that emptiness inside and feel that there is nothing really binding the both of you together as a couple... Hopefully at this point you know what you really need in a relationship and what you should expect and demand from it... Life is one big lesson... Don't give up just yet...
I've been there and done that and was smart enough to get out of it. Fortunately for me we did not have kids.
Advice please people!!?
Its a bit long winded but here goes.
I fell pregnant and my partner and I had split up when I found out, when I found I told him and he said he didn't think it was his.He didn't want anything to do with son so i accepted it.
I had been with a guy for 2 years before and got on so well, he decided he would take my son on as his own. If my ex decided one day that he thought my son looked like him could he demand a test or what are his rights if not on the birth certificate.
Thanks guysAdvice please people!!?
At the end of the day if it is his child you shouldnt stop him seeing that child or getting to know him no matter how badly he treated you in the past. He might be a jerk but it is up to your son to make up his own mind. I dont know if legally he can demand a DNA test but I think your son might have an issue with it when he grows up if he found out you tried to keep his real dad from himAdvice please people!!?
forget this mans rights, think about your sons rights. he has a right to know who his real father is. the man who has raised him is his real daddy but nothing compares to the biological call.
if you deny your son this now then if he comes to you as a young adult and asks why you didn't let him have a relationship with his dad you will not be able to give any answer that will appease him
well he has no right to demand a DNA,,,,ho hang on you are saying IF HE DEMANDS sorry i changed my mind if he wants a test done let him have one done prove the child is his then put in for maintainance
well you should want him to have a DNA test, it will prove that he has been an idiot and no matter what you think - your child has a right to know who his/her birth dad is at some point in their lives
I fell pregnant and my partner and I had split up when I found out, when I found I told him and he said he didn't think it was his.He didn't want anything to do with son so i accepted it.
I had been with a guy for 2 years before and got on so well, he decided he would take my son on as his own. If my ex decided one day that he thought my son looked like him could he demand a test or what are his rights if not on the birth certificate.
Thanks guysAdvice please people!!?
At the end of the day if it is his child you shouldnt stop him seeing that child or getting to know him no matter how badly he treated you in the past. He might be a jerk but it is up to your son to make up his own mind. I dont know if legally he can demand a DNA test but I think your son might have an issue with it when he grows up if he found out you tried to keep his real dad from himAdvice please people!!?
forget this mans rights, think about your sons rights. he has a right to know who his real father is. the man who has raised him is his real daddy but nothing compares to the biological call.
if you deny your son this now then if he comes to you as a young adult and asks why you didn't let him have a relationship with his dad you will not be able to give any answer that will appease him
well he has no right to demand a DNA,,,,ho hang on you are saying IF HE DEMANDS sorry i changed my mind if he wants a test done let him have one done prove the child is his then put in for maintainance
well you should want him to have a DNA test, it will prove that he has been an idiot and no matter what you think - your child has a right to know who his/her birth dad is at some point in their lives
Is there any advice you would give to young people about dental hygiene that they should follow for...?
the rest of their lives?
MY advice would be always to floss your teeth after consuming a meal that contains meat. THAT stuff can get caught between your teeth and cause you more problems when it comes time to visit the dentist.Is there any advice you would give to young people about dental hygiene that they should follow for...?
You bet !
Lots of folks do not know that the secret of having a nice clean breath is to BRUSH YOUR TONGUE.
Yep, all those little convolutions are where the bacteria love to park and give off their nasty odors.
A nice rinse with water afterwards will make sure that next kiss will make the receiver ask for seconds !Is there any advice you would give to young people about dental hygiene that they should follow for...?
Flossing once a day everyday and brushing at least twice a day is a good rule to live by.
Also make sure that you are going to your dentist 2 times a year for your checkups.
Do not use mouth wash with alcohol in it.eye makeup remover
MY advice would be always to floss your teeth after consuming a meal that contains meat. THAT stuff can get caught between your teeth and cause you more problems when it comes time to visit the dentist.Is there any advice you would give to young people about dental hygiene that they should follow for...?
You bet !
Lots of folks do not know that the secret of having a nice clean breath is to BRUSH YOUR TONGUE.
Yep, all those little convolutions are where the bacteria love to park and give off their nasty odors.
A nice rinse with water afterwards will make sure that next kiss will make the receiver ask for seconds !Is there any advice you would give to young people about dental hygiene that they should follow for...?
Flossing once a day everyday and brushing at least twice a day is a good rule to live by.
Also make sure that you are going to your dentist 2 times a year for your checkups.
Do not use mouth wash with alcohol in it.
Please help...need advice for people?
i like a girl at school...and i want to be her boifriend...wat should i do....she is asian and is really nicePlease help...need advice for people?
Ask her out. Get to know her. Don't just randomly walk up to her. Try to run in to her once in a while and find things in common. Not much else I can say...I don't know much about her either.Please help...need advice for people?
just go for it and ask her out. good luck!!!!!!!
Ask her out. Get to know her. Don't just randomly walk up to her. Try to run in to her once in a while and find things in common. Not much else I can say...I don't know much about her either.Please help...need advice for people?
just go for it and ask her out. good luck!!!!!!!
Do u make a mud mask or do u buy it what do i need to know about them.... need advice from people who know!!?
St.Ives %26amp; Mary Kay #3 have a clay based mask. Clay will help tighten pores %26amp; gives your skin a good cleaning out. Even Mary Kay formula 2 is good, it has also crystals in it with the clay base. St.Ives is a good product for the price. I've even used it in the tub then washed it off to get a good soft feeling.Do u make a mud mask or do u buy it what do i need to know about them.... need advice from people who know!!?
You for sure should buy a pre-made mud/clay mask. (however you can make them but you have to buy the right supplies and alot of times comes out to be WAY more then buying one at the store) You can get pre-ade masks anywhere (Walmart, drugstores, makeup counters....) And they range from really cheap to quite pricey. My favorite is Ulta's Spa Escape Sedona clay mineral mask. It is about $15 at Ulta and comes in a 9.5 oz jar.Do u make a mud mask or do u buy it what do i need to know about them.... need advice from people who know!!?
you definitely buy a mudmask... you can't just use dirt fro outside.
you buy it, and they're really good for oily skin because they soak up the excess oil.
personally, I love them to put a little bit on zits when I break out, because it dries them up and it helps them heal way faster!
you can buy them Queen Helene have really good mask. So does St ives...I have these and use these!!!!
But I have found organic real mud and clay in health stores!!!!!
I have done mask with these with bottle water and tea tree oil!!!! they are the best!!!!!
umm i think its best youh buy it .
don't trust these people they mght make youh put poo on your face and say thats how youh make a mud mask.
go and buy it , its safer
You for sure should buy a pre-made mud/clay mask. (however you can make them but you have to buy the right supplies and alot of times comes out to be WAY more then buying one at the store) You can get pre-ade masks anywhere (Walmart, drugstores, makeup counters....) And they range from really cheap to quite pricey. My favorite is Ulta's Spa Escape Sedona clay mineral mask. It is about $15 at Ulta and comes in a 9.5 oz jar.Do u make a mud mask or do u buy it what do i need to know about them.... need advice from people who know!!?
you definitely buy a mudmask... you can't just use dirt fro outside.
you buy it, and they're really good for oily skin because they soak up the excess oil.
personally, I love them to put a little bit on zits when I break out, because it dries them up and it helps them heal way faster!
you can buy them Queen Helene have really good mask. So does St ives...I have these and use these!!!!
But I have found organic real mud and clay in health stores!!!!!
I have done mask with these with bottle water and tea tree oil!!!! they are the best!!!!!
umm i think its best youh buy it .
don't trust these people they mght make youh put poo on your face and say thats how youh make a mud mask.
go and buy it , its safer
Can i get some advice from some people that have a relationship with God?
i hate who i am, i hate that i feel as though i am going nowhere, i hate the fact that i dont know what i am doing and that every thing i do is in vain. there are these three beautiful people that i love with my whole heart and i hate that i can never measure up to them. when you see them you see the Lord and that is what i want... but for some reason i cant obtain that. i hate feeling like i cant grow any closer to the Lord... and that i keep hindering myself. i hate wrestling with myself over what i should and should not be doing. i hate free will. i really wish that i could just run away from everyone that knows me and just start over with just me and the Lord. what should i do?Can i get some advice from some people that have a relationship with God?
I am going to encourage here, if I can. All of us who are true believers in God go through dry times, remember King David? God does not hate who you are, There is nothing you can do to make Him love you more or less. Do not compare yourself to others, that will only make you miserable, because there will always be someone who seems stronger in the Lord than you are. Also remember that what you do, is not as important to God as who you are, and that is not even as important as who you belong to. If you have accepted Christ as your Savior, you belong to the One who created and loves you. He brought you into a close relationship only because of Christ. He desires for you that closeness. Take time alone with God, through the Word and prayer. You can start over with Him. Tell God your desire is to follow Him, and take baby steps. He loves you, and He knows you better than you even know yourself. Do not get discouraged.Can i get some advice from some people that have a relationship with God?
Get the book the course in miracles.
Its only purpose is to show you how to have a close personal relationship with God.
It actually works.
Also you really need to stop being so hard on yourself. Being hypercritical toward your self is a learned trait and you are a lot better off if you can put this judgmental nonsense behind you.
Love and blessings Don
First of all, you can't accept that God loves you until you choose to love yourself in a balanced way. (Not conceit or self-centeredness, but as God loves you.) Second of all, you are not SUPPOSED to ';measure up'; to anybody - God created you as a unique individual. You have to follow God's will for YOUR life - not His will for anybody else's. We all do not have the same call on our lives, so stop comparing yourself to other Christians. You CAN grow closer to the Lord, but you can't do it through works. You have to develop a relationship with Him by spending time with Him every day.
May I suggest that you try listening to Joyce Meyer? I know where you are - I've been there. But after listening to several of her teachings, I was able to realize that everyone has a different level of spiritual maturity and that's ok. Her teachings are done on a level that most people can relate to, and they might help you to understand WHO you are in Christ, and that God sees you as perfect IN CHRIST because of the blood of Christ that was shed for you - if you have accepted Christ as your Savior. Also, Chuck Swindoll is a wonderful teacher. Much love %26amp; prayers to you.
Let me start with been there... here's how I dealt with it...
I started by reading scriptures about how God felt about me...
It will benefit you the most to get a concordance and look up scriptures for yourself based on the things you are feeling.. I like the NIV bible (New International Version) myself.. (I'm not assuming you don't read the bible or have one, these are just in case you don't tips...)
Then when you have these negative thoughts you recall the verses about how much God loves you for who YOU ARE... remember God made us all unique, we are all His children and he doesn't base His love for you based on what you can or can't do.. That is unconditional love... nothing you can do can make him stop loving you...
I soon discovered that I had so many more talents than I thought... I am an encourager, so I started carrying little blank note cards and writing little notes to others about things I admired about them or made me think about something.. so many times people would come back to me and say... You have no idea how much that little note meant to me.. I was feeling so low, or I needed that note so bad, I've been so depressed.. etc etc.
When you start to see kindness, encouragement and other small acts as gifts you have and use them to lift other people up.. it will change your life... because what really happens is, you are lifted yourself..
YOU ARE SPECIAL
YOU DO MEASURE UP
YOU CAN...YOU REALLY CAN... GET CLOSER TO GOD
So today if all you do is tell yourself you aren't going to believe any more of Satans lies, and tell God you want to have a relationship with him... He WILL help you...
Pray with true FAITH... God CAN answer any prayer... nothing is insignificant to God!
Be grateful:... In your prayers, thank God for what you have, start with thanking him for 3 things each time you pray... It's eye opening !
True Facts:
Scripture is God's word speaking to you, your reading it keeps it in your head and your heart...
Satan is a liar, and he DOES NOT want you close to God..
Who are YOU going to listen to today???
P.S, Those three special people you mentioned... call each of them and ask them how they feel about you... I bet you would be blown away with how much they think of you...
God Bless...I'll pray for you to reach out and draw closer to God...
There was a cartoon strip...Pogo, and a famous line is ';we have found the enemy, and it is us!'; Please, learn to see what God put into YOU, not in comparison to them, just what is in you. You sound like a caring person, and that is one of the greatest things. A lot of people run around with God on their lips, trying to make you believe if you don't match their ';brand'; of God, then you are not as good as them. That my dear, is the unfortunate effect of religious devotion, everyone fights over who's more godly. The answer is no one...
You must keep in mind there are really only 3 rules in any faith, even worshiping Satan...Love your God, Love Each Other, AND the one you need to keep at heart LOVE YOURSELF! If you do those 3 things, ALL 3, you CAN'T steal, lie, hate, abuse or otherwise sin. Think about that, it's the real truth. I am NOT a zealot, but I'm deeply spiritual, and I go to no man's church, no man goes to mine...but we share in the Lord's blessings because they are there for us all.
Love yourself, see YOUR value, put away the doubt so you will have the time and energy to let the Lord work in you. AND HE WILL, if you just watch, listen, and love. See the small things, for they are really from God, there are no Great Works for us, just a billion little ones every single day. Don't take their value so lightly, or the real beauty of God will stay hidden.
Please, if you believe nothing else of what I say, remember the 3 real laws, and keep your eyes open for the little things that make our daily lives richer...tiny steps at a time.
We all go through highs and lows in our walk with Christ. Hang in there, God loves you. Look to Jesus and study His handbook. Ask your Pastor and the elders to pray for you. Ask your friends to pray for you. You will rise above with God's help.
I read a story by Richard Wurmbrand where he is describing Jesus with Moses %26amp; Elijah. He noted that when the discipes looked up they saw (only Jesus) and how it struck him that is what we needed to do when we look at other Christians. So I began to pray that I would see the light of Jesus in other Christians and slowly over about a month it happened. I believe the key to getting what we want is to want what God wants and pray in His will. I have to believe that what He wants for me is better than what I could come up with on my own.
The first thing you would have to do is change your attitude.
All those things you listed are merely a state of mind. So change your state of mind and the world will be a much brighter place.
With or without God.
Do you know if its good thing or a bad thing when trying to suceed
say this in your hart '; please God show me the true path to you';.
and I am shore that God will answer you.
1. In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
2. Praise be to Allah, the Cherisher and Sustainer of the worlds;
3. Most Gracious, Most Merciful;
4. Master of the Day of Judgment.
5. Thee do we worship, and Thine aid we seek.
6. Show us the straight way,
7. The way of those on whom Thou hast bestowed Thy Grace, those whose (portion) is not wrath, and who go not astray.
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Forgive OURSELVES
When you carry any kind of unforgiveness in your heart, you will find it impossible to move forward with your relationship with God. It will be as though a wall is between you and God.
Let it go! All of the bad feelings you have for yourself and for anybody else. Just let it go! Trust me, God loves you exactly as you are and he wants you to stop beating yourself up. Do this and you will be amazed at the change in your life.
I'm sorry to say this but this is what I'm basically see what your saying: ';I don't like making my own choices in life, I think its too hard, I see people who are happy who are religious, so that must be what i must be like to be happy.'; My advice, become your own person, develop your individuality, learn something new, become creative; art and music are good things to take up, study a subject that you know nothing about; history or science. There is an entire world of knowledge awaiting you out there don't turn your back upon it.
You could be ready for God to use you.
When Job repented of justifying himself, he said, ';I abhor myself...'; Isaiah said, ';Woe is me! For I am lost: for I am a man of unclean lips...'; Daniel said, ';there remained no strength in me: for my comeliness was turned in me into corruption...';
When you really start to grieve over how you have spent your life--when you recognize that your struggles have been small and petty, your prayers self-centered--when you begin to wonder what a genuine and open relationship with your Creator and Redeemer must be like and how you can get there--the dissatisfaction you feel, that's Him calling you to His heart, His purposes.
Don't envy someone else's relationship with God--you don't KNOW what it's really like. And forget about ';starting over with God'; somewhere where no one knows you. Let others know that your spiritual life hasn't been perfect and you're asking God to help you start over. It would be better if we all admitted we're not perfect. Your friends might wish THEY could do that.
Read Philippians 4. Never be content with what you ARE--but always be content with what you HAVE.
I am going to encourage here, if I can. All of us who are true believers in God go through dry times, remember King David? God does not hate who you are, There is nothing you can do to make Him love you more or less. Do not compare yourself to others, that will only make you miserable, because there will always be someone who seems stronger in the Lord than you are. Also remember that what you do, is not as important to God as who you are, and that is not even as important as who you belong to. If you have accepted Christ as your Savior, you belong to the One who created and loves you. He brought you into a close relationship only because of Christ. He desires for you that closeness. Take time alone with God, through the Word and prayer. You can start over with Him. Tell God your desire is to follow Him, and take baby steps. He loves you, and He knows you better than you even know yourself. Do not get discouraged.Can i get some advice from some people that have a relationship with God?
Get the book the course in miracles.
Its only purpose is to show you how to have a close personal relationship with God.
It actually works.
Also you really need to stop being so hard on yourself. Being hypercritical toward your self is a learned trait and you are a lot better off if you can put this judgmental nonsense behind you.
Love and blessings Don
First of all, you can't accept that God loves you until you choose to love yourself in a balanced way. (Not conceit or self-centeredness, but as God loves you.) Second of all, you are not SUPPOSED to ';measure up'; to anybody - God created you as a unique individual. You have to follow God's will for YOUR life - not His will for anybody else's. We all do not have the same call on our lives, so stop comparing yourself to other Christians. You CAN grow closer to the Lord, but you can't do it through works. You have to develop a relationship with Him by spending time with Him every day.
May I suggest that you try listening to Joyce Meyer? I know where you are - I've been there. But after listening to several of her teachings, I was able to realize that everyone has a different level of spiritual maturity and that's ok. Her teachings are done on a level that most people can relate to, and they might help you to understand WHO you are in Christ, and that God sees you as perfect IN CHRIST because of the blood of Christ that was shed for you - if you have accepted Christ as your Savior. Also, Chuck Swindoll is a wonderful teacher. Much love %26amp; prayers to you.
Let me start with been there... here's how I dealt with it...
I started by reading scriptures about how God felt about me...
It will benefit you the most to get a concordance and look up scriptures for yourself based on the things you are feeling.. I like the NIV bible (New International Version) myself.. (I'm not assuming you don't read the bible or have one, these are just in case you don't tips...)
Then when you have these negative thoughts you recall the verses about how much God loves you for who YOU ARE... remember God made us all unique, we are all His children and he doesn't base His love for you based on what you can or can't do.. That is unconditional love... nothing you can do can make him stop loving you...
I soon discovered that I had so many more talents than I thought... I am an encourager, so I started carrying little blank note cards and writing little notes to others about things I admired about them or made me think about something.. so many times people would come back to me and say... You have no idea how much that little note meant to me.. I was feeling so low, or I needed that note so bad, I've been so depressed.. etc etc.
When you start to see kindness, encouragement and other small acts as gifts you have and use them to lift other people up.. it will change your life... because what really happens is, you are lifted yourself..
YOU ARE SPECIAL
YOU DO MEASURE UP
YOU CAN...YOU REALLY CAN... GET CLOSER TO GOD
So today if all you do is tell yourself you aren't going to believe any more of Satans lies, and tell God you want to have a relationship with him... He WILL help you...
Pray with true FAITH... God CAN answer any prayer... nothing is insignificant to God!
Be grateful:... In your prayers, thank God for what you have, start with thanking him for 3 things each time you pray... It's eye opening !
True Facts:
Scripture is God's word speaking to you, your reading it keeps it in your head and your heart...
Satan is a liar, and he DOES NOT want you close to God..
Who are YOU going to listen to today???
P.S, Those three special people you mentioned... call each of them and ask them how they feel about you... I bet you would be blown away with how much they think of you...
God Bless...I'll pray for you to reach out and draw closer to God...
There was a cartoon strip...Pogo, and a famous line is ';we have found the enemy, and it is us!'; Please, learn to see what God put into YOU, not in comparison to them, just what is in you. You sound like a caring person, and that is one of the greatest things. A lot of people run around with God on their lips, trying to make you believe if you don't match their ';brand'; of God, then you are not as good as them. That my dear, is the unfortunate effect of religious devotion, everyone fights over who's more godly. The answer is no one...
You must keep in mind there are really only 3 rules in any faith, even worshiping Satan...Love your God, Love Each Other, AND the one you need to keep at heart LOVE YOURSELF! If you do those 3 things, ALL 3, you CAN'T steal, lie, hate, abuse or otherwise sin. Think about that, it's the real truth. I am NOT a zealot, but I'm deeply spiritual, and I go to no man's church, no man goes to mine...but we share in the Lord's blessings because they are there for us all.
Love yourself, see YOUR value, put away the doubt so you will have the time and energy to let the Lord work in you. AND HE WILL, if you just watch, listen, and love. See the small things, for they are really from God, there are no Great Works for us, just a billion little ones every single day. Don't take their value so lightly, or the real beauty of God will stay hidden.
Please, if you believe nothing else of what I say, remember the 3 real laws, and keep your eyes open for the little things that make our daily lives richer...tiny steps at a time.
We all go through highs and lows in our walk with Christ. Hang in there, God loves you. Look to Jesus and study His handbook. Ask your Pastor and the elders to pray for you. Ask your friends to pray for you. You will rise above with God's help.
I read a story by Richard Wurmbrand where he is describing Jesus with Moses %26amp; Elijah. He noted that when the discipes looked up they saw (only Jesus) and how it struck him that is what we needed to do when we look at other Christians. So I began to pray that I would see the light of Jesus in other Christians and slowly over about a month it happened. I believe the key to getting what we want is to want what God wants and pray in His will. I have to believe that what He wants for me is better than what I could come up with on my own.
The first thing you would have to do is change your attitude.
All those things you listed are merely a state of mind. So change your state of mind and the world will be a much brighter place.
With or without God.
Do you know if its good thing or a bad thing when trying to suceed
say this in your hart '; please God show me the true path to you';.
and I am shore that God will answer you.
1. In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
2. Praise be to Allah, the Cherisher and Sustainer of the worlds;
3. Most Gracious, Most Merciful;
4. Master of the Day of Judgment.
5. Thee do we worship, and Thine aid we seek.
6. Show us the straight way,
7. The way of those on whom Thou hast bestowed Thy Grace, those whose (portion) is not wrath, and who go not astray.
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You won鈥檛 be able to achieve it until you stop beating yourself up. Before we can get anywhere in our relationship with God we must 鈥?br>
Ask God for forgiveness
For others Everybody!
Forgive OURSELVES
When you carry any kind of unforgiveness in your heart, you will find it impossible to move forward with your relationship with God. It will be as though a wall is between you and God.
Let it go! All of the bad feelings you have for yourself and for anybody else. Just let it go! Trust me, God loves you exactly as you are and he wants you to stop beating yourself up. Do this and you will be amazed at the change in your life.
I'm sorry to say this but this is what I'm basically see what your saying: ';I don't like making my own choices in life, I think its too hard, I see people who are happy who are religious, so that must be what i must be like to be happy.'; My advice, become your own person, develop your individuality, learn something new, become creative; art and music are good things to take up, study a subject that you know nothing about; history or science. There is an entire world of knowledge awaiting you out there don't turn your back upon it.
You could be ready for God to use you.
When Job repented of justifying himself, he said, ';I abhor myself...'; Isaiah said, ';Woe is me! For I am lost: for I am a man of unclean lips...'; Daniel said, ';there remained no strength in me: for my comeliness was turned in me into corruption...';
When you really start to grieve over how you have spent your life--when you recognize that your struggles have been small and petty, your prayers self-centered--when you begin to wonder what a genuine and open relationship with your Creator and Redeemer must be like and how you can get there--the dissatisfaction you feel, that's Him calling you to His heart, His purposes.
Don't envy someone else's relationship with God--you don't KNOW what it's really like. And forget about ';starting over with God'; somewhere where no one knows you. Let others know that your spiritual life hasn't been perfect and you're asking God to help you start over. It would be better if we all admitted we're not perfect. Your friends might wish THEY could do that.
Read Philippians 4. Never be content with what you ARE--but always be content with what you HAVE.
Should I tell my mother in law to try Yahoo Answers so she can give advice to people who actually want it?
LMAO!! This is truely the first time I laughed out loud at a question here. It almost got me caught by my co-workers for being on Yahoo instead of working.Should I tell my mother in law to try Yahoo Answers so she can give advice to people who actually want it?
Bring her on.
I have a question for her about daughter-in-laws who ignore good advice.Should I tell my mother in law to try Yahoo Answers so she can give advice to people who actually want it?
What a fantastic idea!
LOL, that is hilarious...kudos :)
LMAO - good one, I'd love to see her face when you told her that ha!
sounds good.
i am sure she will love that
That is the funniest sh*t I have ever heard.Good one.You deserve the points for that one.
you are hilarious!
Sure thing, maybe she will get addicted and never bother you again!!! :)
ROFLOL...YES!!! Great question!
You sound like my sister. She is having fierce problems with her mother in law. Great idea, suggest it to her.
I'd omit the dependant clause of that sentence, but sure! This is the place for people who like to give advice!
LOL, now this is priceless. i cna't think of a better way to get her to stop nagging you.
NO PLEASE DO NOT BRING PAIN TO OTHERS!!!!!!!!!
Bring her on.
I have a question for her about daughter-in-laws who ignore good advice.Should I tell my mother in law to try Yahoo Answers so she can give advice to people who actually want it?
What a fantastic idea!
LOL, that is hilarious...kudos :)
LMAO - good one, I'd love to see her face when you told her that ha!
sounds good.
i am sure she will love that
That is the funniest sh*t I have ever heard.Good one.You deserve the points for that one.
you are hilarious!
Sure thing, maybe she will get addicted and never bother you again!!! :)
ROFLOL...YES!!! Great question!
You sound like my sister. She is having fierce problems with her mother in law. Great idea, suggest it to her.
I'd omit the dependant clause of that sentence, but sure! This is the place for people who like to give advice!
LOL, now this is priceless. i cna't think of a better way to get her to stop nagging you.
NO PLEASE DO NOT BRING PAIN TO OTHERS!!!!!!!!!
Any advice on how to deal with aggresive people,I have encountered this problem and feel frightened?
Start here to understand something about aggressive people. They are either frightened themselves and have learned that this is a way to protect themselves. Or they like the ';power'; it gives them to get what they want without any concern for anyone else.
http://changingminds.org/techniques/asse鈥?/a>
Now to deal with it. There are many books in the self help section of the bookstore or library..and many articles online.
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Kill-Fe鈥?/a>
http://www.life-with-confidence.com/conf鈥?/a>
and if this person is physically aggressive:
http://www.violencepreventionbook.com/
Hope that helps- Blessings- ddAny advice on how to deal with aggresive people,I have encountered this problem and feel frightened?
You may need to be more specific.
Why are you always encountering agressive people? Is this your job? If so, you should be trained for it.
If not, then try this. Aggresssive people make a lot of noise, in general. Carry with you a pair of ear plugs, cut one of them in half so that they are not obviously sticking out of yoour ears. Half in each ear.
When you find yourself up against a sittuation where there may be aggression arising, slip those babies in. You'll find that you'll be handling the sittuation very calmly.
I know it sounds silly, but you'll thank me when you try it.
If this doesn't work for you let me know, I'll give you some other methodsAny advice on how to deal with aggresive people,I have encountered this problem and feel frightened?
Mostly you should run.
Assert yourself. If somebody is more powerful and overly agressive get yourself an equalizer. If you're frightened then contain yourself within a group. Me ... I just give them back exactly what provide to me. You may not be the 300 lb bruiser I am, however.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Dealing-with-A鈥?/a>
Stay away from aggresive peopl. Don't make enemies. Don't assosiate with them. Nobody need troubles, stress. To keep Peace, you calm down and stay away. I find in my life one perticular younger supposed to be my Friend. but, I took long to figure out . Aggressive people are very dangetous, and you better careful. If theirs any major problem you got to face, place Charge. Good advice I can give you stay away. They only wants to controll, and be one of the biggest thug .Don't be frighened. Be strong, use your Wisdom and be wise.
just smile at them and feel pity that they have to live their life so stressed out but dont let it affect your calmness
Try to get to the SOFT PART within them...however u can...
Don't be surprised, but they may turn out to be soooooooooo Nice, and unbelievably helpful...
if you can just stay away from them and if you cant just ignore them,they will get bored,good luck chick x
try being sarcastic with them, if they say something you dont like or just report them, either way should do
dont encounter,keep quiet only
Go buy a big cricket bat or something such as and hit them round he head with it!
SHUT UP OR I'LL HUNT YOU DOWN AND BATTER YOU!!! ARRRRRR!!!!
Try an assertiveness course they are really good for dealing with aggressive people. Meanwhile I find the best way is to either make sure someone else is around in case it gets ugly and try and talk in a calm concise manner (even if you are bricking it inside). Don't engage in any arguing or answering back, if it starts to get ugly make an excuse and leave, but say you will resume the conversation at a later date.
Or refer the more difficult cases to another person.
Ignore them, they only want to bully you because they are weak inside and have to push someone around to make themselves feel powerful.
Walk on , not worth your time,don't be frightened thats what they want don't give it to them
http://changingminds.org/techniques/asse鈥?/a>
Now to deal with it. There are many books in the self help section of the bookstore or library..and many articles online.
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-to-Kill-Fe鈥?/a>
http://www.life-with-confidence.com/conf鈥?/a>
and if this person is physically aggressive:
http://www.violencepreventionbook.com/
Hope that helps- Blessings- ddAny advice on how to deal with aggresive people,I have encountered this problem and feel frightened?
You may need to be more specific.
Why are you always encountering agressive people? Is this your job? If so, you should be trained for it.
If not, then try this. Aggresssive people make a lot of noise, in general. Carry with you a pair of ear plugs, cut one of them in half so that they are not obviously sticking out of yoour ears. Half in each ear.
When you find yourself up against a sittuation where there may be aggression arising, slip those babies in. You'll find that you'll be handling the sittuation very calmly.
I know it sounds silly, but you'll thank me when you try it.
If this doesn't work for you let me know, I'll give you some other methodsAny advice on how to deal with aggresive people,I have encountered this problem and feel frightened?
Mostly you should run.
Assert yourself. If somebody is more powerful and overly agressive get yourself an equalizer. If you're frightened then contain yourself within a group. Me ... I just give them back exactly what provide to me. You may not be the 300 lb bruiser I am, however.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Dealing-with-A鈥?/a>
Stay away from aggresive peopl. Don't make enemies. Don't assosiate with them. Nobody need troubles, stress. To keep Peace, you calm down and stay away. I find in my life one perticular younger supposed to be my Friend. but, I took long to figure out . Aggressive people are very dangetous, and you better careful. If theirs any major problem you got to face, place Charge. Good advice I can give you stay away. They only wants to controll, and be one of the biggest thug .Don't be frighened. Be strong, use your Wisdom and be wise.
just smile at them and feel pity that they have to live their life so stressed out but dont let it affect your calmness
Try to get to the SOFT PART within them...however u can...
Don't be surprised, but they may turn out to be soooooooooo Nice, and unbelievably helpful...
if you can just stay away from them and if you cant just ignore them,they will get bored,good luck chick x
try being sarcastic with them, if they say something you dont like or just report them, either way should do
dont encounter,keep quiet only
Go buy a big cricket bat or something such as and hit them round he head with it!
SHUT UP OR I'LL HUNT YOU DOWN AND BATTER YOU!!! ARRRRRR!!!!
Try an assertiveness course they are really good for dealing with aggressive people. Meanwhile I find the best way is to either make sure someone else is around in case it gets ugly and try and talk in a calm concise manner (even if you are bricking it inside). Don't engage in any arguing or answering back, if it starts to get ugly make an excuse and leave, but say you will resume the conversation at a later date.
Or refer the more difficult cases to another person.
Ignore them, they only want to bully you because they are weak inside and have to push someone around to make themselves feel powerful.
Walk on , not worth your time,don't be frightened thats what they want don't give it to them
I shouldn't take people's advice so personal because everyone's situation is different?
If I am content with the man I am dating, should I not take everyone's advice so personal because everyone doesn't know all the details. Sometimes it's not so good to follow everyone's advice because you're not always following your heart that way. Do you agree?I shouldn't take people's advice so personal because everyone's situation is different?
Of course. It's OK to look and see what other people have to say, but obviously you need to look into your own head and your own heart and decide what's right for you!I shouldn't take people's advice so personal because everyone's situation is different?
You are absolutely right..
Advice is just to be taken if %26amp; when useful...
Well sometimes the heart sees only what it wants to see-love can be blind.
Of course. It's OK to look and see what other people have to say, but obviously you need to look into your own head and your own heart and decide what's right for you!I shouldn't take people's advice so personal because everyone's situation is different?
You are absolutely right..
Advice is just to be taken if %26amp; when useful...
Well sometimes the heart sees only what it wants to see-love can be blind.
Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to a NY HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
Protection racketeering with plain clothes buddy escorts possibly exists in all sectors of this society.
Women practice dismissal, fear, and preoccupation. Men need an opening line, small talk, and to close with getting a telephone number or a date. The number one dating advice for women is ';play hard to get';.
Obese blobs, (that are 50% of the population), have immature hysteria that causes delirium in good looking women. The environments in this society are .1% good looking women.
No one has ever seen the start of a relationship. There are 21 organizations spying on the public with plain clothes agents.Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
didnt you already ask this question child wht do you gotta ask it again?? i ALREADY told u itll be just fine i live in the ghetto all my life its ok. dang
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
Protection racketeering with plain clothes buddy escorts possibly exists in all sectors of this society.
Women practice dismissal, fear, and preoccupation. Men need an opening line, small talk, and to close with getting a telephone number or a date. The number one dating advice for women is ';play hard to get';.
Obese blobs, (that are 50% of the population), have immature hysteria that causes delirium in good looking women. The environments in this society are .1% good looking women.
No one has ever seen the start of a relationship. There are 21 organizations spying on the public with plain clothes agents.Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
didnt you already ask this question child wht do you gotta ask it again?? i ALREADY told u itll be just fine i live in the ghetto all my life its ok. dang
Need advice please people!!!?
Hello recently i had some things happen to me that were horrible but then certain things started to come into my life like books and such reminding me of who i was before evrything happened too me and it is almost like the universe is trying to reach me. And if its god trying to reach me than should i surrender to his will even though i know that god created evil also ? im lost.Need advice please people!!!?
When you face indecision, ask for help in making your decision. For instance, in your current situation, I would pray, ';God, if it is your will for me to continue reading these books that seem to give me positive messages about my life, then INCREASE my desire to read them. If it is not your will for me to continue reading them, then REMOVE any desire to read them.'; Then, leave the outcome to Him as to whether or not the desire increases or goes away. (This is actually a prayer suggested in the 11th Step of the 12-step recovery programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Overeaters Anonymous, etc.--and really works!)Need advice please people!!!?
well i don't know about the whole ';reaching'; and ';surrender'; thing!! but if you feel like you need to start believing in god (which in my opinion you should) then you should look for a religion that make sense! google things and make researches, i know a thing or two about religions and islam make the most sense to me!!
and BTW of course god created evil! otherwise there will be no good!
Stay strong ..and keep ur mind right.. you have a choice of who u associate with..
When you face indecision, ask for help in making your decision. For instance, in your current situation, I would pray, ';God, if it is your will for me to continue reading these books that seem to give me positive messages about my life, then INCREASE my desire to read them. If it is not your will for me to continue reading them, then REMOVE any desire to read them.'; Then, leave the outcome to Him as to whether or not the desire increases or goes away. (This is actually a prayer suggested in the 11th Step of the 12-step recovery programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Overeaters Anonymous, etc.--and really works!)Need advice please people!!!?
well i don't know about the whole ';reaching'; and ';surrender'; thing!! but if you feel like you need to start believing in god (which in my opinion you should) then you should look for a religion that make sense! google things and make researches, i know a thing or two about religions and islam make the most sense to me!!
and BTW of course god created evil! otherwise there will be no good!
Stay strong ..and keep ur mind right.. you have a choice of who u associate with..
Dating Advice From People Who Live In A GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
Dating Advice From People Who Live In A GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to a NY HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more fuller figure (hour glass shape)
oh ya and i wear hiphop clothes and its not just recently i always have even though most of the girls that lived where i used to live dress preppy
and my personality is confident, say what's on my mind, caring, empathetic, loving, passionate, funny, generous....that's all i can think of now
i know people are going to say guys are guys and they like girls but i want to how they would act and stuff because its a different culture and allDating Advice From People Who Live In A GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
So sorry....I'm in the wrong hood.Dating Advice From People Who Live In A GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
man i live in a gated community in boca raton florida (south florida) and i have never seen the ghetto other than miami..
A thug with a heart! I know just what you mean! I love my thug! ';Ghetto'; guys are gonna have differnt ways of complimenting you and they will say the first thing that pops in their stupid little head. DEMAND RESPECT and you will get it (but becarful some times you can look like a *****) you have to think about what they really mean by what they say. I definitely think they will find you attractive. (now this knowledge is coming from a kentucky girl so our ';ghettos'; are alittle different from NY. But a thug is a thug. Just remember RESPECT and you don't gotta be bad for them to like you.
focuse on school even if you dont want to hear it if some guy will like you he will tell you so what is the whole big deal act like you always act.
i live in the GHETTO all my life and i stll do but honey its not that big of a deal i mean just be yourself and of course guys will like you.
******* right they will. I live in NY ghetto and would like to meet an older you.
From a white girl who grew up in a St. Paul hood...
Be yourself! Guys in the ghetto are just like guys anywhere else. Some will find you very attractive and some won't. Talk to them like you would any other guy. Be honest and friendly.
Cultural differences... Guys front a lot. They hit on girls to look cool to their friends. (guys in the suburbs do this too, but you'll be able to tell the difference) Don't fall for anything that isn't genuine. If they really like you, they'll be real with you. You aren't a status symbol or a notch on someones bedpost so don't let anyone treat you that way.
Good luck in your new surroundings! You'll do just fine.
Okay this is crazy just because you moved to the ';hood'; doesn't mean you have to date a ghetto person.
Hopefully you will meet someone that is trying to get out of the ghetto and move on to better things. Just because its the ghetto people seem to think that they have to stay there and settle. You should find someone that will accept you for who you are and all that stuff that you described should not matter. You will have no problem finding someone there, the problem is finding someone that will give you their heart. People there tend to close up to stay strong. Good Luck! I love my thug, but at some point when you grow up, you want someone that has the thug look, not a thug life.
Guys will either like you for your body or your personality. It does not matter where you or they live.
look gurl, guys that live in the hood are no good for serious relationships. I m sooooo glad you posted this question. Please hit me up ASAP so i can tell you what happened to me! I have your answer.
First of all be yourself! If the guy is just a thug and has no goals for himself and does nothing but stay in trouble run the other way. Who cares where he lives but don't talk to a guy who has nothing on his mind and does bad things and has horrible grades.
okay 1 u really dont want a thug cuz i grew up in da projects and they iz da nastiest, meanest, horrible people in da hood. U really cant smile alot around the dudes and im yo same age but i live down south n Roanoke Virginia. U kool and all but they want a hard gal that #1 kno's how 2 fite. Also they got there own hussle ( They work 4 wat they get). U have 2 alwayz look hard and also hard 2 get. U want 2 walk past dem a lot wit yo grls and and yo cuzzos and stuff. IF u kno how 2 act hard u will b okay. u dont have 2 worry about anybody messin wit u after u get the boy. U'll b aight if u follow my advice. I'm gonna send u a email and add u 2 my friendz or contact or somethin like dat. Hit me up on my email. I'll send it 1 u thoe
WELL......I MEAN THERE IS SUCH A THING AS A SENSITIVE THUG AND THEY ARE OUT THERE!!!! I THINK THAT U SHOULD TRY GETTIN TO KNOW A FEW OF THE GIRLS THERE BECAUSE GHETTO GURLS ALWAYS HAVE DA BIZ ON WHO'S HOT AND WHO'S TAKEN!!!!!!! WHEN U FIND ONE THAT IS SUITABLE TO U TRY TO GET IN HIS HEAD AND C WHAT HIS MIND HITTIN LIKE AND IF U CAN DEAL WITH THAT AND U LIKE HIS SWAGGER U NEED TO MAKE IT DO WHAT IT DO!!!!!!!!!
I'm from the ghetto, and based on your description, when I was 15 me and other guys in the neighborhood would have been all over you..lol thats how it was if a new girl moved in, but anyways, I would say just be yourself, and get to know people. Be careful of who you meet, you wouldn't want to go out with a guy who is running from the law, unless your really into that. and be careful of guys just trying to get a ';piece'; of you because they will try and your still young, so be careful, and don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of. And don't be quick to call everyone your friends.
first of all babes..heres the first thing..if your 15 and looking to start dating in the ghetto....you on a one way trip to crackpipe/hooker valley....you NEED TO THINK ABOUT SCHOOL!!! guys in the ghetto are there for one reason only...they cant get out cos they scum bags...any decent person trys to do well at somthing and moves out the dump...if you wanna date those sort of guys its upo to you but trust me...you cant just dip your toe in the water and walk off...guys from the ghetto are trained to mess up young girls lives...just be safe
be yourself!!
i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to a NY HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more fuller figure (hour glass shape)
oh ya and i wear hiphop clothes and its not just recently i always have even though most of the girls that lived where i used to live dress preppy
and my personality is confident, say what's on my mind, caring, empathetic, loving, passionate, funny, generous....that's all i can think of now
i know people are going to say guys are guys and they like girls but i want to how they would act and stuff because its a different culture and allDating Advice From People Who Live In A GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
So sorry....I'm in the wrong hood.Dating Advice From People Who Live In A GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
man i live in a gated community in boca raton florida (south florida) and i have never seen the ghetto other than miami..
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A thug with a heart! I know just what you mean! I love my thug! ';Ghetto'; guys are gonna have differnt ways of complimenting you and they will say the first thing that pops in their stupid little head. DEMAND RESPECT and you will get it (but becarful some times you can look like a *****) you have to think about what they really mean by what they say. I definitely think they will find you attractive. (now this knowledge is coming from a kentucky girl so our ';ghettos'; are alittle different from NY. But a thug is a thug. Just remember RESPECT and you don't gotta be bad for them to like you.
focuse on school even if you dont want to hear it if some guy will like you he will tell you so what is the whole big deal act like you always act.
i live in the GHETTO all my life and i stll do but honey its not that big of a deal i mean just be yourself and of course guys will like you.
******* right they will. I live in NY ghetto and would like to meet an older you.
From a white girl who grew up in a St. Paul hood...
Be yourself! Guys in the ghetto are just like guys anywhere else. Some will find you very attractive and some won't. Talk to them like you would any other guy. Be honest and friendly.
Cultural differences... Guys front a lot. They hit on girls to look cool to their friends. (guys in the suburbs do this too, but you'll be able to tell the difference) Don't fall for anything that isn't genuine. If they really like you, they'll be real with you. You aren't a status symbol or a notch on someones bedpost so don't let anyone treat you that way.
Good luck in your new surroundings! You'll do just fine.
Okay this is crazy just because you moved to the ';hood'; doesn't mean you have to date a ghetto person.
Hopefully you will meet someone that is trying to get out of the ghetto and move on to better things. Just because its the ghetto people seem to think that they have to stay there and settle. You should find someone that will accept you for who you are and all that stuff that you described should not matter. You will have no problem finding someone there, the problem is finding someone that will give you their heart. People there tend to close up to stay strong. Good Luck! I love my thug, but at some point when you grow up, you want someone that has the thug look, not a thug life.
Guys will either like you for your body or your personality. It does not matter where you or they live.
look gurl, guys that live in the hood are no good for serious relationships. I m sooooo glad you posted this question. Please hit me up ASAP so i can tell you what happened to me! I have your answer.
First of all be yourself! If the guy is just a thug and has no goals for himself and does nothing but stay in trouble run the other way. Who cares where he lives but don't talk to a guy who has nothing on his mind and does bad things and has horrible grades.
okay 1 u really dont want a thug cuz i grew up in da projects and they iz da nastiest, meanest, horrible people in da hood. U really cant smile alot around the dudes and im yo same age but i live down south n Roanoke Virginia. U kool and all but they want a hard gal that #1 kno's how 2 fite. Also they got there own hussle ( They work 4 wat they get). U have 2 alwayz look hard and also hard 2 get. U want 2 walk past dem a lot wit yo grls and and yo cuzzos and stuff. IF u kno how 2 act hard u will b okay. u dont have 2 worry about anybody messin wit u after u get the boy. U'll b aight if u follow my advice. I'm gonna send u a email and add u 2 my friendz or contact or somethin like dat. Hit me up on my email. I'll send it 1 u thoe
WELL......I MEAN THERE IS SUCH A THING AS A SENSITIVE THUG AND THEY ARE OUT THERE!!!! I THINK THAT U SHOULD TRY GETTIN TO KNOW A FEW OF THE GIRLS THERE BECAUSE GHETTO GURLS ALWAYS HAVE DA BIZ ON WHO'S HOT AND WHO'S TAKEN!!!!!!! WHEN U FIND ONE THAT IS SUITABLE TO U TRY TO GET IN HIS HEAD AND C WHAT HIS MIND HITTIN LIKE AND IF U CAN DEAL WITH THAT AND U LIKE HIS SWAGGER U NEED TO MAKE IT DO WHAT IT DO!!!!!!!!!
I'm from the ghetto, and based on your description, when I was 15 me and other guys in the neighborhood would have been all over you..lol thats how it was if a new girl moved in, but anyways, I would say just be yourself, and get to know people. Be careful of who you meet, you wouldn't want to go out with a guy who is running from the law, unless your really into that. and be careful of guys just trying to get a ';piece'; of you because they will try and your still young, so be careful, and don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of. And don't be quick to call everyone your friends.
first of all babes..heres the first thing..if your 15 and looking to start dating in the ghetto....you on a one way trip to crackpipe/hooker valley....you NEED TO THINK ABOUT SCHOOL!!! guys in the ghetto are there for one reason only...they cant get out cos they scum bags...any decent person trys to do well at somthing and moves out the dump...if you wanna date those sort of guys its upo to you but trust me...you cant just dip your toe in the water and walk off...guys from the ghetto are trained to mess up young girls lives...just be safe
be yourself!!
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