I need advice: serious people only please....About a year ago I was raped. I know I should have reported it...

but I didn't. See, my dad sort of is the police. He's a detective for the county we live in. I don't talk to him very often and he still thinks I'm his perfect little angel. I would have been to embarassed to go to him or anybody else for that matter. That isn't what I';m asking about though. See the thing is that after it happened, I was so ashamed and too embarassed to tell anybody. I mean, it was my own fault for putting myself in the position for it to happen. I thought I could handle it, I thought I would be able to deal with it and get over it on my own. I'll just get straight to the point. I think he gave me an STD. I don't know who to go to or where to get help. I feel like I have lost my whole life because of this. Having it is bad enough. But, it has taken away my whole future. I can't even try to love another guy because I know I'll never be able to be with him. I don't mean just sexually, but that's part of marriage. I guess I'm asking, what do I do now? Who do I go to now?I need advice: serious people only please....About a year ago I was raped. I know I should have reported it...
I am so sorry this has happened to you but I'm afraid you need help. You really should see a doctor about the STD, you could go to a free clinic or hospital, nothing to be embarrassed about. There should also be rape hotlines and things (although I don't know where you live). I feel you also need therapy, and to report the rape (it doesn't mean you are no longer a perfect little angel and your father should be sad, but not ashamed, and if he is really ashamed then he's an idiot I am sorry to say) at some stage. Is there nobody you can trust?





Email me if you need more help or just want to chat. I felt sad reading that and would love for you to get past this. But you will have to take some steps. It will be hard, but it's the right thing.I need advice: serious people only please....About a year ago I was raped. I know I should have reported it...
you must go to the doctor


if its a bacterial infection you can have it treated and itll be gone soon


if its some serious syphillis for instance


if you just ignore it


you can die pretty badly


go get it checked it you know it wasnt right whatever happened because i dont know it all but move past it and worry about your health
Go to your local health department and have some std tests run. Good luck and it was NOT your fault. You shouldn't be embarrassed.
well i can offer an ear i know how u feel more than u know so if u wanna talk woman to woman IM me on yahoo or email me i know it was hard for a long time for me to talk but i promise u arent alone
First, I am sorry to hear. Second, No it was not your fault!!


No one asks to be raped no matter what the situation is!


Please understand that. The man should of been reported


no doubt. If you feel he may have passed something onto you, please go to the Doctor as only he will be able to tell for sure. If so, you need treatment ASAP.


Best of luck to you, God bless
First of all, the rape is NOT your fault! It's easy to blame yourself and to think you put yourself in the situation, but he chose his actions. Second, I'm really sorry that happened to you...no one should have to endure an experience like that, ever.


That being said, on the STD issue...go to Planned Parenthood, I believe they do STD checks there. Or if you feel more comfortable, you could go to your family doctor. I don't know how old you are, but if you're under 16 (at least in my state, other states, the age might be different) wherever you go will have to report it, by law. If you're over 16, I think you can choose whether or not it's reported.





For the more psychological stuff associated with it, I would definitely recommend that you see a therapist. He or she is professional and can help you work through issues associated with the rape. Talk to your family doctor and ask him/her to recommend somebody for you to see.





As for loving another guy, don't worry about that for right now. You have more important issues to straighten out...once you have those issues worked out, loving somebody will come later.





What you've been through is terrible...try to get help, so you can start moving on with your life. Hope this helps.
honey let me start by saying that i was molested i know how hard it is you know its not your fault it really isnt i fell off my bike like you to get help if a man forces you to have sex then then you find out that he has made you sick im urging you plz plz plz talk to someone if you truly dont want to talk with anyone go to a planned parenthood or a free clinic they can help you there but i really want you to tell some one
You should tell your parents. Expecially if you think you have an STD. That can be really serious. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
First off, being raped will never ever be your fault. It is understandable that you might have been afraid to tell. You need to talk to someone that you can trust . Even if it's just to tell them about how this incident has made you feel. All std's aren't incurable. You should go to the doctor. If your too scared that your father might find out go to plannedparenthood.com to find a local one in your area. They will provide you with low cost health care. You need to have a pap smear as well as get tested for std's to know for sure if you have one. Hopefully it will be something that is curable and they can prescribe something for you that will help take care of this matter. And lastly just because this happened to you doesn't mean that you will never be able to get married and your life is not ruined. Hopefully the man that you decide to marry will love you unconditonally and one day before you get married you will be able to have a conversation of what happened to you. And who knows he might be the one person in the world who can make you feel 100% safe again. But if you ever need someone to talk to you can talk to me.
youve GOT TO tell your family and friends tehy will help you. u need to see a doctor immediately and go to th ehospital or local health clinic.....ill pray u dont have an STD
I was raped 11 years ago at the age of 20. It is very difficult, but the best thing you can do is get some support. Try calling a local woman's center or rape consueling. (The YWCA does it here) they have many groups (free of charge) that can help you.





I noticed you said ';It's my own fault for putting myself in the position for it to happen';. It wasn't your fault, you didn't asked to be raped. No matter what you did or didn't do, it's not your fault! If you ever need to talk email me (BMPmama698@yahoo.com) I'd be glad to talk to you.
i would say go to your dad...no one asks to be raped..that is why it is called rape and not sex.... im sure he will be glad that you told him so that he can be there for you....he knows that no one asks to be raped and im sure he is going to feel hurt and mad that some idiot out there hurt his daughter...you need a support system and untill you tell your dad and let him be there for you..your the only one that will know ..and you cant just support yourself..youll eventualy break down over it and that is not necessarily good.... and if you do have an std..then you need to get it taken care of right away..depending on what std you have and what stage it may now be in now that it has been a year...you need to get on medication for it and hope that it will clear up...your life is not over unless you let it be over....the question is...are you going to let that idiot win or are you going to defet him and show yourself that you can still live and have a great life!! its up to you.. you dont under any circumstances have to do this alone..
Sweetie, you have to tell someone. Go to the doctor, police, or tell your parents. They won't think any less of you, I promise. This was not your fault, understand? I don't care what kind of situation you were in, it was not your fault! You still have a beautiful future ahead of you. You need to find the help that you need. You have to go to the doctor if you think you have an STD. It will put your mind at ease at least. You should also consider counseling. I was sexually abused years ago and counseling really, really helped me get through it and move past it. It'll take time and it will be hard, but you will move past this. I know it's hard and I know how lost you must feel but you have to get help. Even though it's hard at times, pray. God helped me through everything and without prayer and His help, I wouldn't have made it. I'll pray for you honey and I hope you get the help you deserve. The main thing you need to do is understand this was not your fault. The bastard who did this to you will have to pay for it every day of his life, trust me. Much love and prayers!!
ok..go take the test maybe a family member such as an aunt or something you dont wan to do that ..you will have to tell your parent..they will UNDERSTAND..they are here to help...please tell them now ..IF you have it the sooner you try to treat it the best it will for the end ..you need to go to a clinic
you need help, you have been completley violated by some crazy selfish person. First step dont blame it on yourself it is never the victims fault. You need to find a good therapist to help you handle the emotional pain, and help you to be able to love again and not every time you see a guy think if you will be hurt and raped again. You also should find the number of a rape crisis center, tell them your situation and they can help you get tested if you have an STD, report the guy, and get you the proper help so you can your life back. I hope it works out. But just know healing form something like this takes time, but if you get help you will heal.