Im trying to get to know my boyfriends mother better, but its awkward & we both arent outgoing people, advice?

I have been with my bf for over a year now %26amp; havent been around his mother too much except for family functions %26amp; stopping over her house once in awhile. She is a nice person, but not as outgoing as some of my ex's mothers were %26amp; more of a speak when spoken to type of person. I am a bit shy in social situations %26amp; when my boyfriend leaves the room, there is an awkward forced conversation between the two of us which leaves me cringing inside %26amp; I find myself trying to use excuses not to have to visit his mom very much which in turn kind of frustrates my bf %26amp; rightly so, he is very close to his mom. I plan on marrying my bf, so its important for me to have a good relationship with his mom. Im just curious if there is any tips or advice on how I can get to know her better %26amp; feel comfortable about it since Im kind of shy %26amp; socially anxious %26amp; she isnt as outgoing as I would like, any advice would be appreciated!!!Im trying to get to know my boyfriends mother better, but its awkward %26amp; we both arent outgoing people, advice?
maybe try askin your bf about what she likes to talk about, what sorts of books, music, blah blah blah shes intereted in. maybe you'll findtht you both are interested in the same thing so that way you'll have somthing to talk about.





try and rember that shes just as shy as you are :) so shes probably thinking the same things as you :)





if it turns out that the 2 of you just dont relly get along, then try not to worry about. not many people get along with their partners parents. i know it would be best if you do, but hey in the end you dont haveto live with her and she dont have to ive with you :)Im trying to get to know my boyfriends mother better, but its awkward %26amp; we both arent outgoing people, advice?
Maybe she feels the same way you do. I would find out what she is interested in and make a date for all of you to go out together, and bring a girlfriend with you to help break the ice a bit;)
Unless you're engaged, you're out of line. Withdraw.
just relax may be your trying to hard,any way your not marring her so whats the problem,just greet her every time you see each other,
you should keep chatting with her....


like a ladies talk....make her see that you like her..you are having fun talking with her. shop with her sometimes... if not, shop for her sometimes...


good luck
just bite your tongue. dont try to be cool with someone you would get along with.over time you all will warm up to eachother
watch the news, read the paper.. and then you will have something to talk about.. like did you hear about ... oh no well this is what happen.. blah blah blah.. good luck
WHY WOULD U WANT TO MEET HIS MUM!
omg thats just like me!! if you find an ansewer tell me..lol
Since you plan on marrying someday (he is planning to marry you too, right?) then you are right in trying to get to know her better. Perhaps you could arrange to do something fun together, just you and she. Go get pedicures, or to a paint-your-own-ceramics studio, or a crafts class like jewelry-making or drawing. It would give you something else to focus on besides having to make conversation 100% of the time. (It's the same approach I recommend for first or second dates, too, which can be awkward, so it would also work well in your situation.)
U are not forced 2 be friend with his mum, its just knowing her, and respecting her. U don't have 2 spend much time together and go out. What u have 2 do is only to be in her good books. If u are around her, talk if she makes a conversation and try to feel free, its better if u don't talk much cause u may end up saying things u didn't wanna say. So just drop by anytime your boyfriend ask u too, if he made something to eat, wash dishes after, and show respect.
Relax she probably feels the same way that you do. The best thing to do is smile and be honest about things you talk to her about don't try to impress her just be yourself. Make sure that you ask your BF what type of things she is interested on and look some stuff up on the web or keep and eye out for funny shows or the news and bring it up to her you'll be surprised of how little it takes to get someone to talk. Everything is cool you got this. Hey, at least your trying right. ;)
I think if you are interested in your boyfriend it is important to have a good relationship with his mom as you have rightly put it. Since you are aware that she is not much of a conversationist, she too must be having apprehensions - you could break the ice by extending a hand of friendship. For this time and effort are necessary. May be you take something along the next time you go to meet her. It could be flowers, or something you cooked, or a book which she may like. You could take up a conversation from any of these and take them forward. You could ask her about your bf's childhood and what type of a kid he was, photos etc...

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