I'm shy and have problems approaching people, advice?

For some reason I'm so shy at school and when meeting new people, when I'm at home or with people I know somewhat well I'm a completely different person. I'm a loner in some classes and it's depressing, cause I wanna be able to talk to people. I think it's cause I'm uncomfortable at school or I'm scared of what people think of me or of being rejected. I tried a couple of times to get over it, but I just can't make myself just walk up to a group and talk to them or stuff like that, any advice?I'm shy and have problems approaching people, advice?
Good for you for reaching out and trying to find help for this challenging situation.





I suffered from painful shyness in school and even into adulthood. Some people are just 'shy' and some people have more of a social 'phobia'. It sounds like you are dealing with basic shyness, which is still serious enough to cause you to feel like an outsider.





I speak from experience, so I understand!





One of the things about being shy is that you are focused on your 'self' or your 'concept' (usually negative) of yourself that you may, or may not feel others feel about you.





You may be projecting people won't like you (a shy person's angst indeed!). You have to give people a chance honeypie.





It sounds blase, but there is an old saying ';what you think of me, is none of my business';. In other words, not everyone is liked by all, no matter how incredible they are.





It's your job to see who YOU like and want to be around. Put yourself in the driver's seat this time.





One of the best ways to overcome this, is to take the focus off yourself, start to look around you and start asking others about themselves. Even saying something stupid about the weather or a test is always an opener. That is how most conversations get started.





Not everyone just develops instant rapport w/others and make best friends immediately. It takes time.





It sounds easy. It isn't to start with, but all it takes, are tiny little moments strung together.





People like nothing more than to talk about themselves my dear! So ask, ask away.





I understand what it is like to be afraid to just walk up to people and start talking. I would ask you then...are there any subjects/interests that you are passionate about or interested in? This is a simple way to be with people in the same boat as you and opens the door to have a simple 'in' to talk to people.





Having a camera is a fantastic way to get people talking to you and see you as creative and interesting! Plus, if you take their picture for 'an art project', you will instantly just strike up a conversation. If they are worthy, they will eventually ask about you too, and then you could have a friendship.





Almost everyone is afraid of being rejected. Just knowing that alone, can help you realize that a TON of people hold this fear. If you look at others as though they are afraid too, it might help. Do you know movie stars and celebrities, teachers etc, are almost always terrified before they perform. Terrified of rejection. You are not alone darlin!





You may be a fantastic listener or...you may be a fantastic story teller. Neither is better or worse than the other. They are just gifts to share in the world.





Talk to a school counselor. They can offer you support and possibly guide you. Just having someone listen to your fears and give you positive feedback, is priceless.





Do you have a dog? It took me having a puppy to have a whole new world open up to me! I was still afraid to approach people, but if you have a dog, just taking he/she for a neighborhood walk to a park or agility training etc. opens up a whole new world. It will help you tremendously as every single person that passes you, will just start to talk to you. It will become easier to talk to people just by focusing on the dog. You may not have a dog, but it is definitely something to consider. I can't tell you how I suffered my entire life from shyness, until I got a dog!





Don't give up, keep researching the internet, don't 'do' the internet as a way of having 'friends', as this can be dangerous and give you a false sense of friends.... when what we really need is human contact.





Every night before you go to bed, sit a few minutes, close your eyes and visualize yourself surrounded by friends, laughing and talking and having fun. Do not worry about HOW this will happen. Just see it and FEEL how good it feels and how easy it is. I know it sounds hokey, but it can help ease your fears and move you forward.





I wish you all the best and trust that simply because you asked, implies your true heart's desire. What you desire, you can achieve, so keep your desires alive, and you WILL achieve your dreams.





Don't give up honey, most of us are in the same boat and some just have to work harder at learning a new social skill. I'm sure you are a wonderful person, so keep the faith and I hope something, anything in my long answer, helps you.





I'm shy and have problems approaching people, advice?
I am like that as well, but I have learned that there are other people such as yourself and someone has to get the guts to talk to one another. I have met a ton of awesome people by just starting a random conversation. Some of my friends think that this is crazy, but it has worked at times. I still am shy, but there are situations that call for forwardness. Good Luck, just be yourself and people shall come... hehe ';If you build it they will come';
yeah I was like that the first year college I didnt know anyone cuz I was from a different state but I got tired of not knowing anyone just ask questions to whom ever is sitting next to you then after class ask where are you going now? you want to get some starbucks? its simple but you have to have confidence if not you could never do it. I wish you luck! and i give you a challenge! say hi and ask a question to 3 people in one of your classes!!!!!!
First of all... Don't worry about what people think of you. This is a natural feeling some kids (like myself) get or got in school. Don't do anything that you wouldn't normally do to try to be popular. Just be yourself and if they don't like it bump them.. because your not living your life for them, you are living your life for you.
i used to be like you but then i decided to meet the most un shy person and we became friends so she taught me how not to be shy and so now im saying hi to people i dont even know so if theres someone who is not shy then just start hangin out with her or him
SAME HERE PEOPLE WILL PROBABLY COME TO U OR JUST SMILE AT EVERY1 AND BY CHANCE THEY'LL INVITE YOU OVER TO HANG



try drinking some alcohol before hand, it should loosen you up!
Look, I had the exact same problem (and I still suffer from major shyness, though not as much), and I know where you come from. It is true that many people are very rude and some will ignore you, or mock you, or whatever if you approach them. But others will be kind and respond to you. One of the hardest--but most essential--things you need to do is let go of your fear (or rather, shyness) and approach others. Trust me, it took a lot of courage to ask out the girl I like, but when she said yes, I felt on top of the world. And afterwords, I grew more bold. I wasn't so scared when it came to talking to people anymore, and while some people are rude if you talk to them (that's an unavoidable truth), many will be nice, just as long as you treat them well also. Sorry if I sound like I'm only spewing garbage that everyone tells you, but it's true.





Good luck.