Need advice from people that have been through family court?

I need to know all of the important things to make sure i get taken care of, agreed on in family court. I have some ideas but i want ot hear from others that have been thru it. Somethings that they thought about to bring up, and somethings they wish they did at the time. Anything from general/common (such as days to see child) to details specific to your case (like no influence on making kid call another guy dad). i want to hear it all, i want to know what to ask for so i get exactly what i want and deserve. please help....Need advice from people that have been through family court?
Spell everything out (emphasis). Times from when to when and days for visitation, summer vacations with whom and when and how much notice to either spouse. All holidays, including birthdays and mother's day/father's day, child support through high school or until the child reaches 18, college expenses, medical expenses. I got into a big fight with my ex and back to court over who pays for routine checkups and emergency care. Your husband needs a policy of insurance naming you as beneficiary to ensure that you get child support in the event of his death, your lawyer will determine an amount. And, since you don't want him calling the kids 5 xs a night during a school week decide what is reasonable for calling. Good Luck.Need advice from people that have been through family court?
What do you want, that is what you discuss. Don't worry, no one is going to make you call another guy, ';dad.';
my ex-husband and I have a great visitation schedule worked out. We have joint custody, with me having residential custody.


The boys go to his house every Tuesday and Thursday from 4:00 - 8:00. They also go every other weekend, starting at 4:00 on Friday - noon on Sunday.


On the weekend the boys are home with me, he gets them on Sunday from noon - 8:00.


They never have to go more than 2 days without seeing their father this way.


Also, there is a set holiday visitation set up, but we don't go by it. We discuss what is going on with each other's side of the family and decide from there how we want to split time or whatever - whatever is going to be in the boys' best interest.
First and most important, the child is #1. Not u or the ex. Try to do what is best for the child. Have in the agreement that major medical and life altering changes have to be decided by both parents. Put a limit on how far away they can move. But do not interfere if the child decides to call another person mom or dad..If u are a good parent, that child will know who their mom/dad is. that is just a name takes much more to make u dad/mom. both parents need to put their differences aside to do what is best for the child and believe me it can be done and makes everyone involved much stronger and happier.
well I went through it with my ex husband its not all to pleasent to be honest but depending on how many children are involved there is alot to bring up , in my own case we talked about where the child was not to be (in our case there were alot of negitive people on the outside ) and my ex husband had a bad habit of taking our child and leaving him with relatives that had no buisness taking care of our child let alone there very own, Personally once you get through the tough issues the most important things to agree on is parenting time alot of the time dates are left wide open for agreement later if you have trouble with the other parent and agreeing on things its best to come up with specific dates for summer visitations like when they will start and end (most cases nonresidential parent gets 6 wks with child) and also holiday seperation weather you will get the child(ren) half of each or if you will alternate years all these details are important even if they dont seem so at the time they will be later esp for the child(ren) because they need not to be argued over all the time . as far as the other things its really hard to get into the not calling another man dad and things like that because its hard to agree on such things considering eventually it will be the childs choice not the other parent