i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to the HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear hiphop glam clothesDating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
how would dating people ''in the hood'; or in the ';ghetto'; be any different then from dating anyone from anywhere else ?Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
HELLO, LOOK I HAVE A 15 YEAR OLD AND I KNOW WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT. BUT REALLY IF YOU WILL REALLY THINK ABOUT IT YOU ARE TO YOUNG TO THINK ABOUT DATING AND REALLY YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT YOUR EDUCATION AND GOING TO COLEGE AND BE A GOOD PRESON BUT IM NOT SAYING YOU CANT HAVE A GIRLFREIND BUT DATING I WOULDNT THINK ABOUT IT REIGHT NOW YOU HAVE A GOOD EDUCATION AHEAD OF YOU LIKE I TELL MY STRAIGHT A SON WHO IS YOUR AGE AND HE IS REALIZING THAT LITTLE GIRLS CAN GET YOU IN ALOT OF TROUBLE JUST THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU DO IT AND IF I WAS YOU I WOULD CONCENTRATE ON MY EDUCATION LIKE I TOLD MY SOON GOOD LUCK
Friday, April 30, 2010
Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to the HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear like ghetto glam clothes usually (always have)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
if only you were a rich iranian like me
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear like ghetto glam clothes usually (always have)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
if only you were a rich iranian like me
Need advice from people who r divorce?
im going thro a divorce prossces..the pain in my heart is killing me..Im missing him im missing my house :( Im in NY now wit my family and he is in CA.. im just so lost.. there is an emptyness in my heart..i dont know wat to do how can i get over him..I dont wana go back to him I had a tough life wit him..sometimes i talk to him because of our divocre paper works and all that and every time i talk to him i cry and i curse him on the phone for distorying my life..then later i feel guilty..he made me suffer alot and i still care for him. I dont know it seems impossible for me to forget him and move on.. I wana know alil about ur divocre experinces..Need advice from people who r divorce?
Big hugs to you! It hurts like he## I know. I am going through the same thing. I try to tell myself to look forward and don't look back. I try to think of other things when I wake up after dreaming about him. Remember how JERKY he is! Remember with forgiveness the reasons that got you here. Your marriage is broken and you are only temporarily broken. Time will heal. HUGGGS. Get lots of support from your family. They can help you bear this heavy burden. Get out and connect to nature... and other things that are constant. They say this is a good book to help you. I ordered it and plan to read it. The other ones just depressed me. Let's try this one: Leaving Him Behind: Cutting the Cord and Breaking Free After the Marriage Ends by Sandra S. Kahn.
You are not alone.Need advice from people who r divorce?
I'm not divorced yet, but I know that time heals everything! The thoughts and memories will always be there but the heart wrenching pain you feel now will subside. I compare my pain as almost ( not quite, but almost) as bad as the death of a family member. When you love someone so much and all of the sudden they aren't there anymore it's horrible! But believe me it will get better! I promise! Just try to start a new life and be happy! good luck! Focus on the present and the future not the past!
If he is not willing to work things out and get help then you need to move on. No man is worth the pain your going through. Divorce takes time to heal.
You need to pick yourself up find some friends go out on the town %26amp; have a good time to get your mind off Ca at some point you will meet someone else %26amp; forget all about your ex
Big hugs to you! It hurts like he## I know. I am going through the same thing. I try to tell myself to look forward and don't look back. I try to think of other things when I wake up after dreaming about him. Remember how JERKY he is! Remember with forgiveness the reasons that got you here. Your marriage is broken and you are only temporarily broken. Time will heal. HUGGGS. Get lots of support from your family. They can help you bear this heavy burden. Get out and connect to nature... and other things that are constant. They say this is a good book to help you. I ordered it and plan to read it. The other ones just depressed me. Let's try this one: Leaving Him Behind: Cutting the Cord and Breaking Free After the Marriage Ends by Sandra S. Kahn.
You are not alone.Need advice from people who r divorce?
I'm not divorced yet, but I know that time heals everything! The thoughts and memories will always be there but the heart wrenching pain you feel now will subside. I compare my pain as almost ( not quite, but almost) as bad as the death of a family member. When you love someone so much and all of the sudden they aren't there anymore it's horrible! But believe me it will get better! I promise! Just try to start a new life and be happy! good luck! Focus on the present and the future not the past!
If he is not willing to work things out and get help then you need to move on. No man is worth the pain your going through. Divorce takes time to heal.
You need to pick yourself up find some friends go out on the town %26amp; have a good time to get your mind off Ca at some point you will meet someone else %26amp; forget all about your ex
Relationship advice? From people over the age of 21 please? ?
About 3 months ago i started seeing this guy, i'd just got out of a long term relationship so wasn't looking for much and he said he didn't want a relationship which was fine by me. We have seen each other once or twice a week since then (apart for about 3 weeks over christmas when we were both busy with family stuff) When i asked why he didnt want a relationship he said he doesn't want to have to answer to anyone as women always try control men. Well now i have much stronger feelings for him, and i'd like to take things further, maybe commit a bit more. I know the reason he doesn't want a relationship is becuase he doesn't like being controlled, but i'm not like that atal, it doesn't bother me if he goes away on boys holidays and stuff without me, i don't expect him to answer to me in anyway shape or form, I just don't like the thought of him being with anyone else, and i'd like the company that comes with a relationship, i own my own flat, he does his too, so its not like i'm in any rush to move in with him... I just don't know how to broach this subject, i know he likes me, i know he cares about me. I'm just wondering what all your opinions are? should i just leave it now before i get in too deep? should i speak to him? How do i speak to him?Relationship advice? From people over the age of 21 please? ?
I would lay it all down on the table explain to him how you would want the relationship to be (using similar to what you have just explained to us) with both of you having independence etc. Then gauge his reaction- if it still I don't want to commit/take things further then I suggest to you that this is not a good match and you should walk away with your head held high.
Good luck.Relationship advice? From people over the age of 21 please? ?
Basically, you're already in a relationship based upon how much time you spend together.
Don't bring up the subject yet; just prove to him you're NOT controlling, you WON'T hold him back and you'll be supportive of him - then he'll naturally realise you're what he wants.
Talking about 'issues' always compounds problems IMO, just take actions to change the circumstances that are arising.
He made his intentions clear. If you can't go on with that, then you need to get out.
If you want a relationship, don't go sleeping with a guy who doesn't. Set your standards and live by them. It's better to alone for a while, then miserable for years.
hey! basically what u need to do is memories everything u just typed and say it to him! u have a good way with words and if i was that guy and u said to me what u just types i would be sure to let u in a little bit more!
good luck and hope things work out ur way!
He has given you his answer. Leave now... He opened the door for you now hold your head up high, be a big girl and walk through it. Go Go Go, now.
i dunno
I don't know.
idk
When i met my fiancee (5 months ago) i was in a similar position to your man. I felt reluctant to enter a relationship because of my personel experiences with relationships being brilliant at first and sour at the end (and it was always the woman's fault)
It only took me about 3-4 weeks to fully love my girl and this was purely out of my control coz i felt she was my soul mate and i could actually picture us being together forever. i didnt just jump in though i did think about it for quite a while (without letting my feelings properly known to my other half straight away).
From a guys point of view we need to feel secure enough to commit and know intrinsically that the woman loves us with purity and nothing else.
Im not trying to be BIG or anything but before i met my fiancee i had been out with a LOT of girls but this one sparked something i had never felt before as i could truly say that i love her without hesatating or stuttering or thinking about it. It was really wierd but felt sooooo right.
Were getting married in a years time after weve both graduated.
Im 22 in march
I would not end it right now, this is something that the teo of you need to discuss. I would have a serious conversation with him, and just ask him how he feels. Tell him that you are interested in moving beyond the level you are at, and ask him what he means when he says he doesn't want to be controlled. If you can both discuss it and come to a compromise, you have beaten one of the biggest hurdles in relationships. Ask him if he is happy enough with you to commit to not seeing any other people. Tell him that you enjoy his company, and would like more of it, but not all of it. When my wife and I got serious, we agreed that there would be two days a week that we would not see each other, and not talk on the phone. There would be no answering for our actions on those days, we did whatever we wanted. The only rule was that we were not allowed to see other people, IE, cheating. Something like this might be a good starting ground for you both. If you are that interested in him, talk about it with him, but if he shuns any further commitment at all, or is unwilling to compromise, move on, and don't look back.
advise from a bloke here. its good you understand and respect his point of view,if he chooses not to commit further then lets face it theres nothing you can do.but he must have some feelings for you otherwise he wouldn't meet you a couple of times a week{unless of course its just for sex,which you didn't elaborate on} you said you'd like the company that comes with a relationship,suggest maybe meeting an extra night a week? he says that he doesn't want to be controlled,which sounds like he has had a controlling relationship.ask him about his previous experience so ye can talk about it openly rather than you playing guessing games about what he wants from you.when you learn what his insecurities are reassure him that ye wont have that type of relationship.and prove that to him slowly over time.its all about communication.if ye dont have some degree of communication after three months then is it really working out? lastly,you said you dont like the idea of him being with someone else.i think after three months that goes without saying!
otherwise its really not worth it! best of luck and hope it works out for ye.
Well you just got our of a long term relationship. He obviously has some bitterness with woman at this point. I think you should try spending a little more time with him first. See where things go. Maybe see if he starts to make more of a move for you. If not maybe then ask him where he sees you two going. Just a random though. See what he has to say and see if he is into you. If not then do not tell him your feelings. Just say okay. I see this is not going to go anywhere and I would rather just be friends then let any feelings get in the way.
You will also see that your feelings are more of the fact that you want that comfortability that you had when you were in your relationship. You should stay single for a little while longer.
Just because someones over 21 doesnt mean they know everything.
Im 18 years old and Id say tell him how you feel and leave it at that.
If he doesnt want you knowing how you and him could be, you should move on.
He sounds to me as though hes had a bad past with women because why else would he believe women control men. I hate the women who do this to men.
it sounds as though your already in quite deep. Dont say anything for a while, SHOW him your not controlling as you are now as actions speak louder than words.
If the controlling thing is the only reason why he doesnt want a relationship, he should be fine. If it goes much deeper maybe you should leave it now.
I would speak to him face to face, that way you can see his expressions, tone of voice etc.
I am in the exact same situation as you. We talked about getting into a serious relationship but he said he didn't want anything too serious. We meet up regularly and get on really well so i'm not sure where we stand. I think just some guys don't like being tied down or are more independent. I don't know if this helps but iv decided to stick with him for another while because i really like him and like spending time with him and really there's not much wrong with the situation as it is. I'm hoping that he will realise that i'm not expecting his full attention 24hrs a day. There's nothing to lose by just seeing how things go! Good luck
(';,)cool mask
I would lay it all down on the table explain to him how you would want the relationship to be (using similar to what you have just explained to us) with both of you having independence etc. Then gauge his reaction- if it still I don't want to commit/take things further then I suggest to you that this is not a good match and you should walk away with your head held high.
Good luck.Relationship advice? From people over the age of 21 please? ?
Basically, you're already in a relationship based upon how much time you spend together.
Don't bring up the subject yet; just prove to him you're NOT controlling, you WON'T hold him back and you'll be supportive of him - then he'll naturally realise you're what he wants.
Talking about 'issues' always compounds problems IMO, just take actions to change the circumstances that are arising.
He made his intentions clear. If you can't go on with that, then you need to get out.
If you want a relationship, don't go sleeping with a guy who doesn't. Set your standards and live by them. It's better to alone for a while, then miserable for years.
hey! basically what u need to do is memories everything u just typed and say it to him! u have a good way with words and if i was that guy and u said to me what u just types i would be sure to let u in a little bit more!
good luck and hope things work out ur way!
He has given you his answer. Leave now... He opened the door for you now hold your head up high, be a big girl and walk through it. Go Go Go, now.
i dunno
I don't know.
idk
When i met my fiancee (5 months ago) i was in a similar position to your man. I felt reluctant to enter a relationship because of my personel experiences with relationships being brilliant at first and sour at the end (and it was always the woman's fault)
It only took me about 3-4 weeks to fully love my girl and this was purely out of my control coz i felt she was my soul mate and i could actually picture us being together forever. i didnt just jump in though i did think about it for quite a while (without letting my feelings properly known to my other half straight away).
From a guys point of view we need to feel secure enough to commit and know intrinsically that the woman loves us with purity and nothing else.
Im not trying to be BIG or anything but before i met my fiancee i had been out with a LOT of girls but this one sparked something i had never felt before as i could truly say that i love her without hesatating or stuttering or thinking about it. It was really wierd but felt sooooo right.
Were getting married in a years time after weve both graduated.
Im 22 in march
I would not end it right now, this is something that the teo of you need to discuss. I would have a serious conversation with him, and just ask him how he feels. Tell him that you are interested in moving beyond the level you are at, and ask him what he means when he says he doesn't want to be controlled. If you can both discuss it and come to a compromise, you have beaten one of the biggest hurdles in relationships. Ask him if he is happy enough with you to commit to not seeing any other people. Tell him that you enjoy his company, and would like more of it, but not all of it. When my wife and I got serious, we agreed that there would be two days a week that we would not see each other, and not talk on the phone. There would be no answering for our actions on those days, we did whatever we wanted. The only rule was that we were not allowed to see other people, IE, cheating. Something like this might be a good starting ground for you both. If you are that interested in him, talk about it with him, but if he shuns any further commitment at all, or is unwilling to compromise, move on, and don't look back.
advise from a bloke here. its good you understand and respect his point of view,if he chooses not to commit further then lets face it theres nothing you can do.but he must have some feelings for you otherwise he wouldn't meet you a couple of times a week{unless of course its just for sex,which you didn't elaborate on} you said you'd like the company that comes with a relationship,suggest maybe meeting an extra night a week? he says that he doesn't want to be controlled,which sounds like he has had a controlling relationship.ask him about his previous experience so ye can talk about it openly rather than you playing guessing games about what he wants from you.when you learn what his insecurities are reassure him that ye wont have that type of relationship.and prove that to him slowly over time.its all about communication.if ye dont have some degree of communication after three months then is it really working out? lastly,you said you dont like the idea of him being with someone else.i think after three months that goes without saying!
otherwise its really not worth it! best of luck and hope it works out for ye.
Well you just got our of a long term relationship. He obviously has some bitterness with woman at this point. I think you should try spending a little more time with him first. See where things go. Maybe see if he starts to make more of a move for you. If not maybe then ask him where he sees you two going. Just a random though. See what he has to say and see if he is into you. If not then do not tell him your feelings. Just say okay. I see this is not going to go anywhere and I would rather just be friends then let any feelings get in the way.
You will also see that your feelings are more of the fact that you want that comfortability that you had when you were in your relationship. You should stay single for a little while longer.
Just because someones over 21 doesnt mean they know everything.
Im 18 years old and Id say tell him how you feel and leave it at that.
If he doesnt want you knowing how you and him could be, you should move on.
He sounds to me as though hes had a bad past with women because why else would he believe women control men. I hate the women who do this to men.
it sounds as though your already in quite deep. Dont say anything for a while, SHOW him your not controlling as you are now as actions speak louder than words.
If the controlling thing is the only reason why he doesnt want a relationship, he should be fine. If it goes much deeper maybe you should leave it now.
I would speak to him face to face, that way you can see his expressions, tone of voice etc.
I am in the exact same situation as you. We talked about getting into a serious relationship but he said he didn't want anything too serious. We meet up regularly and get on really well so i'm not sure where we stand. I think just some guys don't like being tied down or are more independent. I don't know if this helps but iv decided to stick with him for another while because i really like him and like spending time with him and really there's not much wrong with the situation as it is. I'm hoping that he will realise that i'm not expecting his full attention 24hrs a day. There's nothing to lose by just seeing how things go! Good luck
(';,)
Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
Ok, last week my boss Vincent and coworkers all got together and told me they thought I needed psychological help. This is so not true!!!
They’ve been leading up to this all along. Like yesterday when they told me that I was going to get an intervention, at first they said that I was going to get to “enter Vincent.” But when I said “ENTER VINCENT?!?” they changed it to “get an intervention.” Very funny, NOT.
Once he said that he was comfortable that I “had his backside orifice”, then changed it to confident I had his “back in the office.”
So now all of a sudden, I’m supposedly “paranoid and sexually obsessed with my boss?” That totally floored me! I mean, Vincent looks and sounds almost exactly like a 10 year younger version of my dad! How could I be sexually obscene with him?!? I mean, I love my dad, but 10 yrs ago it seems like all he did was paddle me when he caught me whacking off.
Any ideas why are they trying so hard to get me into trouble?';Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
Man those idiots have it out for you. My big, phine, muscle-man boss once told me ';Hey, I'm lubed up and ready for you,'; and when I said WHAT??? he changed it to ';Go put this in the accounts pending file.';
I'd go to personnel if I was you. Dude, that stuff ain'f fair.Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
It sounds like you are subcounciouslly into your boss. Its ok though, everyone gets crushes.
';Obscene'; says it all... :-P
They know that the boss likes you best and they are trying to figure out how to get in his good graces
While I don't believe your story, I do agree that you need some help - so listen to those voices
Good luck
I suggest that you have become overly enamored with your own cleverness.
An intervention may be necessary.
It's the oedipus complex... only backwards.
I think they are just messing with you. If it really bothers you talk to your co-workers about it. If they keep messing with you talk to your boss's boss. This is harassment, and you have a right to feel comfortable in your workplace.
I have this problem all the time. Just because I wear a bunny suit does NOT mean I'm fair game in the office. Seriously. And when I catch them starting at my tail they turn around and act like I'M the obsessed one.
I agree with you. Just tell them to ask you out like normal people. I love my dad too.
Maybe they're just jealous of the ';close'; relationship you share with your father. LOL @ Sophia.
They’ve been leading up to this all along. Like yesterday when they told me that I was going to get an intervention, at first they said that I was going to get to “enter Vincent.” But when I said “ENTER VINCENT?!?” they changed it to “get an intervention.” Very funny, NOT.
Once he said that he was comfortable that I “had his backside orifice”, then changed it to confident I had his “back in the office.”
So now all of a sudden, I’m supposedly “paranoid and sexually obsessed with my boss?” That totally floored me! I mean, Vincent looks and sounds almost exactly like a 10 year younger version of my dad! How could I be sexually obscene with him?!? I mean, I love my dad, but 10 yrs ago it seems like all he did was paddle me when he caught me whacking off.
Any ideas why are they trying so hard to get me into trouble?';Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
Man those idiots have it out for you. My big, phine, muscle-man boss once told me ';Hey, I'm lubed up and ready for you,'; and when I said WHAT??? he changed it to ';Go put this in the accounts pending file.';
I'd go to personnel if I was you. Dude, that stuff ain'f fair.Psychological advice for people trying to get me in trouble, please?
It sounds like you are subcounciouslly into your boss. Its ok though, everyone gets crushes.
';Obscene'; says it all... :-P
They know that the boss likes you best and they are trying to figure out how to get in his good graces
While I don't believe your story, I do agree that you need some help - so listen to those voices
Good luck
I suggest that you have become overly enamored with your own cleverness.
An intervention may be necessary.
It's the oedipus complex... only backwards.
I think they are just messing with you. If it really bothers you talk to your co-workers about it. If they keep messing with you talk to your boss's boss. This is harassment, and you have a right to feel comfortable in your workplace.
I have this problem all the time. Just because I wear a bunny suit does NOT mean I'm fair game in the office. Seriously. And when I catch them starting at my tail they turn around and act like I'M the obsessed one.
I agree with you. Just tell them to ask you out like normal people. I love my dad too.
Maybe they're just jealous of the ';close'; relationship you share with your father. LOL @ Sophia.
Need Advice From People Who Been This?
How Do I Stay/Get On The Right Path- I finished high school 2-3 months later into college-its not go to good, i stay with my mom but trying to find a good job to get my own place, while i was working and going to school I got 2-5 hours of sleep a day, my mom is depending on me to pay 2-4 hundred a month on bills, dont get me wrong i want to but its hardNeed Advice From People Who Been This?
I'm actually going through something similar right now. My mom has a terminal illness so I'm taking care of my two sisters and little brother. I don't have a job right now because time does not allow for it. I'm stuck in a house taking care of kids that aren't mine. I don't have my own allowance. I cook the food, I do the laundry. Basically I'm being the mom. I know it gets frustrating, but it just depends on you and your morals. I know there has been times when I just wanted to get the h*ll out of here, but I realize that I don't have anywhere to go to.
So what you could try to do is stay with your mom for a bit longer, save up money, even if you only take out $20 from a paycheck. Know what you want to do. If you're still in college you could always get financial aid. So hang in there. You're going the best you can and no one can do better than that.Need Advice From People Who Been This?
your mom expects way too much, you can live cheaper on your own
More info, please. Is your mom working? Is the $200-400/month considered rent, or does she just want you to pay her bills for her?
You're young and have a great future ahead of you. You are dedicated and smart. You need to focus on taking care of yourself and finishing school - do what you need to do to accomplish that, because you will really regret dropping out. You just need to focus on your goals. Your Mom is a grown up and can take care of herself (and if she can't, there are agencies that can help her).
Even if you were living on your own, you can't live any place for $200-400 a month. I think your mom is doing you a favor really, preparing you for the next step; which is living on your own. Between rent, utilities, phone, car, insurance, groceries, etc. That amount hardly covers it. How much are your moms expenses a month?
I'm actually going through something similar right now. My mom has a terminal illness so I'm taking care of my two sisters and little brother. I don't have a job right now because time does not allow for it. I'm stuck in a house taking care of kids that aren't mine. I don't have my own allowance. I cook the food, I do the laundry. Basically I'm being the mom. I know it gets frustrating, but it just depends on you and your morals. I know there has been times when I just wanted to get the h*ll out of here, but I realize that I don't have anywhere to go to.
So what you could try to do is stay with your mom for a bit longer, save up money, even if you only take out $20 from a paycheck. Know what you want to do. If you're still in college you could always get financial aid. So hang in there. You're going the best you can and no one can do better than that.Need Advice From People Who Been This?
your mom expects way too much, you can live cheaper on your own
More info, please. Is your mom working? Is the $200-400/month considered rent, or does she just want you to pay her bills for her?
You're young and have a great future ahead of you. You are dedicated and smart. You need to focus on taking care of yourself and finishing school - do what you need to do to accomplish that, because you will really regret dropping out. You just need to focus on your goals. Your Mom is a grown up and can take care of herself (and if she can't, there are agencies that can help her).
Even if you were living on your own, you can't live any place for $200-400 a month. I think your mom is doing you a favor really, preparing you for the next step; which is living on your own. Between rent, utilities, phone, car, insurance, groceries, etc. That amount hardly covers it. How much are your moms expenses a month?
Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
Well recently I met this girl in school and I managed to get her number yesterday, I was thinking about calling her and inviting her to come with me to go to a school play which will show in 2 weeks from now. I was wondering when I should call her to ask and whether or not I should call her earlier this week just to talk. I'm not sure if she likes me or not so i might be nervous or feel embarrassed if i get rejected.
If I should call her before asking her to go with me to the school play, I need some topics to talk about with her that will keep her interested and make it easy for her to give her opinion.
I appreciate all of the help given to me GREATLY thanks for taking your time to respond to me.Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
There's been some really great advice here, so I'll just add: make sure the conversation is two way, listening and talking. Don't push her to talk about anything too personal.
Don't talk about exs, good or bad. Let the past be the past. Also try to avoid being negative about anything for too long.
You can talk about school, TV shows, movies, hobbies. Just stuff that you both do in life. Don't let the conversation go on too long. I do think you should call in the next day or two to say hi, then call a couple of days after to invite her to the play: don't wait very long cause she might make other plans for that night! Women appreciate it if a guy gives them enough time ahead of a date.
And if she does turn you down, but seems nice: don't take it as a rejection: she might acutally have something else to do. Ask her one more time after that on a date, with plenty of notice (a week or more, ask what's a good time for her), and if she turns you down then, move on to greener pastures.
And rejection has nothing to do with you; different folks like different types. But I have to agree with the other poster who said that if she gave you her number, she probably already likes you!
Good luck and have fun at the play!Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
Ok hereswhat you do call her and talk to her at school possible topics A teacher that no one likes, a assignment, throw some really funny jokes (and not like knock knock jokes like funny boservations get it) every girls into a funny guy, just casual stuff become accquaintances find out what she likes and then you can talk about that and if it's going good ask her a couple days before the play good luck
Don't call right away or it makes you look desperate. She gave you her number so that means she likes you a litttle already. Try talking to her again in school one day and then if that goes well, call her a few days after that and invite her to the play. If you're ever stuck on how to talk to her just ask her questions about herself. It's the easiest topic for anyone to talk about.
ok if u think ull get to nervous txt her 2 days before the show so she dont forget and u dont got to go threw all the trouble in reminding her.
and if u got her house number call her and be straight forward
If I could go back in time, to where I was shy and afraid of rejection-- I'd kick myself. School is so much easier to deal with than any other time (in my opinion). It's a time of practicing with relationships before the REAL thing. Just call her up and ask her now, so that she can leave that date open to go with you. There's a lot you guys could talk about. Ask what she's been up to lately. If you guys want to go hang out at the mall (use Christmas shopping as an excuse, and you need a girl's input on what to get a family member, for example), etc. While at the mall, pay for her lunch (she'll think you're so sweet for this), etc. Good luck-- and RELAX!
If I should call her before asking her to go with me to the school play, I need some topics to talk about with her that will keep her interested and make it easy for her to give her opinion.
I appreciate all of the help given to me GREATLY thanks for taking your time to respond to me.Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
There's been some really great advice here, so I'll just add: make sure the conversation is two way, listening and talking. Don't push her to talk about anything too personal.
Don't talk about exs, good or bad. Let the past be the past. Also try to avoid being negative about anything for too long.
You can talk about school, TV shows, movies, hobbies. Just stuff that you both do in life. Don't let the conversation go on too long. I do think you should call in the next day or two to say hi, then call a couple of days after to invite her to the play: don't wait very long cause she might make other plans for that night! Women appreciate it if a guy gives them enough time ahead of a date.
And if she does turn you down, but seems nice: don't take it as a rejection: she might acutally have something else to do. Ask her one more time after that on a date, with plenty of notice (a week or more, ask what's a good time for her), and if she turns you down then, move on to greener pastures.
And rejection has nothing to do with you; different folks like different types. But I have to agree with the other poster who said that if she gave you her number, she probably already likes you!
Good luck and have fun at the play!Need advice from people in a sucessful relationship?
Ok hereswhat you do call her and talk to her at school possible topics A teacher that no one likes, a assignment, throw some really funny jokes (and not like knock knock jokes like funny boservations get it) every girls into a funny guy, just casual stuff become accquaintances find out what she likes and then you can talk about that and if it's going good ask her a couple days before the play good luck
Don't call right away or it makes you look desperate. She gave you her number so that means she likes you a litttle already. Try talking to her again in school one day and then if that goes well, call her a few days after that and invite her to the play. If you're ever stuck on how to talk to her just ask her questions about herself. It's the easiest topic for anyone to talk about.
ok if u think ull get to nervous txt her 2 days before the show so she dont forget and u dont got to go threw all the trouble in reminding her.
and if u got her house number call her and be straight forward
If I could go back in time, to where I was shy and afraid of rejection-- I'd kick myself. School is so much easier to deal with than any other time (in my opinion). It's a time of practicing with relationships before the REAL thing. Just call her up and ask her now, so that she can leave that date open to go with you. There's a lot you guys could talk about. Ask what she's been up to lately. If you guys want to go hang out at the mall (use Christmas shopping as an excuse, and you need a girl's input on what to get a family member, for example), etc. While at the mall, pay for her lunch (she'll think you're so sweet for this), etc. Good luck-- and RELAX!
Relationship advice. Seeking people who have been in relationship in a long time or married.?
My boyfriend and I love each other, but recently, we have been kindda rocky due to external factors: his family - parents long divorced with not a lotta foundation and alcoholic father (enough said) whom which he lives with. What to do? His family will always be around, will our relationship last with our love alone, knowing his family for the most part won't change? I was thinking that things will get better because he will move out in two years and get his own life started (since he's giving his dad money, he has stumped his life and starting school late cuz of full time job), so things will be better for us. How do couples handle the in-laws and is it okay to not like them and not be around them? Or do you need to suck it up and pretend to like them for the relationship? He understands my position on his family, but it isn't right for him to choose between me and his family. Does anyone have any similar situations with conflict with lover's family members?Relationship advice. Seeking people who have been in relationship in a long time or married.?
I think I may be able to help, as I have been in a similar situation for a long time. My (second) wife and I have been married for nearly 13 years; we both had children from our previous marriages, and have one son together. My wife's parents are divorced; her mother (with whom I get on exceptionally well), lives in another state, and her father lives about three hours drive from us. And he and I don't like each other at all. We have, for many years, ';tolerated'; each other for the sake of my wife, but begrudgingly. But even that tenuous connection went downhill over two years ago, when I had a fight with one of my stepsons...of course, dear old grandpa has to stick up for his grandson, and has tried his hardest ever since to break my wife and I up. Now of course I'm not too impressed by all this (and please don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming my stepson 100% for the fight, I know that I am at least 50% to blame...but what I object to is that the old codger can't see that). I have no intention of seeing him again (I haven't for over two years), and I am perfectly comfortable with my position. But my wife isn't, she wants her father and husband to get on, which is fair enough, and if ever I do ';patch things up'; with him, it will be for her, certainly not for me, and DEFINITELY not for him. So, to answer your question - you will be married to (or living with) your boyfriend, not to his family. You must do what you feel comfortable with, and if you truly love each other your relationship will last the distance. There will be great pressure from family members to break up, but if you are strong you should be able to resist it. In my case, what my stepson and father in law don't realise is that the more they try to break us up, the stronger my resolve to stay becomes.
You don't mention YOUR family - how do they get on with your boyfriend? Are they a source of strength, do they support your relationship? My advice is to hang in there, don't let them bring you down. Good luck!
I think I may be able to help, as I have been in a similar situation for a long time. My (second) wife and I have been married for nearly 13 years; we both had children from our previous marriages, and have one son together. My wife's parents are divorced; her mother (with whom I get on exceptionally well), lives in another state, and her father lives about three hours drive from us. And he and I don't like each other at all. We have, for many years, ';tolerated'; each other for the sake of my wife, but begrudgingly. But even that tenuous connection went downhill over two years ago, when I had a fight with one of my stepsons...of course, dear old grandpa has to stick up for his grandson, and has tried his hardest ever since to break my wife and I up. Now of course I'm not too impressed by all this (and please don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming my stepson 100% for the fight, I know that I am at least 50% to blame...but what I object to is that the old codger can't see that). I have no intention of seeing him again (I haven't for over two years), and I am perfectly comfortable with my position. But my wife isn't, she wants her father and husband to get on, which is fair enough, and if ever I do ';patch things up'; with him, it will be for her, certainly not for me, and DEFINITELY not for him. So, to answer your question - you will be married to (or living with) your boyfriend, not to his family. You must do what you feel comfortable with, and if you truly love each other your relationship will last the distance. There will be great pressure from family members to break up, but if you are strong you should be able to resist it. In my case, what my stepson and father in law don't realise is that the more they try to break us up, the stronger my resolve to stay becomes.
You don't mention YOUR family - how do they get on with your boyfriend? Are they a source of strength, do they support your relationship? My advice is to hang in there, don't let them bring you down. Good luck!
Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to the HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear like ghetto glam clothes usually (always have)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
tips:
ok seriously i live n da ghetto nd u rly shuldnt try 2 fit n cus if u try 2 hard then ppl will just call u fake so it works bttr if ur just urself nd try not 2 refer da ppl who liv n da hood as ghetto cus if ur not from ther ppl will get rly pissed about it
answer 2 question:
i think if u b urself then everything will rly fall n2 place nd as 4 wat guys like i hav no idea! lol but sum guys u rly dont need. do urself a favor nd dont date a scum bag tht treats u like crap. the guys i date r rly kool nd genuine but at the same time rnt rly laid bac so they kno how 2 keep a relationship interesting. i kno tht its hard 2 find guys like tht but its the best thing and ';ghetto'; guys rly like a girl thts real cus even tho they mite seem tought outside they just want a girl tht knos how 2 treat him nd can stay truthful nd by the sounds of it ur attractive (no homo) so tht shuldnt b a problem with u getting a bf nd i hope i helped u nd gud luk!Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
first of all, your being very stereotypical and secondly don't use the word ghetto too much cause it shows lack of class and intelligents. if you want to talk to any guy be yourself, being something else will always wear thin.
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear like ghetto glam clothes usually (always have)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
tips:
ok seriously i live n da ghetto nd u rly shuldnt try 2 fit n cus if u try 2 hard then ppl will just call u fake so it works bttr if ur just urself nd try not 2 refer da ppl who liv n da hood as ghetto cus if ur not from ther ppl will get rly pissed about it
answer 2 question:
i think if u b urself then everything will rly fall n2 place nd as 4 wat guys like i hav no idea! lol but sum guys u rly dont need. do urself a favor nd dont date a scum bag tht treats u like crap. the guys i date r rly kool nd genuine but at the same time rnt rly laid bac so they kno how 2 keep a relationship interesting. i kno tht its hard 2 find guys like tht but its the best thing and ';ghetto'; guys rly like a girl thts real cus even tho they mite seem tought outside they just want a girl tht knos how 2 treat him nd can stay truthful nd by the sounds of it ur attractive (no homo) so tht shuldnt b a problem with u getting a bf nd i hope i helped u nd gud luk!Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
first of all, your being very stereotypical and secondly don't use the word ghetto too much cause it shows lack of class and intelligents. if you want to talk to any guy be yourself, being something else will always wear thin.
Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to the HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear like ghetto glam clothes usually (always have)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
Ok...1st and foremost
A lot of people from the Hood are grimey...
so if the dudes try to spit some game at you,try not to fall for it.
I dont want you to expect one thing and end up getting hurt.
All im sayin is you really have to beware wit who you're dealing with in tha hood.
Always be 3 steps ahead of everyone, so anyone wont try to take advantage of you in this dating world!
Be safe and Good Luck!coupons
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if ghetto guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear like ghetto glam clothes usually (always have)Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
Ok...1st and foremost
A lot of people from the Hood are grimey...
so if the dudes try to spit some game at you,try not to fall for it.
I dont want you to expect one thing and end up getting hurt.
All im sayin is you really have to beware wit who you're dealing with in tha hood.
Always be 3 steps ahead of everyone, so anyone wont try to take advantage of you in this dating world!
Be safe and Good Luck!
Dating advice, experianced people please?
Alright instead of giving a long story ill give points on whats happening
1. I'm thinking about this to much
2. I really like this girl
3. She was travelling and we hung out for a few days
4. She wanted to be with me a lot
5. She wants me to visit her in Italy in December
6. She asked me when she was drunk
7. I'm thinking about this to much
8. I sent her a weak text message last night, ';ill only go if your cool with it';
9. She never texted back
10. I like this girl and don't know what to do
11. I miss her
12. I think about things to muchDating advice, experianced people please?
She was drunk. So you're probably risking the chance that she doesn't remember. And no, you're not overthinking this at all dude. If I paid to go out and see a girl in another country and she didn't even remember asking me, I'd kick her in the ovaries!
I think you should call her or something and get a straight SOBER answer.Dating advice, experianced people please?
It is what it is.Let her call you.If not let it alone.If it,s meant 2 be it will be.Life is what U make it.
well i'm sorry for saying this but i think she doesn't want you to come and visit her since she never texted back! i think you should either tell her how you really feel about her or just let go with this whole story!
I think you should try and forget her =[ she most likely does not remember ever asking you.
Tell her how you feel.
How far is italy from you? If its more than driving distance I suggest not doing it.
The only way to stop thinking about it is to find something or someone to distract you. Good luck, its a hard thing to do sometimes.
Just be aware, this is they type of situation people refer to as, ';the one that got away';. right now you are unsure of how you and she would get along, and in all likely hood its probably not nearly as good as you imagine. She was drinking when she told you to visit, which means that now she is sober she probably regrets it (which is why she ignored you) and she is probably more embarrassed about how she acted than has feelings for you. Vacation flings are fun, let her remember you in a good light, and don't try to fit into her life that is so far away.
1. I'm thinking about this to much
2. I really like this girl
3. She was travelling and we hung out for a few days
4. She wanted to be with me a lot
5. She wants me to visit her in Italy in December
6. She asked me when she was drunk
7. I'm thinking about this to much
8. I sent her a weak text message last night, ';ill only go if your cool with it';
9. She never texted back
10. I like this girl and don't know what to do
11. I miss her
12. I think about things to muchDating advice, experianced people please?
She was drunk. So you're probably risking the chance that she doesn't remember. And no, you're not overthinking this at all dude. If I paid to go out and see a girl in another country and she didn't even remember asking me, I'd kick her in the ovaries!
I think you should call her or something and get a straight SOBER answer.Dating advice, experianced people please?
It is what it is.Let her call you.If not let it alone.If it,s meant 2 be it will be.Life is what U make it.
well i'm sorry for saying this but i think she doesn't want you to come and visit her since she never texted back! i think you should either tell her how you really feel about her or just let go with this whole story!
I think you should try and forget her =[ she most likely does not remember ever asking you.
Tell her how you feel.
How far is italy from you? If its more than driving distance I suggest not doing it.
The only way to stop thinking about it is to find something or someone to distract you. Good luck, its a hard thing to do sometimes.
Just be aware, this is they type of situation people refer to as, ';the one that got away';. right now you are unsure of how you and she would get along, and in all likely hood its probably not nearly as good as you imagine. She was drinking when she told you to visit, which means that now she is sober she probably regrets it (which is why she ignored you) and she is probably more embarrassed about how she acted than has feelings for you. Vacation flings are fun, let her remember you in a good light, and don't try to fit into her life that is so far away.
Need advice from people with pregant cats and kittens?
What would convince you to have your cat spayed or neutered? I really need to know so we can figure out some way to stop having to kill all these animals. The pound I went to yesterday had 300 cat and kittens. Maybe 15 of them will find homes and the rest will die because there are no homes for them. So I'd like to know what it is that causes people not to have their pets fixed and what we could do to change your mind. What reasons do you have for not doing it? I'd love suggestions from you. Thanks.Need advice from people with pregant cats and kittens?
I think the problem is lack of knowledge. I have a 3 year old female cat whom I allowed to have one litter. I checked that we had homes for at least 4 kittens before we allowed her to get pregant. She had 3 kittens and each were housed with a friend who was thrilled with them. Until recently, I didn't even realise that there were hundreds of cats in rescue centres needing homes. perhaps I am particularly ignorant, but I don't think so. If I had known this prior to allowing my cat to get pregant then it would have definately changed my mind and I would have had her spayed prior to her litter.Need advice from people with pregant cats and kittens?
I've always had my cats ';fixed'; and I think it's because I adopted them from shelters and was faced with having to recognize that there were several cats that were going to have to be put down because ';no one wanted them';. I think if people saw Animal Planet's ';Animal Cops'; show they would definitely change their mind about neutering and spaying. Maybe if people didn't just give away unwanted kittens and perpetuate the idea that animals can just be gotten rid of, that might help.
i have my pets say if thay like to be a mom or not i pay someone to do that for me my cat have kittys 2 times a yaer i find homes for all of my kittys my cat had 17 kittys in 2006 and had 15 kittys in 2007 my cat just had 14 kittys 4 days a go my dog will have puppys when she is older
There really is no EXCUSE for not spaying/neutering! Here is a link. It can be done for FREE!
http://www.animalliberationfront.com/Pra鈥?/a>
Come on people, have a heart for all these poor cats and kittens in shelters around the world! If you really have a heart and if you really are a cat lover, you will do the right thing. Please check out the link and do the right thing. Help stop the overpopulation of cats and give the cats in shelters a chance at life and love like they deserve!
I agree but it comes down to cost for alot of people. We have a Mobile Unit from time to time that stops throughout the City but then again it boils down to money and transportation. It is a real problem in every City. It's very sad. Perhaps it should be taught in their Health class.It is a health problem. The ';No Kill'; Shelters just can't keep up at this rate.
I have fixed all my dogs and cats the last 20 years. And I agree with you , its very SAD! Some people are Morons, I had a neighbor who loved kittens. But when they grew up they hated them, or they became Ferrel. Turn people in I did!
This site gives some FREE spay/neuter clinics %26amp; info, there are also low income programs, and other low cost spay/neuter clinics in most areas. You just have to do a little research %26amp; investigating to find them.
www.myspace.com/Christiangrassa
I decided to let my cat have kittens, for the fact that she was already pregnant when i took her to the vet and could not have my cat go throught the abortion stage, too much stress and confusion for the cats body...... i would never give my animals to the pound just for that simple fact... Its sad that it happens and there is a over population of cats, just because its so expensive to get the damb thing fixed! many people who get animals dont relize that its a big pain in the @$$ but in the long run it is very much worth it! I never had a reason for not getting her fixed i actually thought that it was time and she wasnt even a year old and she had her kittins! I will be getting her fixed asa the kittens are gone but your concern is also one of my own!
Its so sad that people these days only think of themselves and they maybe buy a cat or dog for their kid to make them happy at Christmas or on a birthday, but like an old used toy gets put aside...unfortunately these animals do as well when the newness wears off. Unfortunately because the majority of the parents that purchase these animals aren't educated in how to care for them, these animals end up not getting all their shots and more than often aren't spayed/neutered simply because the owners don't care. The animal was a gift to the kid to get them to stop nagging them. Unfortunately because of these parents and their bad decision making skills and poor examples that they have set for their children...not only that one poor pet goes unloved (or possibly killed) but so do several others (all that animals offspring) not to mention...once those kids grow up and have kids of their own...whats to stop them from being the same lousy example to their children as their parents where to them....I swear people if you don't do anything else in your life right...at least spay or neuter your pets. It doesn't cost much, maybe $50 for a female to be spayed and $25 for a male to be neutered. Check out clinics put on by your local humane society or ASPCA if your vet charges too much. In my honest opinion - people should not own pets if they aren't able to afford their medical treatments.
How's that Pretty Kitty? Did I take the words right out of your mouth. I hope it does some good.
It all comes down to education really. So, I really do think that pet care and responsible ownership should be introduced into the schooling syllabus of life skills. It's amazing how many people are still of the old vanguard that it's best we let kitty have one litter before neutering for her health and best let tom sire a few litters first so he feels like a man before he loses it.
Is there some way that shelters could create an online presence through a website and have weekly updated photos and little snippet stories about each kitten or litter to attract new potential owners. It would throw a larger net for more potential owners for definite. That is how I have attracted a lot of potential kitten owners, then through word of mouth secondly. These sites that allow you to advertize your cat or kitten sale for free is ok, but it's much better when you have your own online presence if you run a shelter, boarding cattery or above board registered breeder.
I also think that governmental bodies, be it local or central, should take a more active role in funding visitations by shelter workers with some vetted and friendly cats/kittens or dogs/puppies to junior %26amp; high schools, colleges and universities to educate first hand what happens in the real world to pets.
Good point to bring up!!!
Info on help for low income and vouchers for spay/neuter -
http://spayusa.org/main_directory/03-pro鈥?/a>
http://spayusa.org/main_directory/03-pro鈥?/a>
http://neuterspay.org/nationwide_spay_ne鈥?/a>
http://www.lovethatcat.com/spayneuter.ht鈥?/a>
UK spay/neuter help programmes -
http://www.cats.org.uk/
http://www.bedfordcatsprotection.org.uk/鈥?/a>
http://www.pdsa.org.uk/topicofthemonth_3鈥?/a>
http://www.cats.org.uk/workwedo/neuterin鈥?/a>
The reason that I am going to convince my great-grandma to get her cat fixed is because I am such a major cat lover that although they are the CUTEST thing, I would much rather have a heathly cat then a sick cat with 4 dying kittens.
I just got the one I wanted today but I came home with 2! Hehe! When the mom cat found out that 2 of her kittens were gone, she took one off somewhere--we have NO idea where--and there is one that is ALL alone.
It makes me SOOO sad just to think of poor little Tiger all alone on the porch steps of someone's house and then that person not having a heart and then it dying.
I am crying now! :((!
Oh well, I pray that God will take care of her.
Hope I helped.
Pretty Kitty, it's interesting that with the constant barrage of questions here from people with pregnant cats and kittens, not one has answered your question (except for the illiterate post from ';dog'; which I assume is a troll).
Money does not usually have to be an issue with spay/neuter, as there are low-cost clinics all over. The closest one in my area is an hour away, which I can see would be inconvenient for some people, but if you realize you can't get your cat fixed you should hold off getting one until you can.
I can understand those who take in a pregnant stray and opt to let her have the kittens because they're opposed to feline ';abortions'; (I personally would rather see pregnant cats spayed than see already born cats killed, but that's just me), but those who just don't bother to get it done for whatever stupid excuse are irresponsible and cruel.
I havea suggestion that I was going to put on my answer to your other question.
Maybe you could get students to volunteer to make and distribute leaflets? I know the art students especially would like to make something with their name on it, especially if they need a project to put in their portfolio. You could even make information packages yourself. I'm in the UK and planning on doing this here, maybe it's a nice idea for you over there too? Something to REALLY get the word out.
If not, how about filming at the shelter - something shocking, but not gross or extremely upsetting - and sticking it up on YouTube to raise awareness for everyone who sees it? Make an account. Maybe follow the lives of kittens in the shelter.. it would be pretty upsetting though, obviously. And if it's too upsetting, people wouldn't watch it. It would have to be very careful.
Expense is also a problem, along with lack of knowledge - not because it's too high a price, but because people think they deserve nights out more than their pets deserve to be safe. I have no idea how to combat this one. Maybe once people know the dangers, and know poor cats are getting killed and haveno where to live, they may rethink whether they really need that weekend break to the seaside?
As I said, the expense thing never made sense to me - I've neverhad a problem with the money to get my cats fixed. I can't see into the mindset of someone who would get a cat not knowing how theyre gonna pay fees.
If they want cute little animals running around, without much responsibility on the fees side - they should foster. People usually get kittens for their children on a whim, not knowing what they're gonna have to pay for. Reality check people: Kids get bored of animals at young ages. if your child likes cats and kittens, foster some. That way, your child will get to play with alot of kittens, and when they get bored *bam* you get a new foster family to look after, and the kids happy again. Oh look! We have a ginger tabby family this time! The other family were black and white!
I'm going to stop now. I'm starting to feel bitter and I'm going to look mean.
EDIT: I've just been thinking about different mediums - is there a suitable newspaper you can get in contact with, maybe do a feature or even a bi-monthly article? Newspapers pounce on stories of 'poor, cute little animals' because they know it tugs on readers heartstrings, and at the same time, people could read and gain knowledge?
Might think of doing that myself... You can put in pictures and all sorts. If you get the chance to do an article, maybe do it from the cats point of view?
I cannot think of one good reason NOT to have my cat spayed or neutered. Spaying prevents unwanted litters that end up in the pound or stray. Spreading disease that can spread to other cats. If spaying a cat before a litter is born it will prevent mammary gland cancer. The female cat will not roam at hunt for a male and the behavior is more acceptable to an owner.
Neutering prevents roaming, fighting and injury caused by this behavior. It prevents testicular cancer as well as prostate cancer. It also prevents males from impregnating the female causing unwanted and uncared for litters. Public service announcements help but cities need to get more involved, by sending letters to residents about the proper care of animals. Door to door volunteers would also make an impact just by talking with pet owners face to face. Many people don't feel that they can afford the spaying or neutering. The cost must be more reasonable for lower income individuals.
And of course, there are those who believe that a pet is a pet and it is unnecessary to spend extra money toward the pets welfare as they can be replaced. This is ignorance and programs are need to enlighten these people.
Hopefully, this situation will change someday but I don't think that it will happen soon as it is not looked at as a priority to many individuals.
I think the problem is lack of knowledge. I have a 3 year old female cat whom I allowed to have one litter. I checked that we had homes for at least 4 kittens before we allowed her to get pregant. She had 3 kittens and each were housed with a friend who was thrilled with them. Until recently, I didn't even realise that there were hundreds of cats in rescue centres needing homes. perhaps I am particularly ignorant, but I don't think so. If I had known this prior to allowing my cat to get pregant then it would have definately changed my mind and I would have had her spayed prior to her litter.Need advice from people with pregant cats and kittens?
I've always had my cats ';fixed'; and I think it's because I adopted them from shelters and was faced with having to recognize that there were several cats that were going to have to be put down because ';no one wanted them';. I think if people saw Animal Planet's ';Animal Cops'; show they would definitely change their mind about neutering and spaying. Maybe if people didn't just give away unwanted kittens and perpetuate the idea that animals can just be gotten rid of, that might help.
i have my pets say if thay like to be a mom or not i pay someone to do that for me my cat have kittys 2 times a yaer i find homes for all of my kittys my cat had 17 kittys in 2006 and had 15 kittys in 2007 my cat just had 14 kittys 4 days a go my dog will have puppys when she is older
There really is no EXCUSE for not spaying/neutering! Here is a link. It can be done for FREE!
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Come on people, have a heart for all these poor cats and kittens in shelters around the world! If you really have a heart and if you really are a cat lover, you will do the right thing. Please check out the link and do the right thing. Help stop the overpopulation of cats and give the cats in shelters a chance at life and love like they deserve!
I agree but it comes down to cost for alot of people. We have a Mobile Unit from time to time that stops throughout the City but then again it boils down to money and transportation. It is a real problem in every City. It's very sad. Perhaps it should be taught in their Health class.It is a health problem. The ';No Kill'; Shelters just can't keep up at this rate.
I have fixed all my dogs and cats the last 20 years. And I agree with you , its very SAD! Some people are Morons, I had a neighbor who loved kittens. But when they grew up they hated them, or they became Ferrel. Turn people in I did!
This site gives some FREE spay/neuter clinics %26amp; info, there are also low income programs, and other low cost spay/neuter clinics in most areas. You just have to do a little research %26amp; investigating to find them.
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I decided to let my cat have kittens, for the fact that she was already pregnant when i took her to the vet and could not have my cat go throught the abortion stage, too much stress and confusion for the cats body...... i would never give my animals to the pound just for that simple fact... Its sad that it happens and there is a over population of cats, just because its so expensive to get the damb thing fixed! many people who get animals dont relize that its a big pain in the @$$ but in the long run it is very much worth it! I never had a reason for not getting her fixed i actually thought that it was time and she wasnt even a year old and she had her kittins! I will be getting her fixed asa the kittens are gone but your concern is also one of my own!
Its so sad that people these days only think of themselves and they maybe buy a cat or dog for their kid to make them happy at Christmas or on a birthday, but like an old used toy gets put aside...unfortunately these animals do as well when the newness wears off. Unfortunately because the majority of the parents that purchase these animals aren't educated in how to care for them, these animals end up not getting all their shots and more than often aren't spayed/neutered simply because the owners don't care. The animal was a gift to the kid to get them to stop nagging them. Unfortunately because of these parents and their bad decision making skills and poor examples that they have set for their children...not only that one poor pet goes unloved (or possibly killed) but so do several others (all that animals offspring) not to mention...once those kids grow up and have kids of their own...whats to stop them from being the same lousy example to their children as their parents where to them....I swear people if you don't do anything else in your life right...at least spay or neuter your pets. It doesn't cost much, maybe $50 for a female to be spayed and $25 for a male to be neutered. Check out clinics put on by your local humane society or ASPCA if your vet charges too much. In my honest opinion - people should not own pets if they aren't able to afford their medical treatments.
How's that Pretty Kitty? Did I take the words right out of your mouth. I hope it does some good.
It all comes down to education really. So, I really do think that pet care and responsible ownership should be introduced into the schooling syllabus of life skills. It's amazing how many people are still of the old vanguard that it's best we let kitty have one litter before neutering for her health and best let tom sire a few litters first so he feels like a man before he loses it.
Is there some way that shelters could create an online presence through a website and have weekly updated photos and little snippet stories about each kitten or litter to attract new potential owners. It would throw a larger net for more potential owners for definite. That is how I have attracted a lot of potential kitten owners, then through word of mouth secondly. These sites that allow you to advertize your cat or kitten sale for free is ok, but it's much better when you have your own online presence if you run a shelter, boarding cattery or above board registered breeder.
I also think that governmental bodies, be it local or central, should take a more active role in funding visitations by shelter workers with some vetted and friendly cats/kittens or dogs/puppies to junior %26amp; high schools, colleges and universities to educate first hand what happens in the real world to pets.
Good point to bring up!!!
Info on help for low income and vouchers for spay/neuter -
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UK spay/neuter help programmes -
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The reason that I am going to convince my great-grandma to get her cat fixed is because I am such a major cat lover that although they are the CUTEST thing, I would much rather have a heathly cat then a sick cat with 4 dying kittens.
I just got the one I wanted today but I came home with 2! Hehe! When the mom cat found out that 2 of her kittens were gone, she took one off somewhere--we have NO idea where--and there is one that is ALL alone.
It makes me SOOO sad just to think of poor little Tiger all alone on the porch steps of someone's house and then that person not having a heart and then it dying.
I am crying now! :((!
Oh well, I pray that God will take care of her.
Hope I helped.
Pretty Kitty, it's interesting that with the constant barrage of questions here from people with pregnant cats and kittens, not one has answered your question (except for the illiterate post from ';dog'; which I assume is a troll).
Money does not usually have to be an issue with spay/neuter, as there are low-cost clinics all over. The closest one in my area is an hour away, which I can see would be inconvenient for some people, but if you realize you can't get your cat fixed you should hold off getting one until you can.
I can understand those who take in a pregnant stray and opt to let her have the kittens because they're opposed to feline ';abortions'; (I personally would rather see pregnant cats spayed than see already born cats killed, but that's just me), but those who just don't bother to get it done for whatever stupid excuse are irresponsible and cruel.
I havea suggestion that I was going to put on my answer to your other question.
Maybe you could get students to volunteer to make and distribute leaflets? I know the art students especially would like to make something with their name on it, especially if they need a project to put in their portfolio. You could even make information packages yourself. I'm in the UK and planning on doing this here, maybe it's a nice idea for you over there too? Something to REALLY get the word out.
If not, how about filming at the shelter - something shocking, but not gross or extremely upsetting - and sticking it up on YouTube to raise awareness for everyone who sees it? Make an account. Maybe follow the lives of kittens in the shelter.. it would be pretty upsetting though, obviously. And if it's too upsetting, people wouldn't watch it. It would have to be very careful.
Expense is also a problem, along with lack of knowledge - not because it's too high a price, but because people think they deserve nights out more than their pets deserve to be safe. I have no idea how to combat this one. Maybe once people know the dangers, and know poor cats are getting killed and haveno where to live, they may rethink whether they really need that weekend break to the seaside?
As I said, the expense thing never made sense to me - I've neverhad a problem with the money to get my cats fixed. I can't see into the mindset of someone who would get a cat not knowing how theyre gonna pay fees.
If they want cute little animals running around, without much responsibility on the fees side - they should foster. People usually get kittens for their children on a whim, not knowing what they're gonna have to pay for. Reality check people: Kids get bored of animals at young ages. if your child likes cats and kittens, foster some. That way, your child will get to play with alot of kittens, and when they get bored *bam* you get a new foster family to look after, and the kids happy again. Oh look! We have a ginger tabby family this time! The other family were black and white!
I'm going to stop now. I'm starting to feel bitter and I'm going to look mean.
EDIT: I've just been thinking about different mediums - is there a suitable newspaper you can get in contact with, maybe do a feature or even a bi-monthly article? Newspapers pounce on stories of 'poor, cute little animals' because they know it tugs on readers heartstrings, and at the same time, people could read and gain knowledge?
Might think of doing that myself... You can put in pictures and all sorts. If you get the chance to do an article, maybe do it from the cats point of view?
I cannot think of one good reason NOT to have my cat spayed or neutered. Spaying prevents unwanted litters that end up in the pound or stray. Spreading disease that can spread to other cats. If spaying a cat before a litter is born it will prevent mammary gland cancer. The female cat will not roam at hunt for a male and the behavior is more acceptable to an owner.
Neutering prevents roaming, fighting and injury caused by this behavior. It prevents testicular cancer as well as prostate cancer. It also prevents males from impregnating the female causing unwanted and uncared for litters. Public service announcements help but cities need to get more involved, by sending letters to residents about the proper care of animals. Door to door volunteers would also make an impact just by talking with pet owners face to face. Many people don't feel that they can afford the spaying or neutering. The cost must be more reasonable for lower income individuals.
And of course, there are those who believe that a pet is a pet and it is unnecessary to spend extra money toward the pets welfare as they can be replaced. This is ignorance and programs are need to enlighten these people.
Hopefully, this situation will change someday but I don't think that it will happen soon as it is not looked at as a priority to many individuals.
Relationship advice!!! mature people only please?? kind of long so bear with me?
Ok so I met this girl a couple of months ago..we started dating and have been for about 3 months now. She is 3 yrs older than me..I'm 21. Before we got together she was kind of hesitant she said she wasn't over her first bf (im her 3rd) and she didn't want to hurt me. Somehow she changed her mind and we ended up being together. Once we got together I asked about her second bf she said they broke up because she was kind of bored and she thought she was over her first but she wasn't. She said her 1st was always on her mind when she was with him but she still dragged the relationship for 9months and finally broke up with him. This has made me extremely insecure. She also said she usually gets bored with guys within 4months. More insecurity. Insert a couple of fights and flash forward to now. She says she loves me as a person and we talk here and there about marriage and stuff. I like her a lot and can see myself with her in the future but I am extremely insecure and don't know when she will get up and walk out on me. I call her and talk to her every chance I get. And I wanna see her whenever I can. she swears she is over her ex. We have had sex but I've been able to not perform a couple of times which I think is performance anxiety. I now feel like she is completely avoiding sexual talk and she doesn't call as much as she used to and when we talk she taunts about the sexual stuff then says she was joking when I get mad about it. i dont want to end the relationship like this i want to prove to her that i can be good in bed like i was before i met her. Can someone tell me what to do...where to take this relationship.. What to expect.. I've unintentionally cut off hanging out with friends it's just usually go to work ..look at my phone a billion times hoping she'd call..then she calls..go home...eat talk to her till she says goodnight..then go to sleep. I don't know what to do...help please I feel like she is losing interest....we dont even kiss the way we used to a couple of weeks ago...and when i want to talk to her about it she says leave it alone..stop annoying me with this ****...blah blah blah..any advice would be helpfulRelationship advice!!! mature people only please?? kind of long so bear with me?
shhRelationship advice!!! mature people only please?? kind of long so bear with me?
communication is key... tell her how you feel. If she doesn't want to talk it may not work.
shhRelationship advice!!! mature people only please?? kind of long so bear with me?
communication is key... tell her how you feel. If she doesn't want to talk it may not work.
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Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
i'm a 15 year old girl who has just moved to the HOOD
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear hiphop glam clothesDating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
you say that your not trying to stereotype anybody, but that is an stereotypical question. just be yourself. dont date anybody that you know is not good for you. there are good guys and girls that live in the hood.Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
Just go up and talk to people. The best thing is to get out of your shell. Nothing too bad is going to happen to you.
no matter where you live the ppl are the same, you approach them the same. You just be yourself and you can meet others, whether you want to date them or just make friends.
Treat them the way you would want them to treat you, as are no different than they are
it doesnt matter where you live, your still the same person inside and out and ppl will like you for who you are, as for hood kids, dont get into what they do because ppl will just judge you and be jugemental :)
Well what kind of guys do you like or what race? As a Persian women I think you would not have any problem dating I think Persian are very beautiful people. Unfortunately I have never dated a Persian men, be your self honey from your description it seems that you are very beautiful, try a Hispanic guy.
da guys are going to like anyway as long as you be real with them
and i really wanna start dating there
i am kinda still uncomfortable in my new surroundings
and i was wondering if guys will find this attractive and how will they ACT around me/ TALK to me.....and how should i REACT to them/ TALK to them
if you have nothing nice to say than please don't say anything at all
please don't be offended....i'm not trying to offend anybody
don't stereotype and also don't talk about me needing to focus on school (I get straight A's)
oh ya and i don't know if this matters or not but here's my appearance and personality:
so this is how i look-----
i'm Iranian (Persian)
long wavy dark brown hair
light brown skin
dark brown eyes
thick lips (like angelina jolie....i'm not saying this to show off)
and i have a more hour glass body shape
oh ya and i wear hiphop glam clothesDating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
you say that your not trying to stereotype anybody, but that is an stereotypical question. just be yourself. dont date anybody that you know is not good for you. there are good guys and girls that live in the hood.Dating Advice From People Who Live In The GHETTO!!!!!!!!!?
Just go up and talk to people. The best thing is to get out of your shell. Nothing too bad is going to happen to you.
no matter where you live the ppl are the same, you approach them the same. You just be yourself and you can meet others, whether you want to date them or just make friends.
Treat them the way you would want them to treat you, as are no different than they are
it doesnt matter where you live, your still the same person inside and out and ppl will like you for who you are, as for hood kids, dont get into what they do because ppl will just judge you and be jugemental :)
Well what kind of guys do you like or what race? As a Persian women I think you would not have any problem dating I think Persian are very beautiful people. Unfortunately I have never dated a Persian men, be your self honey from your description it seems that you are very beautiful, try a Hispanic guy.
da guys are going to like anyway as long as you be real with them
More advice please...I need more advice from people... I am very stressed out?
Let me give you some background on myself. I am 17 and a senior in high school. I have roughly a 3.5 gpa and have been accepted to every college I have applied to and so far have recieve an offer of 10k scholarship to one and 14k to another-with others to come soon. Okay so I get migraines 2-3x's/wk and get dizziness which causes my eyes to go black for 2-secs to a few mins. It makes it difficult to go to school so I have missed about 38 days so far this year. We are trying to get home bound (teacher comes to the house, my sister got it for a whole year for getting pregnant) but they are giving a tough time about it. We should know by today, the doctor probably will sign it. I am about to break though. My mother and step-father were talking about kicking me out of the house because this is causing them so much stress. They said they can't deal with me. I am not much more welcome at my dad's house as he gives my sister everything she wants and I end up with the short end of the stick--it would be even moreso now that the baby is there and is 10 months old. My sister came home drunk, did drugs, got pregnant, and NO ONE ever threatened to kick her out. Why is it that I get sick by something that I can't control and they want to kick me out? I can't work at your traditional stand up place. I've tried it. I almost passed out several times. What should I do? I am very upset by this. I think it may have just been better I was never born because neither of my parents have ever seemed to want me and when things get bad they always threaten calling the cops or sending me away or something. I am a good student and a good kid. What did I do wrong?More advice please...I need more advice from people... I am very stressed out?
I am amazed that your parents would even consider kicking you out because you have migranes. They are no joke. My mother suffered with migranes and she would get them about 20 days out of 30. Have you had an MRI done and a CAT scan to rule out tumors? My mom finally found whats called a beta blocker to control her migranes. I don't understand why they would call the cops if your such a good kid. Do they mean to drag you out of there? This is confusing me and I wish you would give more detail as better to help you.More advice please...I need more advice from people... I am very stressed out?
just tell them
hi linny,, ur too young to be stressed out like that and facing that kind of situation,
i hope im at your side and we'll both face it..
just keep strong and continue doing good at school..
email me if u want
Have you ever seen a chiropractor? I had severe migraines for years. I went to see a chiropractor in 1985 as a last resort, never believing that it would work. That doctor adjusted my neck and the migraines want away and have never, to this very day, come back again. Give it a try. What do you have to lose? Pain, that's what.
I dont no what to say. Dont ever feel like you shouldnt have been born because you sound like an amazing person. If you feel so down you should consider talking to a counsellor about this and they will help you feel better about yourself. I cant understand why your parents would want to kick you out for being ill but try to think about the future. Your going to a collenge of your choice and by the sounds of it your smart and will have a wonderful career. Try talking to your parents and ask them why they are treating you this way. I cant judge your parents but no one should be made to feel this way.
I don't know what to say about your parents.聽聽 They seem heartless at your current situation.聽聽 But your number one issue is to find someone who can cure your migraines.聽聽 I have known two people who had migraines but their symptoms where different.聽聽 I would suggest that you have your doctor send all ex rays, MRI and other info to a doctor who specializes in these things. I don't know where you live, but Duke University specializes in these areas. Have someone like them look at your records and give you an opinion. Hopefully they will find out what is causing your problems then your parental problems will go away. I wish I could help you more, but your unreasonable parents are not going to go away. You need to get better and then start your life away from your parents. It could be that the stress from your parents is could be making your migraines worse. Good luck.
Ask a neurologist to find you a medication that will help your migraines. You may have to try different ones, until you find the right one. Also pay attention to your caffeine intake. It may help your headache go away when you have one, or (less likely) make it worse. If you drink a lot of coffee one day, but not the next, the lack of caffeine can give you a terrible headache. If your headache is caused by muscle tension from your neck, then you may want to avoid caffeine entirely. If an aspirin makes your headache worse, then tell your doctor, as it may indicate brain bleeding (aneurysm), which can be fatal (aspirin thins the blood and causes more bleeding, causing your headache to get worse).
it amazes me how stupid parents can be. i truly think you will get to the bottom of your illness and be cured. if your parents do kick you out there is a bright side. you will find a way to finish college, and with your grades obtain a high paying job. then when they come grubbing on hands and knees you can tell them to hit the road. i have twin 17 y/o daughters and would not kick them out for any reason. good luck and nice job on your grades, you sound like a great girl.coupons
I am amazed that your parents would even consider kicking you out because you have migranes. They are no joke. My mother suffered with migranes and she would get them about 20 days out of 30. Have you had an MRI done and a CAT scan to rule out tumors? My mom finally found whats called a beta blocker to control her migranes. I don't understand why they would call the cops if your such a good kid. Do they mean to drag you out of there? This is confusing me and I wish you would give more detail as better to help you.More advice please...I need more advice from people... I am very stressed out?
just tell them
hi linny,, ur too young to be stressed out like that and facing that kind of situation,
i hope im at your side and we'll both face it..
just keep strong and continue doing good at school..
email me if u want
Have you ever seen a chiropractor? I had severe migraines for years. I went to see a chiropractor in 1985 as a last resort, never believing that it would work. That doctor adjusted my neck and the migraines want away and have never, to this very day, come back again. Give it a try. What do you have to lose? Pain, that's what.
I dont no what to say. Dont ever feel like you shouldnt have been born because you sound like an amazing person. If you feel so down you should consider talking to a counsellor about this and they will help you feel better about yourself. I cant understand why your parents would want to kick you out for being ill but try to think about the future. Your going to a collenge of your choice and by the sounds of it your smart and will have a wonderful career. Try talking to your parents and ask them why they are treating you this way. I cant judge your parents but no one should be made to feel this way.
I don't know what to say about your parents.聽聽 They seem heartless at your current situation.聽聽 But your number one issue is to find someone who can cure your migraines.聽聽 I have known two people who had migraines but their symptoms where different.聽聽 I would suggest that you have your doctor send all ex rays, MRI and other info to a doctor who specializes in these things. I don't know where you live, but Duke University specializes in these areas. Have someone like them look at your records and give you an opinion. Hopefully they will find out what is causing your problems then your parental problems will go away. I wish I could help you more, but your unreasonable parents are not going to go away. You need to get better and then start your life away from your parents. It could be that the stress from your parents is could be making your migraines worse. Good luck.
Ask a neurologist to find you a medication that will help your migraines. You may have to try different ones, until you find the right one. Also pay attention to your caffeine intake. It may help your headache go away when you have one, or (less likely) make it worse. If you drink a lot of coffee one day, but not the next, the lack of caffeine can give you a terrible headache. If your headache is caused by muscle tension from your neck, then you may want to avoid caffeine entirely. If an aspirin makes your headache worse, then tell your doctor, as it may indicate brain bleeding (aneurysm), which can be fatal (aspirin thins the blood and causes more bleeding, causing your headache to get worse).
it amazes me how stupid parents can be. i truly think you will get to the bottom of your illness and be cured. if your parents do kick you out there is a bright side. you will find a way to finish college, and with your grades obtain a high paying job. then when they come grubbing on hands and knees you can tell them to hit the road. i have twin 17 y/o daughters and would not kick them out for any reason. good luck and nice job on your grades, you sound like a great girl.
Need advice from people who have had success with cry-it-out, not a lecture from those against it!?
My 9 -week-old son often wakes crying within 15-30 minutes of being put down to sleep (sometimes for naps, but usually at night). If I pick him up, he goes IMMEDIATELY to sleep on me, and if I put him back down, it starts all over. I believe he is crying just to be picked up, becasue OF COURSE I always make sure he is changed, fed, burped, swaddled, not hot/cold, etc. I don't want to get into a habit of him sleeping only on mommy, so I am considering letting him cry it out. Has anyone done this at 9 weeks and had success with it? I need success stories and advice, not lectures if you don't support crying it out! Need advice from people who have had success with cry-it-out, not a lecture from those against it!?
9 weeks is way too early. My doctor doesn't suggest any crying before 4 months and only controlled crying to 6 months. My son is 9 months and we just started it this week. For his first 3 months he did sleep on me for all naps and we co-slept at night. Suddenly at 3 months he was ok sleeping on his own, not falling asleep on his own but I could put him down. It did not create a habit. Nursing to sleep did which is why we have started CIO, he was waking to nurse 4-6 times a night. I can handle and expect 1-2 times at night but 4-6 times was just too much.Need advice from people who have had success with cry-it-out, not a lecture from those against it!?
Be very careful of security issues for baby here. He is so little. He only wants to know you are near. He won't be this little forever Mom. Cuddle him. I have an 8 week old- same thing. Mine tends to cry in the night due to colic. I do not leave her alone, just too young yet.
I have a 4 month old who sleeps 12 hours per night and has 3 consistent naps per day, she puts herself to sleep easily, wakes up happy and her temperment is wonderful. You know why? She knows how to self-soothe. You know how? I let her cry bit from early on to learn to put herself to sleep.
I tried this with my son and when I first began this process I'd just extend the crying time by a couple of minutes. So at first I would let him cry for 5 min then the next night by 7 and then so on. Eventually it did work. Not to say it wasn't hard but I just kept at it and it seemingly worked. I also what seemed to help is that the bassinet he was in had a vibration so it felt like he was on someone. Maybe you can try that.
Good luck!!!
I know it's exhausting, but that's what being a mom is, at least for the first year or so!
No lecture, but your son is simply showing you that he needs YOU. He needs your comfort and touch. I wouldn't let him cry it out, especially at this age. A baby cries for a reason, and sometimes it's just the need of being comforted by Mommy. That need is as real as the need for food.
9 weeks is WAY too young for CIO. Be a mother and do your job. Who cares if he is crying ';only'; because he wants to be picked up?! Pick him up. He is a flipping newborn. I mean, really. Your his mother and he NEEDS you. You can't be bothered to pick him up? What in gods name is so important that you can't pick him up? If you let your 9 week old cry it out, you are lazy and selfish.
ETA: So all you want is people who are going to tell you what you are doing is right? I'm sorry but why ask a question in an open forum and try to censor the answers you get? Okay, you want me to say it nicer? What you are doing wrong. Even the biggest supporters of cry it out, including Ferber himself, say that CIO isn't to be used on an a baby younger than 6 months. Cry it out has been linked to higher rates of SIDS and stress levels in infants {called cortisol } It is your job as a mother to attend to your babies needs, ever if it's just being help. I will ';lecture'; you because you need it, obviously. You need to actually do some research on the subject. I'm sorry if I cannot find it in myself to feel sorry for you. This is what being a parent is all about. Why are you in such a rush for your baby to act and sleep like an adult?
My son cried like that at that age too. I think I slept on the recliner with him on top of me for a while, but eventually he didn't need me anymore. You might give him just a little longer to adjust to being on his own. My husband had to remind me that the baby just wanted to be close to me. I know it is frustrating.
Since he likes to sleep by you, could you get a bed side co-sleeper? He would sleep longer since he could feel you there and you wouldn't have to worry about rolling on him.
I've had great success with Non CIO, I wont lecture you, if you wish to hear about it, email me. I wont impose it on you. :o)
Whether people support it or not, health professionals dont recommend it until at least 6 months.
I think we have lost a lot of common sense in child rearing due to the fact that the average person no longer raises livestock. Back when people had cows, horses, cats, dogs, and a whole lot more (because that's just what everyone did - or at least their neighbor did), people were exposed to a lot of natural, instinct-based child-rearing.
Watch a cat who has babies. She will not leave her kittens but very briefly to wolf down some food and go potty. This is typically for the first 2 weeks (the equivalent of 2-4 months for a human). After this intense time of staying so attached to her kittens, she will only gradually stray away from them for only gradually longer periods of time.
Mamma cat sleeps with her kittens, nurses them quite often, and you will often find her snoozing while they suckle.
I've got 3 children, and my 1st is 12. I was very young when I had him and I bought into the CIO procedures that I was told to do by family and doctors. I was older when I had my 2nd and 3rd and had learned some more things from life, in general, and as a parent. We co-slept w/ #2 and #3, nursed them, and did not use CIO until they were much older (around a year) and we knew it was more of a tantrum than an infant's beckoning for momma.
Infants have real needs until between 9-12 months. It isn't until they are older that they are having tantrums or exerting their will. You will be able to decide this as your child gets older and you know their personality.
I can honestly say that I have a much deeper relationship w/ #2 and #3 (that had a more ';natural'; baby experience). I still try to develop a good relationship w/ my oldest son, but it is difficult. We just never developed that ';bond'; that comes more easily and naturally through attentive mothering (nurturing).
Okay, so there's some lecturing in my answer - but I did use CIO w/ my first one, so in sum, this is my CIO experience and views. Hope it helps.
I let me son cry it out once at 6 months because he was so tired, but he kept fighting it no matter what I did. Even if I held him or rocked him, he would cry because he was just so tired but kept fighting his sleep. 10 minutes of him fussing in his crib and he fell right to sleep. 9 weeks is kind of small to do it, but it's your baby.
Have you tried getting the shirt you wore that day and swaddle him with it? When my son would stay with one of his grandmas they would have to lay him down with one of my shirts so he'd go to sleep.
Don't be afraid that a baby that young sleeping on you will never learn to sleep on his own. My baby slept her first two months on my chest only. Once she was three months old, I nursed her, held her for a moment and put her in he co-sleeper and she slept there peacefully. When babies get older they become more comfortable being on their own - without much heartbreaking crying involved.
My rule of thumb with crying is usually: If it is five minutes or less of complaining, baby can stand that. If it is longer or the kind of sound that indicates urgency, baby needs to go back on my arms.
My daughter did the same thing and she still does sometimes. I am by no means an expert because she is my first baby but this is what I did and it seems to work pretty good. I do the same check her to make sure she is dry burped and not hungry and I place her in the crib and turn her mobile on for her to look at. She usually laughes at that and then once it turns off she whines for about 5 minutes then off to sleep she is! I hope this is helpful to you. Remember no matter what I or any of the others have said he is your son and you have to be comfortable with whatever decesion you make. Also, no child is the same so try what you want and it might work and it may not, but you will find that out. Good luck!
I think he's a little young for that. He should be old enough to sleep through the night before you consider letting him cry it out. That being said, perhaps he's cold? My son used to wake up after being put down. We would wrap him in a blanket while we were holding him and then when he fell asleep we put him down wrapped in the warm blanket. Also how quiet is his room? If it's not cold, it might be the sound of your heart that's helping him sleep. Try a white noise machine on low.
I let my kids cry it out, just keep an eye on them while they are doing it. It is actually good for them because it helps their lungs develop. (so the doctor told me) and after a handful of crying it out they stopped and went to bed in their own bed. However I did get them that teddy bear that sound like the mothers heart to soothe them while sleeping.
9 weeks is way too early. My doctor doesn't suggest any crying before 4 months and only controlled crying to 6 months. My son is 9 months and we just started it this week. For his first 3 months he did sleep on me for all naps and we co-slept at night. Suddenly at 3 months he was ok sleeping on his own, not falling asleep on his own but I could put him down. It did not create a habit. Nursing to sleep did which is why we have started CIO, he was waking to nurse 4-6 times a night. I can handle and expect 1-2 times at night but 4-6 times was just too much.Need advice from people who have had success with cry-it-out, not a lecture from those against it!?
Be very careful of security issues for baby here. He is so little. He only wants to know you are near. He won't be this little forever Mom. Cuddle him. I have an 8 week old- same thing. Mine tends to cry in the night due to colic. I do not leave her alone, just too young yet.
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I have a 4 month old who sleeps 12 hours per night and has 3 consistent naps per day, she puts herself to sleep easily, wakes up happy and her temperment is wonderful. You know why? She knows how to self-soothe. You know how? I let her cry bit from early on to learn to put herself to sleep.
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I tried this with my son and when I first began this process I'd just extend the crying time by a couple of minutes. So at first I would let him cry for 5 min then the next night by 7 and then so on. Eventually it did work. Not to say it wasn't hard but I just kept at it and it seemingly worked. I also what seemed to help is that the bassinet he was in had a vibration so it felt like he was on someone. Maybe you can try that.
Good luck!!!
I know it's exhausting, but that's what being a mom is, at least for the first year or so!
No lecture, but your son is simply showing you that he needs YOU. He needs your comfort and touch. I wouldn't let him cry it out, especially at this age. A baby cries for a reason, and sometimes it's just the need of being comforted by Mommy. That need is as real as the need for food.
9 weeks is WAY too young for CIO. Be a mother and do your job. Who cares if he is crying ';only'; because he wants to be picked up?! Pick him up. He is a flipping newborn. I mean, really. Your his mother and he NEEDS you. You can't be bothered to pick him up? What in gods name is so important that you can't pick him up? If you let your 9 week old cry it out, you are lazy and selfish.
ETA: So all you want is people who are going to tell you what you are doing is right? I'm sorry but why ask a question in an open forum and try to censor the answers you get? Okay, you want me to say it nicer? What you are doing wrong. Even the biggest supporters of cry it out, including Ferber himself, say that CIO isn't to be used on an a baby younger than 6 months. Cry it out has been linked to higher rates of SIDS and stress levels in infants {called cortisol } It is your job as a mother to attend to your babies needs, ever if it's just being help. I will ';lecture'; you because you need it, obviously. You need to actually do some research on the subject. I'm sorry if I cannot find it in myself to feel sorry for you. This is what being a parent is all about. Why are you in such a rush for your baby to act and sleep like an adult?
My son cried like that at that age too. I think I slept on the recliner with him on top of me for a while, but eventually he didn't need me anymore. You might give him just a little longer to adjust to being on his own. My husband had to remind me that the baby just wanted to be close to me. I know it is frustrating.
Since he likes to sleep by you, could you get a bed side co-sleeper? He would sleep longer since he could feel you there and you wouldn't have to worry about rolling on him.
I've had great success with Non CIO, I wont lecture you, if you wish to hear about it, email me. I wont impose it on you. :o)
Whether people support it or not, health professionals dont recommend it until at least 6 months.
I think we have lost a lot of common sense in child rearing due to the fact that the average person no longer raises livestock. Back when people had cows, horses, cats, dogs, and a whole lot more (because that's just what everyone did - or at least their neighbor did), people were exposed to a lot of natural, instinct-based child-rearing.
Watch a cat who has babies. She will not leave her kittens but very briefly to wolf down some food and go potty. This is typically for the first 2 weeks (the equivalent of 2-4 months for a human). After this intense time of staying so attached to her kittens, she will only gradually stray away from them for only gradually longer periods of time.
Mamma cat sleeps with her kittens, nurses them quite often, and you will often find her snoozing while they suckle.
I've got 3 children, and my 1st is 12. I was very young when I had him and I bought into the CIO procedures that I was told to do by family and doctors. I was older when I had my 2nd and 3rd and had learned some more things from life, in general, and as a parent. We co-slept w/ #2 and #3, nursed them, and did not use CIO until they were much older (around a year) and we knew it was more of a tantrum than an infant's beckoning for momma.
Infants have real needs until between 9-12 months. It isn't until they are older that they are having tantrums or exerting their will. You will be able to decide this as your child gets older and you know their personality.
I can honestly say that I have a much deeper relationship w/ #2 and #3 (that had a more ';natural'; baby experience). I still try to develop a good relationship w/ my oldest son, but it is difficult. We just never developed that ';bond'; that comes more easily and naturally through attentive mothering (nurturing).
Okay, so there's some lecturing in my answer - but I did use CIO w/ my first one, so in sum, this is my CIO experience and views. Hope it helps.
I let me son cry it out once at 6 months because he was so tired, but he kept fighting it no matter what I did. Even if I held him or rocked him, he would cry because he was just so tired but kept fighting his sleep. 10 minutes of him fussing in his crib and he fell right to sleep. 9 weeks is kind of small to do it, but it's your baby.
Have you tried getting the shirt you wore that day and swaddle him with it? When my son would stay with one of his grandmas they would have to lay him down with one of my shirts so he'd go to sleep.
Don't be afraid that a baby that young sleeping on you will never learn to sleep on his own. My baby slept her first two months on my chest only. Once she was three months old, I nursed her, held her for a moment and put her in he co-sleeper and she slept there peacefully. When babies get older they become more comfortable being on their own - without much heartbreaking crying involved.
My rule of thumb with crying is usually: If it is five minutes or less of complaining, baby can stand that. If it is longer or the kind of sound that indicates urgency, baby needs to go back on my arms.
My daughter did the same thing and she still does sometimes. I am by no means an expert because she is my first baby but this is what I did and it seems to work pretty good. I do the same check her to make sure she is dry burped and not hungry and I place her in the crib and turn her mobile on for her to look at. She usually laughes at that and then once it turns off she whines for about 5 minutes then off to sleep she is! I hope this is helpful to you. Remember no matter what I or any of the others have said he is your son and you have to be comfortable with whatever decesion you make. Also, no child is the same so try what you want and it might work and it may not, but you will find that out. Good luck!
I think he's a little young for that. He should be old enough to sleep through the night before you consider letting him cry it out. That being said, perhaps he's cold? My son used to wake up after being put down. We would wrap him in a blanket while we were holding him and then when he fell asleep we put him down wrapped in the warm blanket. Also how quiet is his room? If it's not cold, it might be the sound of your heart that's helping him sleep. Try a white noise machine on low.
I let my kids cry it out, just keep an eye on them while they are doing it. It is actually good for them because it helps their lungs develop. (so the doctor told me) and after a handful of crying it out they stopped and went to bed in their own bed. However I did get them that teddy bear that sound like the mothers heart to soothe them while sleeping.
Help, advice from people with asthma!?
Hi I was diagnosed with binocular asthma at 16 years old.
As long as I did not run I felt fine, well I think my asthma has caught up with me. Help does this sound like asthma?
I get short of breath, like I cant take a good full lung of breath.
I feel like I have mucus in my lungs that I need to clear my throat a lot.
I get dizzy and lightheaded.
I did go to the E.R for short of breath, like 2 weeks ago and they did a EKG and a Xray of my lungs, I was not short of breath any more when they did this, I was fine but dehydrated they said.
So If I took a puff of a inhaler Albuterol would I be OK?
Oh by the way I am 3 months pregnant.
Thanks~Help, advice from people with asthma!?
CALL YOUR DOCTOR NOW!!! Yes, this could very well be asthma. Check with him/her about what the affects of any drugs, whether Rx or OTC, will have on your baby. Your flare up of symptoms could be due to your pregnancy. It is creating stress on all your bodies' functions. When you get dizzy or can get enough air not only are you not getting enough oxygen, neither is your child. Good luck and God bless. Have a healthy baby!Help, advice from people with asthma!?
You can use the albuterol inhaler (1-2 puffs) to stop the symptoms. It does sounds like asthma. If it is asthma, then the albuterol inhaler should relieve it. That is ok for you to use when you are pregnant.
You should visit your doctor if you continue to get these symptoms so they can put you on preventer medication to decrease how often you get these symptoms.
it sounds like 2 things. Its either your asthma or it could be allergies. I noticed where I'm living at now my allergies are horrible and I can't breathe and I'm short of breath a lot.
As long as I did not run I felt fine, well I think my asthma has caught up with me. Help does this sound like asthma?
I get short of breath, like I cant take a good full lung of breath.
I feel like I have mucus in my lungs that I need to clear my throat a lot.
I get dizzy and lightheaded.
I did go to the E.R for short of breath, like 2 weeks ago and they did a EKG and a Xray of my lungs, I was not short of breath any more when they did this, I was fine but dehydrated they said.
So If I took a puff of a inhaler Albuterol would I be OK?
Oh by the way I am 3 months pregnant.
Thanks~Help, advice from people with asthma!?
CALL YOUR DOCTOR NOW!!! Yes, this could very well be asthma. Check with him/her about what the affects of any drugs, whether Rx or OTC, will have on your baby. Your flare up of symptoms could be due to your pregnancy. It is creating stress on all your bodies' functions. When you get dizzy or can get enough air not only are you not getting enough oxygen, neither is your child. Good luck and God bless. Have a healthy baby!Help, advice from people with asthma!?
You can use the albuterol inhaler (1-2 puffs) to stop the symptoms. It does sounds like asthma. If it is asthma, then the albuterol inhaler should relieve it. That is ok for you to use when you are pregnant.
You should visit your doctor if you continue to get these symptoms so they can put you on preventer medication to decrease how often you get these symptoms.
it sounds like 2 things. Its either your asthma or it could be allergies. I noticed where I'm living at now my allergies are horrible and I can't breathe and I'm short of breath a lot.
Need advice from people that have been through family court?
I need to know all of the important things to make sure i get taken care of, agreed on in family court. I have some ideas but i want ot hear from others that have been thru it. Somethings that they thought about to bring up, and somethings they wish they did at the time. Anything from general/common (such as days to see child) to details specific to your case (like no influence on making kid call another guy dad). i want to hear it all, i want to know what to ask for so i get exactly what i want and deserve. please help....Need advice from people that have been through family court?
Spell everything out (emphasis). Times from when to when and days for visitation, summer vacations with whom and when and how much notice to either spouse. All holidays, including birthdays and mother's day/father's day, child support through high school or until the child reaches 18, college expenses, medical expenses. I got into a big fight with my ex and back to court over who pays for routine checkups and emergency care. Your husband needs a policy of insurance naming you as beneficiary to ensure that you get child support in the event of his death, your lawyer will determine an amount. And, since you don't want him calling the kids 5 xs a night during a school week decide what is reasonable for calling. Good Luck.Need advice from people that have been through family court?
What do you want, that is what you discuss. Don't worry, no one is going to make you call another guy, ';dad.';
my ex-husband and I have a great visitation schedule worked out. We have joint custody, with me having residential custody.
The boys go to his house every Tuesday and Thursday from 4:00 - 8:00. They also go every other weekend, starting at 4:00 on Friday - noon on Sunday.
On the weekend the boys are home with me, he gets them on Sunday from noon - 8:00.
They never have to go more than 2 days without seeing their father this way.
Also, there is a set holiday visitation set up, but we don't go by it. We discuss what is going on with each other's side of the family and decide from there how we want to split time or whatever - whatever is going to be in the boys' best interest.
First and most important, the child is #1. Not u or the ex. Try to do what is best for the child. Have in the agreement that major medical and life altering changes have to be decided by both parents. Put a limit on how far away they can move. But do not interfere if the child decides to call another person mom or dad..If u are a good parent, that child will know who their mom/dad is. that is just a name takes much more to make u dad/mom. both parents need to put their differences aside to do what is best for the child and believe me it can be done and makes everyone involved much stronger and happier.
well I went through it with my ex husband its not all to pleasent to be honest but depending on how many children are involved there is alot to bring up , in my own case we talked about where the child was not to be (in our case there were alot of negitive people on the outside ) and my ex husband had a bad habit of taking our child and leaving him with relatives that had no buisness taking care of our child let alone there very own, Personally once you get through the tough issues the most important things to agree on is parenting time alot of the time dates are left wide open for agreement later if you have trouble with the other parent and agreeing on things its best to come up with specific dates for summer visitations like when they will start and end (most cases nonresidential parent gets 6 wks with child) and also holiday seperation weather you will get the child(ren) half of each or if you will alternate years all these details are important even if they dont seem so at the time they will be later esp for the child(ren) because they need not to be argued over all the time . as far as the other things its really hard to get into the not calling another man dad and things like that because its hard to agree on such things considering eventually it will be the childs choice not the other parent
Spell everything out (emphasis). Times from when to when and days for visitation, summer vacations with whom and when and how much notice to either spouse. All holidays, including birthdays and mother's day/father's day, child support through high school or until the child reaches 18, college expenses, medical expenses. I got into a big fight with my ex and back to court over who pays for routine checkups and emergency care. Your husband needs a policy of insurance naming you as beneficiary to ensure that you get child support in the event of his death, your lawyer will determine an amount. And, since you don't want him calling the kids 5 xs a night during a school week decide what is reasonable for calling. Good Luck.Need advice from people that have been through family court?
What do you want, that is what you discuss. Don't worry, no one is going to make you call another guy, ';dad.';
my ex-husband and I have a great visitation schedule worked out. We have joint custody, with me having residential custody.
The boys go to his house every Tuesday and Thursday from 4:00 - 8:00. They also go every other weekend, starting at 4:00 on Friday - noon on Sunday.
On the weekend the boys are home with me, he gets them on Sunday from noon - 8:00.
They never have to go more than 2 days without seeing their father this way.
Also, there is a set holiday visitation set up, but we don't go by it. We discuss what is going on with each other's side of the family and decide from there how we want to split time or whatever - whatever is going to be in the boys' best interest.
First and most important, the child is #1. Not u or the ex. Try to do what is best for the child. Have in the agreement that major medical and life altering changes have to be decided by both parents. Put a limit on how far away they can move. But do not interfere if the child decides to call another person mom or dad..If u are a good parent, that child will know who their mom/dad is. that is just a name takes much more to make u dad/mom. both parents need to put their differences aside to do what is best for the child and believe me it can be done and makes everyone involved much stronger and happier.
well I went through it with my ex husband its not all to pleasent to be honest but depending on how many children are involved there is alot to bring up , in my own case we talked about where the child was not to be (in our case there were alot of negitive people on the outside ) and my ex husband had a bad habit of taking our child and leaving him with relatives that had no buisness taking care of our child let alone there very own, Personally once you get through the tough issues the most important things to agree on is parenting time alot of the time dates are left wide open for agreement later if you have trouble with the other parent and agreeing on things its best to come up with specific dates for summer visitations like when they will start and end (most cases nonresidential parent gets 6 wks with child) and also holiday seperation weather you will get the child(ren) half of each or if you will alternate years all these details are important even if they dont seem so at the time they will be later esp for the child(ren) because they need not to be argued over all the time . as far as the other things its really hard to get into the not calling another man dad and things like that because its hard to agree on such things considering eventually it will be the childs choice not the other parent
Dear People, I need your earnest advice on this issue?
I have a girlfriend who is 26 yo. We are planning for marriage in 2 years, but I helping her to save about $100 to $200 per month. I had a hard time convince her to save up for our future. But she secretly spending away the saving account, giving excuses that she sometimes need money to buy clothes and pay her bills. And telling me that it is ok. When I hold on to atm card to prevent her from withdrawing. And sometime when ask her to put money into it. (I have no access to her account)She will say I am extorting her and say it is none of my concern. What would you do if you will me. In Singapore buying house and marriage need lump sum of money. If I don't help her save, end of the day I will be paying for everything, right. (Cost of living is high) Feeling helpless...Dear People, I need your earnest advice on this issue?
Ask her if she is serious about marriage? See what her reaction is and if it correlates with what she is saying. Express to her that you are not trying to control her in any way by means of keeping her card, but that you really want to help her with learning how to save money and that it is important for her to do if she wants to be married to you. Tell her that if she wants to be with you she has to learn self-control in the aspect of money and if she can't do it right now, that the wedding may need to be post-poned until the funds are ready.Dear People, I need your earnest advice on this issue?
You must be crazy giving her this money.She can't be trusted and she's using you.Wake up.
If you still want to save the money with her,then start your own account and have your own card and don't give any to her.Let her save in her own account and you in yours.You can put it together when you get married.
If you can't trust her now,how are you going to trust her later? I would make sure you have this all sorted out before you ever think of marrying her.You really need to find out what her intentions are.Doesn't sound to me like she is planning on getting married to you.
Good Luck.
She's not willing to go the distance and is causing strife between you. Granted yes, its her money her choice, but I am under the assumption that this isn't a control issue but a matter of way of succeeding. Do yourself a favor and let her spend the money, save yours and start ';shopping'; for a new girlfriend. She's not mature enough to control herself or you are too controlling over her, find someone that can meet you halfway in your plans, she doesn't want to.
Uh oh, youve got a big spender here. I can understand, I LOVE to shop and got myself into debt during college, but as you get older you are supposed to wise up and realize you need to save for the future. Why dont you tell her to save a certain amount and then you will marry her?
First it's a fantastic idea to save money for your future. However I would forget the 2 year date. I would set the goal to be a dollar amount instead. There is little incentive for her to save if you're getting married in 2 years regardless of how much you've saved,
Keep in mind that people are at their best when you're dating. There is no expectation that her finances of spending habits will improve. This is the best she will ever be. Also the #1 subject married couples argue about is money. If you can't live with someone who's unable to control their spending maybe marriage isn't a good idea.
your girlfriend should never have any access to your account. My mother works at a bank and the wisest thing to do is to wait until your married then share the account.
Ask her if she is serious about marriage? See what her reaction is and if it correlates with what she is saying. Express to her that you are not trying to control her in any way by means of keeping her card, but that you really want to help her with learning how to save money and that it is important for her to do if she wants to be married to you. Tell her that if she wants to be with you she has to learn self-control in the aspect of money and if she can't do it right now, that the wedding may need to be post-poned until the funds are ready.Dear People, I need your earnest advice on this issue?
You must be crazy giving her this money.She can't be trusted and she's using you.Wake up.
If you still want to save the money with her,then start your own account and have your own card and don't give any to her.Let her save in her own account and you in yours.You can put it together when you get married.
If you can't trust her now,how are you going to trust her later? I would make sure you have this all sorted out before you ever think of marrying her.You really need to find out what her intentions are.Doesn't sound to me like she is planning on getting married to you.
Good Luck.
She's not willing to go the distance and is causing strife between you. Granted yes, its her money her choice, but I am under the assumption that this isn't a control issue but a matter of way of succeeding. Do yourself a favor and let her spend the money, save yours and start ';shopping'; for a new girlfriend. She's not mature enough to control herself or you are too controlling over her, find someone that can meet you halfway in your plans, she doesn't want to.
Uh oh, youve got a big spender here. I can understand, I LOVE to shop and got myself into debt during college, but as you get older you are supposed to wise up and realize you need to save for the future. Why dont you tell her to save a certain amount and then you will marry her?
First it's a fantastic idea to save money for your future. However I would forget the 2 year date. I would set the goal to be a dollar amount instead. There is little incentive for her to save if you're getting married in 2 years regardless of how much you've saved,
Keep in mind that people are at their best when you're dating. There is no expectation that her finances of spending habits will improve. This is the best she will ever be. Also the #1 subject married couples argue about is money. If you can't live with someone who's unable to control their spending maybe marriage isn't a good idea.
your girlfriend should never have any access to your account. My mother works at a bank and the wisest thing to do is to wait until your married then share the account.
Thankyou to all you great people for your kind advice?
i would like to say a big thankyou to all you lovely people out there for taking the time to give me advice.i would just love him to see me now ive lost a lot of weight had a new hair style and changed my wordrobe id love him to see what hes trown away.thankyou once again traceThankyou to all you great people for your kind advice?
congrats! and thank youThankyou to all you great people for your kind advice?
Do not throw it away on another man. Keep it for yourself.
you go girl! Mr right is out there just keep a positive outlook . I am so proud of you.
If you like you, the right guy will too.
congrats! and thank youThankyou to all you great people for your kind advice?
Do not throw it away on another man. Keep it for yourself.
you go girl! Mr right is out there just keep a positive outlook . I am so proud of you.
If you like you, the right guy will too.
Atheist what is your advice for religious people?
leave your god as soon as passable , that's a trickcoupons
I like to give advice and help people??
And I really think the human mind and how it works is very interesting. I've grown up all my life seeing people I care about suffer from depression, bipolar, etc. So now I have a strange, intense passion for wanting to help people like that as a career. I am able to handle my emotions relatively better than most people, and I don't think I would be affected by my patients that much. Would I make for a good psychlogist??I like to give advice and help people??
Same here, I have started to figure out that my real passion is helping people and giving them advice. I love analyzing and searching answers to questions. I always give advice to my one friend when she talks about her problems and we figure things out together. Lol, I waste a lot of time on Y! Answers giving people advice. Anyway I've been thinking about studying psychology.
I think that you would make an excellent therapist or counselor if you have a passion for helping people and giving advices. If you have a talent for interpreting and analyzing problems, it's going to be a good job for you.I like to give advice and help people??
Maybe if you like what you do and put efforts on it and if your will greater than your ego. you will be a good psychologist.
Well, your story sounds a lot like mine. Unfortunately, I failed to take into account that I'm pretty introverted and also very moody so talking to people all day is absolutely exhausting for me. The thing about the mental health field is that you have to have an idea of what you want to do so that you can pursue the correct educational tract. I have a master's degree in clinical social work and I'm a mental health therapist. I work with other therapists who have master's degrees in counseling education, psychology, and various other fields. Make sure you talk to someone who can point you in the right direction so that you don't waste your time in college taking classes that won't help you get where you're trying to go.
you have the right attitude and passion for the work...it takes a lot of schooling to get to be a psychologist but it's worth it...if you're not into the heavy school load, you could also look into other types of counseling work...social work, school counselor, drug/alcohol counselor, family therapist...
good for you if you have such a kindness heart. helping people for their needs is a nice thing to do. we don't find many people nowadays who are willing to give a hand. in fact out there a lot of people who really need our help and advice. go for your goal and make it success !
of course, first hand experience is one of the steps towards expertise
I think, more than giving advice, the most important quality for a psychologist to have is to be a good listener. If you want to talk, more than you want to listen, then the job is probably not for you.
I think you would as it's your passion. Of course, money comes second. But if money came first, then you wouldn't make half as good as what you could make with passion for helping people.
that then would be an excellent field for you.
god bless laney
i think you would....you answered one of my questions about haveing friends who were older than me and it really helped me (thanks for that by the way)
you know, i think that if you really have a passion for helping people you should definetly go for it! dont hold back on doing something you love, you'll regret it later.
if you love to help people, being a psychlogist would probably be the job that would make you the happiest
and if you have the passion and drive, i bet you'll end up helping loads of people!
so just go for it!
definitely! with the kind of passion you have for it, you could go very far and help a lot of people!
The question is whether you are ready to spend the time and money to become a psychologist:
4 years college
2 years Masters degree
4 years graduate school for Ph.D./Psy.D. (In most states you cannot be a psychologist without the Doctoral degree, internship, supervision, licensing, etc.)
So that's ten years of school, perhaps $250,000.
Hate to be discouraging, but that's the way it is these days.
Perhaps becoming a masters-level counselor would look better. You'd need to do counseling within a group, or under the supervision of, a doctoral person (M.D., Ph.D.) but you would be in a situation where you could be helping people.
Best wishes... -- Dr. Bob
Dont half a-s-s it, become a psychiatrist, then you can really help people, and you get payed more.
Yes, you can be what ever you put your mind to it.
Same here, I have started to figure out that my real passion is helping people and giving them advice. I love analyzing and searching answers to questions. I always give advice to my one friend when she talks about her problems and we figure things out together. Lol, I waste a lot of time on Y! Answers giving people advice. Anyway I've been thinking about studying psychology.
I think that you would make an excellent therapist or counselor if you have a passion for helping people and giving advices. If you have a talent for interpreting and analyzing problems, it's going to be a good job for you.I like to give advice and help people??
Maybe if you like what you do and put efforts on it and if your will greater than your ego. you will be a good psychologist.
Well, your story sounds a lot like mine. Unfortunately, I failed to take into account that I'm pretty introverted and also very moody so talking to people all day is absolutely exhausting for me. The thing about the mental health field is that you have to have an idea of what you want to do so that you can pursue the correct educational tract. I have a master's degree in clinical social work and I'm a mental health therapist. I work with other therapists who have master's degrees in counseling education, psychology, and various other fields. Make sure you talk to someone who can point you in the right direction so that you don't waste your time in college taking classes that won't help you get where you're trying to go.
you have the right attitude and passion for the work...it takes a lot of schooling to get to be a psychologist but it's worth it...if you're not into the heavy school load, you could also look into other types of counseling work...social work, school counselor, drug/alcohol counselor, family therapist...
good for you if you have such a kindness heart. helping people for their needs is a nice thing to do. we don't find many people nowadays who are willing to give a hand. in fact out there a lot of people who really need our help and advice. go for your goal and make it success !
of course, first hand experience is one of the steps towards expertise
I think, more than giving advice, the most important quality for a psychologist to have is to be a good listener. If you want to talk, more than you want to listen, then the job is probably not for you.
I think you would as it's your passion. Of course, money comes second. But if money came first, then you wouldn't make half as good as what you could make with passion for helping people.
that then would be an excellent field for you.
god bless laney
i think you would....you answered one of my questions about haveing friends who were older than me and it really helped me (thanks for that by the way)
you know, i think that if you really have a passion for helping people you should definetly go for it! dont hold back on doing something you love, you'll regret it later.
if you love to help people, being a psychlogist would probably be the job that would make you the happiest
and if you have the passion and drive, i bet you'll end up helping loads of people!
so just go for it!
definitely! with the kind of passion you have for it, you could go very far and help a lot of people!
The question is whether you are ready to spend the time and money to become a psychologist:
4 years college
2 years Masters degree
4 years graduate school for Ph.D./Psy.D. (In most states you cannot be a psychologist without the Doctoral degree, internship, supervision, licensing, etc.)
So that's ten years of school, perhaps $250,000.
Hate to be discouraging, but that's the way it is these days.
Perhaps becoming a masters-level counselor would look better. You'd need to do counseling within a group, or under the supervision of, a doctoral person (M.D., Ph.D.) but you would be in a situation where you could be helping people.
Best wishes... -- Dr. Bob
Dont half a-s-s it, become a psychiatrist, then you can really help people, and you get payed more.
Yes, you can be what ever you put your mind to it.
I need people's advice on my hair.?
K so i have blonde hair that is just past my shoulders currently, and i'm really tired of it. I want to die it a brown, and maybe get extentions? But I really like the scene look. How should i get it cut?I need people's advice on my hair.?
try low lighting it brown first to make sure ur gonna like haveing darker hair and steaks are instyle right now.I need people's advice on my hair.?
Be yourself, it doesn't make sense to ';cut'; your hair then get extentions. They are for people that can't wear their hair long naturally. Color it brown if you must, you might like it. You can always bleach it back! :) If you're going brown try';walnut';, it is a nice natural shade.
Ok so heres what you do... don't get extentions! just let your hair grow out. And keep the blonde hair... I have dirty blonde %26amp; my boy friend loves it like it is now. What im saying is you'll probably get more guys this way!! :D If you change your mind %26amp; go for somethin' else, let me know! cuz im tryin to get an idea of how i want mine cut!!!
PS Good luck with whatever you dooo!!!
sweet 13, is that your age? Its bedtime, dear
may be something like this
http://img21.exs.cx/img21/9169/long-brow鈥?/a>
or go shorter something like this
http://www.flickr.com/photos/64773739@N0鈥?/a>
I hope this helped !!!!!!!
I'm a famous singer and i do my hair like this sometimes
if you would like to contact me please visit www.freewebs.com/thesparklers and sign the guestbook asking about anything
~ The Sparklers ~
First of all, don't bother with extensions! For your own good. And becoming a brunette would be a good idea, but be very careful and DO NOT damage or ruin your hair when dying it! Also, you should do some bold but natural highlights to help get the scene look. Finally, for the cut, you should get edgy layers and side-swept bangs. Remember, clarify that your hair will work and look good with everything before you make any changes! Hope I helped and good luck! :))
I have my hair a bit like the 'scene' look except I'm a total prep. Cut your hair so you have bangs going to the side, I would recommend getting your hair a dark brown underneath, or dark brown low lights on top. I do that with my hair currently and I love it :)
Well if i were you, i would get brown hair for sure. i just got my hair cut, it was below the middle of my back. I HATED IT!!! if u want it curled it takes Forever and if you want it straight it looks kinda plain. I got mine cut to above the middle of my back. my hair stylist did top layers. she also cut around my face to frame it. It looks and feels so good. when i had long hair it had a tendency to knot up underneath EVERY night. It took a very long time to brush every morning. so if you don't mind brushing and curling it then i think extensions is a good idea,but if u get it colored and have a cute cut , ur sure to look awesome. the top layers is very in right now and it looks really cute on everybody!!
try low lighting it brown first to make sure ur gonna like haveing darker hair and steaks are instyle right now.I need people's advice on my hair.?
Be yourself, it doesn't make sense to ';cut'; your hair then get extentions. They are for people that can't wear their hair long naturally. Color it brown if you must, you might like it. You can always bleach it back! :) If you're going brown try';walnut';, it is a nice natural shade.
Ok so heres what you do... don't get extentions! just let your hair grow out. And keep the blonde hair... I have dirty blonde %26amp; my boy friend loves it like it is now. What im saying is you'll probably get more guys this way!! :D If you change your mind %26amp; go for somethin' else, let me know! cuz im tryin to get an idea of how i want mine cut!!!
PS Good luck with whatever you dooo!!!
sweet 13, is that your age? Its bedtime, dear
may be something like this
http://img21.exs.cx/img21/9169/long-brow鈥?/a>
or go shorter something like this
http://www.flickr.com/photos/64773739@N0鈥?/a>
I hope this helped !!!!!!!
I'm a famous singer and i do my hair like this sometimes
if you would like to contact me please visit www.freewebs.com/thesparklers and sign the guestbook asking about anything
~ The Sparklers ~
First of all, don't bother with extensions! For your own good. And becoming a brunette would be a good idea, but be very careful and DO NOT damage or ruin your hair when dying it! Also, you should do some bold but natural highlights to help get the scene look. Finally, for the cut, you should get edgy layers and side-swept bangs. Remember, clarify that your hair will work and look good with everything before you make any changes! Hope I helped and good luck! :))
I have my hair a bit like the 'scene' look except I'm a total prep. Cut your hair so you have bangs going to the side, I would recommend getting your hair a dark brown underneath, or dark brown low lights on top. I do that with my hair currently and I love it :)
Well if i were you, i would get brown hair for sure. i just got my hair cut, it was below the middle of my back. I HATED IT!!! if u want it curled it takes Forever and if you want it straight it looks kinda plain. I got mine cut to above the middle of my back. my hair stylist did top layers. she also cut around my face to frame it. It looks and feels so good. when i had long hair it had a tendency to knot up underneath EVERY night. It took a very long time to brush every morning. so if you don't mind brushing and curling it then i think extensions is a good idea,but if u get it colored and have a cute cut , ur sure to look awesome. the top layers is very in right now and it looks really cute on everybody!!
Are people who are in love or in a relationship,the worst kind of people to give relationship/ dating advice?
Whoever gives the advice you should always use your God given common sense.Are people who are in love or in a relationship,the worst kind of people to give relationship/ dating advice?
It just depends on the person, that is something that cannot be generalized.Are people who are in love or in a relationship,the worst kind of people to give relationship/ dating advice?
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It just depends on the person, that is something that cannot be generalized.Are people who are in love or in a relationship,the worst kind of people to give relationship/ dating advice?
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Advice from older people?
give me your best small bit of advice on life.....maybe something you learned from your mistakes or maybe something you wish had done better or found to bring you successAdvice from older people?
Dearly to study your lessons very well whatever for expansions of all your aspects. Make your beautiful dreams happen. To gain more confidence be loving and always feel loved. Choose a good crowd or circle of friends and proper surroundings that will help you shape into a better person. Don't ever feel threatened with disappoinments and miseries that may trigger your person instead take them as your life lessons to be wiser. Remember not to get defeated by sadness too. Think that you know yourself best than others do. Be always true to your heart, be creative, brave and courageous..Try to always look well and be really well inside and outside of your person. Be respectful, compassionate and thoughtful so others will respond to you too..Always stay safe, sane and dutiful. Try avoid jealousy and hate. Live a long and healthy life. Be always brightly and positively reflect on things in your mind. Have a great heart than others, then feel that joy of love and peace in your heart....And most of all Pray for safety and protection to be at your guard!!
And with my sincerity of good wishes within it,
For Yourself..Advice from older people?
thank you so much jeannie kathleen....what an encredible and insightful answer you gave me. Thank you!
1) Don't fall in love with the wrong person. It hurts.
2) Always learn from trial and errors. Better than most books.
3) If you want things to be done fast, do it yourself. You can't believe how many idiots exist in this world.
4) Love everyone but trust a few. Many people can't keep secrets.
5) Those people who depend on good looks are usually the most incompetent one. They spent too much time on their grooming and no time for studies.
I'm only 13. But I can tell you one thing.
Karma is real, very real. If something bad is happening, something good will happen some other time. Get through the hard times and there will be good after. =] Always.
And apreciate life, because it's the only one you've got. Live it and make it mean something.
face fear, dispel its myths, and explore life. there are way too many things to miss out on, truly.
Always be positive. Mind well, ';You are the architect of your own life';. live the life in 4 ways 1) Think good, 2)wish good, 3)speak good and 4) do good. I assure you that you would be the happiest one in the world.
hmmmm thats a good question!!! Try to stay positive and happy nomatter what hits you in this life. If not that then at least be able to bounce back when things go sour. Stay positive....... u need a part 2 to this question....';How to___';
Be careful whom you accept advice from.
Age is no indicator of wisdom, or even honesty.
The only thing you can be sure of...
...is the possibility that you are wrong.
You stop learning the moment you are sure you are right.
“It takes a couple seconds to say Hello, but forever to say Goodbye.” I think the author is unknown.
Listen to the advice of your elders whippersnapper!
';In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.';
Obstain from advices , kid. They lead you to live life of another, not yours...
No matter how tough life gets never give up!!
Read some Kierkegaard.
Don't be prideful.
It's already on my profile!
truth is a function of the human mind, not of things. It's never ';out there';.
When in doubt....JUMP!.....a net will appear.
trust our heart and never give up
Dearly to study your lessons very well whatever for expansions of all your aspects. Make your beautiful dreams happen. To gain more confidence be loving and always feel loved. Choose a good crowd or circle of friends and proper surroundings that will help you shape into a better person. Don't ever feel threatened with disappoinments and miseries that may trigger your person instead take them as your life lessons to be wiser. Remember not to get defeated by sadness too. Think that you know yourself best than others do. Be always true to your heart, be creative, brave and courageous..Try to always look well and be really well inside and outside of your person. Be respectful, compassionate and thoughtful so others will respond to you too..Always stay safe, sane and dutiful. Try avoid jealousy and hate. Live a long and healthy life. Be always brightly and positively reflect on things in your mind. Have a great heart than others, then feel that joy of love and peace in your heart....And most of all Pray for safety and protection to be at your guard!!
And with my sincerity of good wishes within it,
For Yourself..Advice from older people?
thank you so much jeannie kathleen....what an encredible and insightful answer you gave me. Thank you!
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1) Don't fall in love with the wrong person. It hurts.
2) Always learn from trial and errors. Better than most books.
3) If you want things to be done fast, do it yourself. You can't believe how many idiots exist in this world.
4) Love everyone but trust a few. Many people can't keep secrets.
5) Those people who depend on good looks are usually the most incompetent one. They spent too much time on their grooming and no time for studies.
I'm only 13. But I can tell you one thing.
Karma is real, very real. If something bad is happening, something good will happen some other time. Get through the hard times and there will be good after. =] Always.
And apreciate life, because it's the only one you've got. Live it and make it mean something.
face fear, dispel its myths, and explore life. there are way too many things to miss out on, truly.
Always be positive. Mind well, ';You are the architect of your own life';. live the life in 4 ways 1) Think good, 2)wish good, 3)speak good and 4) do good. I assure you that you would be the happiest one in the world.
hmmmm thats a good question!!! Try to stay positive and happy nomatter what hits you in this life. If not that then at least be able to bounce back when things go sour. Stay positive....... u need a part 2 to this question....';How to___';
Be careful whom you accept advice from.
Age is no indicator of wisdom, or even honesty.
The only thing you can be sure of...
...is the possibility that you are wrong.
You stop learning the moment you are sure you are right.
“It takes a couple seconds to say Hello, but forever to say Goodbye.” I think the author is unknown.
Listen to the advice of your elders whippersnapper!
';In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.';
Obstain from advices , kid. They lead you to live life of another, not yours...
No matter how tough life gets never give up!!
Read some Kierkegaard.
Don't be prideful.
It's already on my profile!
truth is a function of the human mind, not of things. It's never ';out there';.
When in doubt....JUMP!.....a net will appear.
trust our heart and never give up
Advice for young people, Why, so many with low self esteem about their weight, If you only knew?
CRASH DIETS ALMOST KILLED ME , THATS WHY , NOW I HAVE : DIABETES , BIPOLAR DEPRESSION, HEART RATE ISSUES , HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE , ANXIETY ISSUES ..PLEASE BECAREFUL AND THINK OF ME WHEN YOU ARE DOWN , I DO CARE !Advice for young people, Why, so many with low self esteem about their weight, If you only knew?
keep up the good work of warning others. this is somthing alot of people need to hear. i tell my friends the same thing. i'm glad you are for the most part ok and i really hope you get better. :)!
i think you are awsome for what you just wrote.:)Advice for young people, Why, so many with low self esteem about their weight, If you only knew?
dont eat that junk just have a normal diet and play a sport or run around the blok every day make a record time of how long it takes u to go around 1 time and make a record of how ur agility is improving and u will lose weight but it takes long naturlly maybe 5 more than 4 pound loss until mu can run around 5 times without getting tired then u could lose 10 pounds in just 1 month! dont starve ur self and eat bananas to lower ur blood preasure it helps alot i hope u take this advice and dont just stop on the first week ive tried this and my speed and stamina was going up and my weight was going down
I know you think you are helping people, and you could very well be helping some. However, the real people with the problems (well do I have to say it...eating disorders) aren't going to turn around their entire lives because of some comment. I know. It's a hard and confusing path for us but we love it, we know it. I'm not ready to give it up and I know a lot of others like me aren't either.
yep very true
im 16 and thanks for sharing that!
Glad you're still with us.....
SWM, meee too! I care! Moderation in all things. So glad you're encouraging young folks here. They need it! Godloveya.
Your program seems to have worked though, if you are indeed thin.
keep up the good work of warning others. this is somthing alot of people need to hear. i tell my friends the same thing. i'm glad you are for the most part ok and i really hope you get better. :)!
i think you are awsome for what you just wrote.:)Advice for young people, Why, so many with low self esteem about their weight, If you only knew?
dont eat that junk just have a normal diet and play a sport or run around the blok every day make a record time of how long it takes u to go around 1 time and make a record of how ur agility is improving and u will lose weight but it takes long naturlly maybe 5 more than 4 pound loss until mu can run around 5 times without getting tired then u could lose 10 pounds in just 1 month! dont starve ur self and eat bananas to lower ur blood preasure it helps alot i hope u take this advice and dont just stop on the first week ive tried this and my speed and stamina was going up and my weight was going down
I know you think you are helping people, and you could very well be helping some. However, the real people with the problems (well do I have to say it...eating disorders) aren't going to turn around their entire lives because of some comment. I know. It's a hard and confusing path for us but we love it, we know it. I'm not ready to give it up and I know a lot of others like me aren't either.
yep very true
im 16 and thanks for sharing that!
Glad you're still with us.....
SWM, meee too! I care! Moderation in all things. So glad you're encouraging young folks here. They need it! Godloveya.
Your program seems to have worked though, if you are indeed thin.
Do you ever thumb down answers that are heartfelt and long, give good advice just to piss people off?...?
I do. It cracks me up how they spend their precious time answering and they take it seriously, only to not have the thumbs boost their ego or whatever the hell it is that they are trying to acheive....heehee. I know* some mean well and answer form experience, but even then it's fun to thumb down, it makes them wonder!! *I THUMB IT DOWN USING AN ALIAS*SO, CHERRY BERRY ISN'T IT!Do you ever thumb down answers that are heartfelt and long, give good advice just to piss people off?...?
Wow. You're really sad. You need to get a life. Why the hell would you want to do thaT?..is it that amusing to you?..Do you ever thumb down answers that are heartfelt and long, give good advice just to piss people off?...?
How wonderful for you that this is how you get joy out of life.
How sad and hateful of you.
I just love mature people. No, I don't care about thumbs one way or the other.
Is it just me or did you just admit to using more than one yahoo id? Isn't that against the rules?
No never. I think it's horrible to do that to someone after they have genuinely tried to help.coupons
Wow. You're really sad. You need to get a life. Why the hell would you want to do thaT?..is it that amusing to you?..Do you ever thumb down answers that are heartfelt and long, give good advice just to piss people off?...?
How wonderful for you that this is how you get joy out of life.
How sad and hateful of you.
I just love mature people. No, I don't care about thumbs one way or the other.
Is it just me or did you just admit to using more than one yahoo id? Isn't that against the rules?
No never. I think it's horrible to do that to someone after they have genuinely tried to help.
I need legal advice, please only people that will help me out.?
I need to change the father on my 3 month olds birth certificate. I haven't gotten the actual certificate yet. Is there a way to change it before i receive it, or will i still have to go to court and do the whole paternity thing? What should i do, do i need a lawyer, i live in MO. Is there a place where a lawyer will work pro-bono? If so where would i find them. Is it even possible to change the father on the certificate? I want her to keep the name that she has, i just want to change the father, can you even do that? I really need some help.I need legal advice, please only people that will help me out.?
If the father that was originally named in the birth certificate is willing to consent to the change it is simply a matter of paperwork, but you will still need a lawyer. The first named father will have to renounce his rights and the other may have to apply for adoption.
If he is not consenting and there is a custody dispute you will likely need a paternity test.
Normally pro-bono lawyers do not handle such matters if it is a paperwork case. If it is a custody dispute or support dispute, you can likely find one or even get a legal aid lawyer. Contact your local law society and they can probably point you in the right direction.
If you cannot get legal aid or a pro bono lawyer, try calling local firms and ask for a lawyer who will take an installment plan. Most lawyers will do this if they know the money is forth coming by way of postdated cheques, or if you own property you can allow them to place a lien on your house.I need legal advice, please only people that will help me out.?
why would you need to do this?
The father's name on a birth certificate should be for real. If ever there is a health danger in the future of the child, then they can trace back her blood line to see if there is anyone else who has the same problem. Ring up where the certificate was sent to and ask them about editing the form sent in.
You said you need to change the father, are you gonna want to change your kid too? You shouldn't sleep around is what you should do.
If the father that was originally named in the birth certificate is willing to consent to the change it is simply a matter of paperwork, but you will still need a lawyer. The first named father will have to renounce his rights and the other may have to apply for adoption.
If he is not consenting and there is a custody dispute you will likely need a paternity test.
Normally pro-bono lawyers do not handle such matters if it is a paperwork case. If it is a custody dispute or support dispute, you can likely find one or even get a legal aid lawyer. Contact your local law society and they can probably point you in the right direction.
If you cannot get legal aid or a pro bono lawyer, try calling local firms and ask for a lawyer who will take an installment plan. Most lawyers will do this if they know the money is forth coming by way of postdated cheques, or if you own property you can allow them to place a lien on your house.I need legal advice, please only people that will help me out.?
why would you need to do this?
The father's name on a birth certificate should be for real. If ever there is a health danger in the future of the child, then they can trace back her blood line to see if there is anyone else who has the same problem. Ring up where the certificate was sent to and ask them about editing the form sent in.
You said you need to change the father, are you gonna want to change your kid too? You shouldn't sleep around is what you should do.
Dealing with jealous people need advice?
we have neighbors who are talking about my husband and i , we work all day, come home and mind our own business, we dont bother anyone, and we have a small group of friends, the woman next door is evil to the core, she claims we sell drugs and we dont, we have nicer things than her, maybe she is jealous, she hit our truck last summer and took off as soon as she did it, we were trying to be neighborly and because they are poor we havent gotten on them about the truck damage, she has told everyone on our street she hit our truck, and i dont understand why she is bragging about this, now she is telling people we sell drugs, what is her problem?? maybe i should start pressuring her into giving me money for our truck? please give some advice thanksDealing with jealous people need advice?
Some people are just unhappy people in general. Sometimes they are just bored so they need something to rant about to occupy their time. If it hasn't been too long, I'd really recommend just filing a police report and having them settle the matter with her. If they make her pay up then great. If she gets a hit and run charge, even better! That will put her in her place. Even if it doesn't and she tries anything else, then she is even more hot water.
The worst thing you can do is nothing. By doing nothing, you are empowering these people and essentially giving them free reign to do what they wish. It is time to take a stand now and say enough is enough.Dealing with jealous people need advice?
Either move or get a lawyer. Depends if you are ready for the war. Or let her talk who cares what they think. When they find out the Truth, she is the one who is going to look like the idiot. what do you care?
Let her know in a letter that you know and that you have been told by many others that shes bragging about hitting your truck, and that if she dosent stop her little accusations youl go ahead and have her charged. Just tell her that you have written statements without revealing your sources and that with them statements youl go to the police. That ought to get her mind rolling and will also shove her back in her closet, Simple. Its a demonic being that has set out to make your spiritual being miserable. Dont let it get you down. Sticks and stones as they say. There is a war going on in the spiritual world and we are all alive in it.
Some people are just unhappy people in general. Sometimes they are just bored so they need something to rant about to occupy their time. If it hasn't been too long, I'd really recommend just filing a police report and having them settle the matter with her. If they make her pay up then great. If she gets a hit and run charge, even better! That will put her in her place. Even if it doesn't and she tries anything else, then she is even more hot water.
The worst thing you can do is nothing. By doing nothing, you are empowering these people and essentially giving them free reign to do what they wish. It is time to take a stand now and say enough is enough.Dealing with jealous people need advice?
Either move or get a lawyer. Depends if you are ready for the war. Or let her talk who cares what they think. When they find out the Truth, she is the one who is going to look like the idiot. what do you care?
Let her know in a letter that you know and that you have been told by many others that shes bragging about hitting your truck, and that if she dosent stop her little accusations youl go ahead and have her charged. Just tell her that you have written statements without revealing your sources and that with them statements youl go to the police. That ought to get her mind rolling and will also shove her back in her closet, Simple. Its a demonic being that has set out to make your spiritual being miserable. Dont let it get you down. Sticks and stones as they say. There is a war going on in the spiritual world and we are all alive in it.
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